December 15th, I just heard that Wang Leehom is negotiating a divorce with his wife Li Jinglei , and I also felt that there was nothing to write about this matter. After all, Wang Leehom just said "had different ideas and plans for the future lifestyle", so I decided to separate. The official verbal technique like
has little information, so there is no room for us to analyze.
Taiwan media broke the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, financial problems, and career development, and it is hard to say.
Unexpectedly, at 11 o'clock last night, Li Jinglei posted a long response on Weibo that you need to use a nine-dish grid to put it down:
The amount of information is too large...
After reading Li Jinglei's long article, look at Wang Leehom's statement, "In the marriages over the years, I have too many things I have done in my insufficient work."
I can only say that if the content of Li Jinglei's article is true, then the lack of it is indeed a bit too much, and it can basically form a template for a married man's negative teaching material.
Li Jinglei's article is too long. I'll help you focus on the key points and see how many mistakes Wang Leehom made.
(Wang Leehom did not respond before publication. This article is based on the fact that everything Li Lianglei said is true. If there is any reversal, I will continue to follow up.)
In the beginning of the story, Li Lianglei was only 16 years old.
6-year-old Wang Leehom asked Li Jinglei, who was still underage, for the phone call. The words were ambiguous and fancy teasing were a little inappropriate. What was even more outrageous was that Li Jinglei said that while dating his ex-girlfriend, he called himself at 2 o'clock in the middle of the night and asked if he wanted to come and sleep with him.
Later, Wang Leehom finally broke up and broke up cleanly. He dated Li Jinglei again, took the initiative to hold her hand, and naturally got together, and had sex (Li Jinglei did not write the timeline clearly here, and I was not sure whether she was already an adult at this time).
Results The next day, Wang Leehom left a sentence "I don't want to talk about feelings now"?
I wonder if you think this is particularly similar to Wu XX.
Don’t want to talk about feelings for the time being, just want to play in the world, which is also a personal choice, but a person who is a little responsible should at least explain this attitude clearly before having a relationship: I don’t want to fall in love, I just want to play, are you willing?
Then everyone respects each other's choices.
This behavior of being considerate at the beginning and only refusing to admit it after lifting your pants is true, then if it is "slack", who agrees and who opposes it?
If Wang Leehom finished speaking and turned around and disappeared from Li Jinglei's life from then on, then the story could end here.
And Wang Leehom's approach is to say that he doesn't want to talk about feelings, and at the same time he talks about his thoughts with Li Jinglei, sticky and "I love you" to her, but he just has no status.
The young and innocent Li Jinglei believed that Wang Leehom must have suffered some harm, not that he had no feelings for me, so he just gave up and half-spoken and made acquiescent to this relationship.
I have talked about in my course, what is a scum, after all, it is - neither to fulfill you nor to let you go.
Later Li Jinglei realized that Wang Leehom did not talk about feelings with her, nor was he with others. Everyone was a "good friend" - yes, a good friend like her who can say that I love you and have sex, Wang Leehom has it in many cities.
What's more exciting is that Wang Leehom has also recruited prostitutes. He confessed all this to Lee Young-Lee and said crying and "I can't control myself before, but you will be my only one in the future."
What can Li Jinglei say? After all, this is the "high-quality idol" she recognized. After being together for so long, she married Leehom Wang with the hope of "he will change everything in the future."
What awaits her was the "wonderful" married life as always - she had a party with her friends all night, sent ambiguous messages and nude photos, hooked up with married women, and continued to recruit prostitutes...
In addition to cheating and her private life is chaotic, how is Wang Leehom doing in other aspects?
Li Jinglei also wrote:
8 years of marriage, she and Leehom Wang had three children, and for this reason she gave up her work and almost all her personal life, and have been preparing for pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding.
She never thought that Wang Leehom liked the child while saying that she wanted her to have more children. , but on the child's birthday, she missed the child's important festivals. Until the child grew up, she was abandoned and had to live with her three children alone.
Li Jinglei has expected a harmonious and beautiful family life since childhood, and hopes that her children will grow up in a complete family, and it is broken like this.
At the same time, Li Jinglei also mentioned that although Wang Leehom gave her family to her over the years, with Wang Leehom's wealth, she has never bought any luxury goods. Not only did Wang Leehom's pre-marital property have nothing to do with her, but her house and car after marriage are not in her name.
Wang Leehom protects his personal property before marriage. After marriage, Leehom Lee has been a full-time housewife. In theory, family wealth is also earned by Leehom.
But we have no way to deny that The money earned by a married man must be inseparable from the efforts of the full-time housewife. The full-time housewife gave birth to children for him and shared housework, so that he could create social value without worries.
Wang Leehom tried every means to beware of her wife who had been married for many years, her mother of three children, and even as Lee Jinglei described it, she kept "doubting, humiliating, and cold violence"...
is really heartbreaking.
Finally, Li Jinglei also hinted at the real reason for the two people's divorce:
Wang Leehom wants freedom and wants to make decisions for his life and feelings.
According to the revelations, Wang Leehom said that he could not make any decisions by himself. So you have to get a divorce.
What I understand here is that divorce can allow Wang Leehom to regain control of his life. In other words, Wang Leehom attributed the reason for his troubles to Li Jinglei.
Of course, it is also possible, he just doesn't want to bear any family responsibilities.
She couldn't bear the long-term bullying, humiliation, and slander. Finally, she endured humiliation and divorced Wang Leehom. However, the overwhelming water army and comments were pouring dirty water on her, saying that she interfered in Wang Leehom's career and could not get along well with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, etc.
Seeing Wang Leehom picking herself up and continuing to be a high-quality idol in the eyes of others, Li Jinglei couldn't bear it anymore and sent this letter of counterattack.
Halo
Girls who are not familiar with the world really should not be easily confused by the so-called "personality" or "idol halo".
Li Jinglei recalled when she and Wang Leehom met, she always believed that the other party was a "high-quality idol", so she didn't have much defense and subconsciously wanted to rationalize his behavior.
But in fact, the endless scumbags in the entertainment industry have made each of us realize clearly that whether a man is an idol, whether he has a little talent and personal charm, whether he has a good character and whether he can take his relationship seriously is not directly positively related.
Of course, for Li Jinglei, who was only a teenager at the time, it was indeed not easy to distinguish this.
This is also the second inspiration I want to say. Perhaps age is not a problem in the face of true love, but Young girls are often at an absolute disadvantage when facing men who are much older than you - experience, social experience, and ability to recognize people. Young girls are usually crushed.
This is destined to be a greater risk.
So if possible, I don't recommend girls to enter this hard mode from the beginning.
talks about cheating.
Is there only 0 times and countless times? Just make sure.
But I really agree with A girl finds that the man cheats before marriage, don’t worry about any of his words, take a taxi immediately, and never get married to a man who already has a similar "crime".
There is no other reason, because this is your best stop loss opportunity.
Finally, it is a common topic. No matter how rich or capable your man is, you can tell you how many sweet words you want to "raise you", and don't be a full-time housewife if you can't be a full-time housewife.
You can have children with him, but don’t sacrifice your personal life completely to have more children.
What the full-time housewife lacks is not only money, but also handing over his lifestyle and a large part of his ability to control himself to others.
As Li Jinglei said herself:
The full-time housewife's work is very hard and is an important support for the family, but it is unpaid.
The result is an unequal relationship, leaving women at a disadvantage and losing their voice.
This imbalance will become a fatal injury in marriage.
