Lemon Emotional Classroom丨Author
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Have you ever had this experience when you are in love:
Some of his behaviors make you very lost Hope, what he said hurts your heart, because you think he no longer loves you and want to break up with him;
But when you think of being together for so long, thinking of he has paid so much for you before, and you think you can try again, you can't bear to break up;
is like this, you are trapped in the entanglement of whether to break up: break up, you can't bear to leave, don't break up, you are not happy.
So, how should we judge whether a relationship should break up? I will give you three suggestions:
1. See if you gain improvement from this relationship
Good love will nourish people, give people strength, and make each other better. This is exactly the same as the saying "Love is mutual achievement, not mutual ties."
Therefore, if your condition becomes worse after falling in love with your partner, you are less and less motivated, and you are no longer as confident as before, then this relationship is consumed for you, and you can consider breaking up.
On the contrary, if you become better than before after falling in love with the other person, and you are more confident and energetic in life, then congratulations, the other person is the person you are looking for, you must grasp it well.
2. See if the other party has paid for you
Someone said that in love, whoever is serious first will lose.
From a psychological point of view, the true meaning of this sentence is: the person who gives more in love is more likely to be hurt; this is because she gives more and has a deeper bond with this relationship, so she hopes that the two of them can keep going. Once the other half is not up to standard and sees that she is reluctant to break up, she will become fearless.
To put it bluntly, your efforts will make people who already have character problems a person into an indulgent partner, and such a partner is not worth nostalgic at all. Leaving him in time is the best strategy.
Therefore, in love, if you are the one who gives more, then you must see if the other party has given you; if he rarely gives for you, or never gives for you, but consumes endlessly, then he is an indulgent person, and it is recommended that you break up with him as soon as possible.
3. See if you enjoy the process of love
The original intention of two people to fall in love is to enjoy love, gain emotional value, and gain positive strength, rather than to find yourself suffering. The so-called "deep abusive love" and "love and kill each other" are mostly plots in romance novel . After all, no one is willing to do thankless things.
Therefore, if you gain more negative emotions than positive emotions after falling in love, become less and less happy, and even feel that it is painful to be with the other person and rarely feel the sweetness of love, then I suggest you consider breaking up.
On the contrary, love brings you more positive emotions. You enjoy the time with each other, but occasionally have some minor friction with each other. Then I suggest you not miss a sincere love because of the momentary unhappiness in front of you.
In short, in addition to eliminating principled issues such as cheating, domestic violence, emotional PUA, the state of breaking up in a relationship is:
He doesn’t know your hot and cold, you can’t understand his sadness and joy. You no longer share the trivialities and bizarreness in life, and you don’t remember how long it took for the other party to ask “what you are doing”. Although you try hard to have a good relationship, you really don’t have the strength to do it, and instead become physically and mentally exhausted. Then this is the time to say goodbye to the other party.
May you cherish the people you love around you, learn to love, give love, and gain love.
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