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First ask everyone a question: If the department asks to accompany the leader to drink with a dinner, is forced to reply to the leader's messages and emails full of sexual hinting, and is required to wear sexy and exposed clothes at work... Such an unreasonable request for that is embarrassing and uncomfortable, , will you patiently accept or decisively refuse?
I'm afraid many people have such experience. When talking to people around them, they will be replied: "The other party is just joking, don't be too sensitive..."
But is this really the case?
Today I want to share with you the second season of the Korean drama " even if it is sensitive " (workplace chapter). Compared with the campus chapter in the first season, workplace life seems to be more realistic and cruel.
This season still continues the short and capable route, with a total of 10 episodes, each episode is a theme, telling the story of various unfair treatment, gender discrimination, and leaders' sexual harassment , etc. Their in the play made a strong counterattack.
Maybe this drama can tell us how to deal with these problems and protect ourselves.
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"Women are troubles"
heroine Liu Shanyao and two classmates and friends Cui Baoying and Jiang Yunzhu joined Shengshi Group, who had always dreamed of Shengshi Group. With a longing for a career in the workplace and a passion for their dreams, they began their internship life.
But unexpectedly, on the first day of joining the job, Shinyao suddenly had menstruation, and she was completely unprepared. Faced with the section chief's generous speech at the meeting, she couldn't listen at all because she was worried that menstrual blood would stick to her pants and stools...
I have to say that such psychological activities may be experienced by most girls when they have menstruation. But she was criticized by the minister after the meeting: "I'm not a child anymore, can't I adjust it?"
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Menstrual period is not a faucet, can you turn it on whenever you want, turn it off whenever you want?
Not only that, girls also have to take on trivial things like washing cups and delivering coffee, but male interns at the same time will not be asked to do these things; the direct leader, Agent Hong, was about to get married, and the minister immediately used this as a reason to transfer the project that Agent Hong had worked hard to follow up for several months to another male colleague, and complained casually: "Women are trouble."
company promotes new chocolate products, requiring female employees to wear sexy and exposed clothes to attract male customers...
If these are nothing, the most unbearable thing may be workplace sexual harassment .
Sexually harassed by your boss during a party
A department dinner, the minister asked the men and women present to sit in a row. Although the colleagues felt uncomfortable, they had to obey. Shining, who happened to be sitting next to the executive, naturally became a "wine pouring machine". While pouring wine, she also comforted herself: I mean to say hello to the executive, right? Think about the benefits.
But unexpectedly, after drinking a cup, the executive handed over the cup he had just used to Shinyao: You should have a cup too! Although he was disgusted, Shinyao still drank this drink in order to save his job.
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But what's even more unbearable is that the executive actually started to touch his feet and shamelessly extended his hands to Shining legs and shoulders...
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Shan Yao could only get up in panic, pick up the microphone and start singing. After singing a few songs, the nervous mood finally eased, but the executive refused to miss any opportunity to harass her. He began to invite Shining to dance and reached his hand to her waist...
encountered these shining for the first time. He was obviously very annoying, but his body was as uncontrollable as it was frozen.
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Maybe most girls will fall into a state of at a loss when encountering this situation. Physical and psychological disgust is often unable to withstand the sadness and helplessness of being in the workplace .
"You seduced me first"
Shanyao unexpectedly learned that an SNS account he had followed a long time ago was the account of Section Chief Che of the Marketing Department. He often shared some very thoughtful content in the account. In addition, Section Chief Che has strong work ability and is very gentlemanly. He is a perfect man recognized in the company, so Shinyao respects him very much.
After that, Section Chief Che often sent some examples, news, etc. about the marketing department to Shanyao, hoping to help her work. Shanyao couldn't help but sigh: Section Chief Che is such a good person!
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Until Che Keche sent a message in the middle of the night, hoping that Shinyao could help him choose gifts for a female friend. Although it was already very late, considering his identity as a leader, Shinyao reluctantly agreed, but unexpectedly received two sets of sexy underwear pictures...
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Since then, Shinyao will receive "weird" messages from Section Chief Che every night. Later, he became more and more eager to send an email to Ran Yao during working hours. The attachment was a woman wearing sexy underwear...
Shinyao turned her head to look at Section Chief Che with an angry and puzzled look, but he responded unscrupulously to a smile.
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Although I feel terrible and disgusting, when I think of telling things out, I feel like I will become that strange person, and it is possible that I will be fired before the internship is over. Even if I won't be fired, Chief Che is the person who evaluates her internship, so I can only endure it silently.
Of course, Section Chief Che won’t give up easily. Not only did he start to send messages frequently to invite Shinyao to drink, but he also blocked her in the conference room when she was working overtime, asking: “Didn’t you say you like me first, and seduce me first?”
When the harasser holds the right to stay and leave the victim, it seems that only "breaking teeth and swallowing blood" is the best choice. Will say it and get help and treated fairly? If we resist, can the company stay? Many people who have experienced sexual harassment in the workplace may have such concerns.
What should we do when faced with sexual harassment in the workplace?
Will we only be able to swallow our anger in the face of workplace sexual harassment?
