I just remember that when my classmates recalled afterwards, my face was pale, with a few red marks on my face, my clothes were full of footprints, and I held the little Lingtong mobile phone that I had to protect with all my strength.

Planning / Uncle Koali

Written by / Dan

Edit / Dan

Produced by / iSP Parent School

When I was in elementary school, I rode a bicycle to go to my classmates' home to play. He was stopped by four or five people wearing red junior high school uniforms while passing through the small street near the school.

Now I can't remember what they did to me. I just remember that when my classmates recalled afterwards, my face was pale, with a few red marks on my face, my clothes were full of footprints, and I held the little Lingtong mobile phone that I had to protect with all my strength.

That was the first time I felt it, from the extreme pure maliciousness of society. I did not make any mistakes, just happened to pass there, become their target, and then be intercepted, blackmailed, beaten.

For a long time later, I was very afraid of junior high school students, especially those who wore that style of red school uniform. In order to avoid that school, I even deliberately took a detour home.

Even after I was already in high school, when I saw that red school uniform, I still felt uneasy and unconsciously walked away.

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In 2019, the movie " You, ", adapted from the novel " You, ", was released in theaters, allowing the mainstream vision to focus on this cruel story of campus - campus bullying.

Sitting in the theater, the red school uniform flashed in front of my eyes again. I was surprised to find that my shadow on that school uniform did not disappear much because of time.

"It's just a kid's fight"

"You're fine."

"It's enough if things are not thrown away"

...

How much real harm has melted into the bone marrow in the words "advice" and "advice" of parents and teachers, suppressed into the deep well of the soul, and turned into the gray dust of youth.

In the next series, iSipan Parents School will take you to systematically understand and interpret the phenomenon of campus bullying.

What is campus bullying?

Before we officially start discussing campus bullying, we first define what campus bullying is.

Although the title of campus bullying has long been generally deemed to be a kind of violent act in a certain campus context, its connotation and form have always lacked consensus. According to Jaana Juvonen and Sandra Graham, bullying mainly includes intimidation and humiliation to the target.

Typically refers to the behavior of an individual with a stronger body or having an advantage in other conditions or characteristics using the energy it possesses to intimidate, devalue and insult another body.

And on campus, this power advantage usually comes from physical and community advantages.

Simply put, it means humiliating and attacking other students through violence or gangs in the campus context

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These empirical sociologists' definition of campus bullying is accurate and concise, But reality is not a clear formula book after all, but a meaningful collection of mud and sand.

I still remember when I was trembling with my phone to call my mother, my mother's reaction was: "I didn't lose any valuables" and "I was not injured", and then I asked me to ride my bike home by myself.

Perhaps my mother does not think I was "bullying". There is no "robbery" between the children, there is only some unintentional pranks.

From the perspective of psychology, when we think about our own situation with the people around us, "bullying" should not be an "objective definition" of a high position of power, but a real negative feeling of the victim.

Are we suffering from school bullying?

In addition to direct violence, campus bullying also has a wide range of forms.

According to its occurrence medium and expression pattern, campus bullying can be roughly divided into five categories: physical injury (Physical abuse), mental abuse (Psychological abuse), verbal abuse (Verbal abuse), cyber bullying (Cyber-bullying) and sexual bullying.

These five are not clear boundaries, but often overlap and occur one after another.

In the movie, Chen Nian was hit by a volleyball team, blocked at the door of her house, and was maliciously pushed down the stairs. These behaviors were all intentional and direct physical harm caused by the bully to Chen Nian . These injuries are classified as direct bullying.

Direct bullying is often reflected in a direct and fierce confrontation. In addition to physical harm, is also reflected in threats, blackmail, insults and other forms.

In addition to this, rumors, deliberate isolation, cyber bullying, secret harm, etc. are regarded as indirect bullying. Indirect bullying has a certain degree of concealment and anonymity, and can cause harm to the victim without exposing the purpose of the bullying.

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Studies have shown that there are significant differences in the gender of bullying methods. The bullying method of boys tends to bully directly, mainly based on physical violent injury and verbal slander. Women's bullying methods are mostly based on indirect bullying. Stigmatize victims by spreading rumors and other means, thereby achieving the isolation of victims in interpersonal relationships.

When you find out:

Someone suddenly pointed at you on campus, and always attacked you with words;

You can always receive short messages that harass you and see your false negative information on the Internet;

When you find that you are always in a negative and negative state in school;

You should be wary: Have you been bullied on campus?

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