Survey data shows that as of 2016, 50.66% of women in China have experienced sexual harassment in the workplace, but what is sad is that Most female victims chose to remain silent (as high as 82.7%).
Among the 150 female respondents who have experienced sexual harassment in the workplace, 90.7% have been sexually harassed by their bosses or colleagues, and 26.7% of women have also experienced sexual harassment from their bosses and colleagues.
Many times, sexual harassment is considered a subjective consciousness. When sexual harassment really happens, public opinion will first point to: do girls think too much, and even comment on whether certain behaviors/words/wear of girls play a key role in it, but don’t think about it more about the self-indulgent and self-righteousness of some men, just like Chief Che in the play can’t even tell the difference between admiration and respect.
Even if the person involved responds on the spot, he will be ridiculed by the other party: "I'm just kidding! I think you look very similar to my daughter, so I'm like this!" The fact is that some people praise their daughter's legs as beautiful as they look. Should they show off more?
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In fact, in order to protect citizens' personal personal rights from infringement, the " Civil Code of the People's Republic of China" has clearly stipulated the civil legal liability for sexual harassment , that is, if violates the will of others and sexually harass others through words, text, images, physical behaviors, etc., the victim has the right to request the perpetrator to bear civil liability in accordance with the law.
As women, it is easy to be judged by people's character, but we all have the right to defend our personality and personal safety, and we should know how to respect and protect ourselves.
So what should we do when encounters sexual harassment? How to fight back?
- explicitly reject
After feeling that the other party has crossed the line, it is necessary to clearly stop the other party's behavior and express a rejection attitude. We should also be more sensitive and recognizable in daily life, and be vigilant and strengthen prevention for verbal and physical contacts that contain sexual intentions in the opposite sex.
At the same time, we also hope that the entangled person who has not received a positive reply can understand, no agreement = disagree! Instead of not rejecting = agree♀️.
- collect evidence and report to
Pay attention to keeping relevant mobile phone text messages, chat records, etc. as effective evidence, and provide evidence by retrieving surveillance videos, witness testimony, etc.
- Enhance your psychological confidence
When we encounter sexual harassment, in order not to face such facts, we will comfort ourselves psychologically whether we are thinking too much, but in fact, when you feel uncomfortable, don’t doubt yourself and be firm in what you feel.
- Actively seek help from others
43% of the respondents feel that the impact of sexual harassment in the workplace will cause "severe psychological stress or mental illness", and 24.3% of the respondents will feel that "fear of going to work and affecting work." Conversing with friends is a good way to relieve emotions. It is not our fault when things happen. The harasser is the one who should be punished is also the harasser.
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As bystanders, when we see sexual harassment, we should stand up in time to stop it. Even if it is inconvenient to expose it directly, we can choose to express it in a tactful and roundabout way instead of standing by.
At the end of the drama, Shining Yao finally stopped tolerating it and sent the ambiguous email sent by Section Chief Che to the company's owner with one click, allowing everyone to see the true face of the vulgar man.
was once again verbally harassed, boldly questioned the executive and ministers, and with the support of friends and the testimony of colleagues, the collected evidence was sorted into a post "reporting sexual harassment of Shengshi Group Sales Group" and posted it online. Once the post
was posted, colleagues who had been sexually harassed by the executive and ministers kept coming forward.
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other employees also want to work in the workplace without sexual crimes, so they started the demonstration. Subsequently, the company organized a special inspection team to talk and investigate Section Chief Che, Minister and Executive Officer, and finally fired them all . In the personnel recruitment details, also removed from the gender requirement item.
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You see, the change has begun in our rise and resistance~
If these details were not magnified and before being taken to the screen, many people might not realize that they had been offended so much or offended others so much. Although we are in the workplace, it does not mean that we must compromise . We must clearly know the boundaries between people. When encountering things that touch the bottom line of principles, we must be brave enough to say no! Even if that person is a direct superior or even higher.
The ending of the story is good, but sexual harassment is still hidden in the corner of our lives. People who encounter it are often circumvented by the saying "You are too sensitive", but they don't know what kind of harm this so-called "small" social phenomenon will cause! Therefore, in the face of sexual harassment, please believe that "even if it is sensitive, it's okay" .
Finally, I hope every workplace woman can be treated well and stay away from the workplace...
See here, Do you have any way to deal with sexual harassment? Welcome to leave a message to share~ Don’t forget to click Like ~
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Reference
[1]Wang Liming. Interpretation of the provisions on the regulation of sexual harassment in the Personality Rights Compilation of the Civil Code [J]. Journal of Soochow University (Philosophy and Social Sciences Edition), 2020, 41(04):1-7+191.DOI:10.19563/j.cnki.sdzs.2020.04.001.
[2]Zhang Ningdan. Nearly half of the people who have suffered from sexual harassment in the workplace choose to be patient [N]. Law Daily, 2022-04-21(004).DOI:10.28241/n.cnki.nfzrb.2022.001906.
[3]Shen Quan. Research on the legal regulation of sexual harassment in the workplace [D]. Shanghai Normal University, 2018.
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