It is said that when campus bullying occurs
Everyone can't escape
Just like that sentence
When the avalanche
No snowflake is innocent
Weekly Winter Rain and Yi Yang Qianxi released last Friday
" You, You, "
and re-released several times Become a hot topic in the past few days
In addition to letting us middle-aged people review
The tragic college entrance examination and painful puberty
and the
that make people continue to reflect on
"Campus bullying"
The footage of the video has been shaking in panic
or roaring in depression
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A classmate told Chen Nian, played by Zhou Dongyu, that
is she too cowardly
Zhou Dongyu looked at him
"It's you, it's me"
Hu Xiaodie died jumping down from the rooftop
The bottom of the teaching building, her body was exposed outside
The surroundings were classmates holding mobile phones
Teaching building with slogans that motivate the college entrance examination
6
Hu Xiaodie jumped off the building
After Hu Xiaodie jumped off the building
Only Chen Nian walked up and covered her body with her school uniform
Before jumping off the building Hu Xiaodie said
"You all saw them bullying me
Why don't you talk?"
Campus bullying
involves too many lines, too many psychology
far more complicated than we think
No one can keep it alone
I also went to the cinema to watch it from beginning to end This movie
understands very well why Chen Nian, played by Zhou Dongyu,
, why was Hu Xiaodie silent when he was bullied
, and also understands her mentality that
did not immediately seek help from adults after she was bullied
, "They will ask, why did they pick you?"
Police interrogation room, Chen Nian said to the female policeman with a big belly
, "Are you willing to let your child come to such a world? "
When asked this question
Chen Nian just experienced a humiliation
is called "too much fun"
also bullies
they shaved her hair and stripped her clothes
"Everyone said that it can help you, but in fact no one can really help you"
This sentence hit me all of a sudden
Our own youth campus has not forgotten
A future that seems to be a more complex
is waiting for my child
01 The truth
just picking you
has nothing to do with what you did
Why did campus bullying pick you?
This is a question that many people who are eating melons will ask.
"Why is it not someone else, but it is you? Is the relationship between classmates not handled well, and is it that you caused conflicts? "
And the truth is that when bullying occurs, there is no reason at all, it just picks you.
Chen Nian played by Zhou Dongyu, an ordinary student who goes straight to the college entrance examination to find a way out.
is unknown and doesn't want to cause trouble.
Before Hu Xiaodie died, she remained silent like all her classmates.
After Hu Xiaodie died, she went to cover her body alone. The police asked and she told the truth.
So, she became the next target of the bully.
Is the bully a gangster necessarily a gangster?
Not to mention.
The bullies in this movie are good-looking, have excellent grades and have a wealthy family.
They began to carry out planned and purposeful school bullying against Chen Nian.
Street surrounds, rumors spread, and even push down stairs.
What is the saddest thing?
The saddest thing is the ignorance of the children.
The police talked about another thing when chatting. A group of boys beat another boy to death.
When interrogating, it made people feel sad, "No child knows that fighting like this will kill people."
searches for school bullying, there are many films and TV shows, and real cases are everywhere.
Pictures like this can find thousands of them.
We sigh, we hate, we doubt, and at first we seem powerless.
TED speaker Nicholas Carlisle said that school bullying is a crime that can be ranked alongside child abuse.
People who have experienced bullying, whether in words, mentality, physical harm is even worse, humiliation, self-doubt, inferiority, and anxiety may never get out of this nightmare in their lifetime.
The malice of children is both naive and terrible.
02 Sad
Not all adults
can truly understand every child
Children are arrogant and self-righteous, children compete for their status on campus to seek respect.
For the time being, they are young people.
But no one has taught us how to become adults. "
Chen Nian's teacher and class teacher told her, "Be good at relationships with classmates, the college entrance examination is about to be in the college entrance examination, everything is putting the college entrance examination first. "
The red ink on the chair was poured into the teacher thinks it was just a joke between the children.
The parents of bullies have less control over their children, saying that it must be that the bullied children are mentally unhealthy, saying that their children suffer losses, and that their children are all for the college entrance examination.
p interrogation, "Why don't you call the police? Why don't you call the police when you are bullied in normal circumstances? "
Chen Nian said, "Why do those of us who have been patient and want to concentrate on getting through the college entrance examination still have to be criticized. "
We adults, don't easily measure the mentality of a child's injury with the eyes of an adult world and the mentality of a bystander.
Some moments that may be calm in ten years, ten years ago, were big things for this child, which were bigger than the sky enough to make her whole world collapse.
Campus bullying, because there has been no systematic and direct law to measure it, it has always simulated two things. A bullying involves much more than you think.
Before "Youth", there was an American drama " Thirteen Reasons " . If the former is interspersed with the teenage love between Zhou Dongyu and Yi Yang Qianxi, then this story is even more chilling.
It tells the story of a girl named Hannah who was bullied to commit suicide and left thirteen recordings for thirteen classmates.
Thirteen reasons are the people around her who pushed her to no avenge.
The first reason is that the photos of the underwear were sent in a mass.
The second reason is that the best friend Jessica mocked him.
The third reason is that he was sexually harassed by the butt.
The fourth reason is that he was secretly photographed and monitored.
etc, etc., a total of thirteen.
The last reason is that when Hannah mustered up the courage to reveal everything she had encountered to the school social workers and her wish to commit suicide I hope that I did not receive attention and understanding. This is the last straw that overwhelms Hannah.
Not all adults can truly understand every child.
In "Youth of You", the young policeman was educated.
"School bullying, the most complicated thing happened. A teenager was underage, you can only find a school. The school asked you to find a teacher, the teacher asked you to find parents, and the parents worked outside the city and came back once a year. ”
Chen Nianyou Beishan, but other bullied children do not have
What is sad?
is the drama, under the white heat of the college entrance examination, it is said that the world of teenagers is cold.
But in fact, the world of adults is more cold.
03 Call for
Starting from campus and finally campus
In addition to parents, teachers and schools play a decisive role
"Youth of You", although there is Yi Yang Qianxi's appeal and advocacy at the end of the film, as well as the attention and emphasis of relevant policies, there is still no solution to campus bullying.
video is just the tip of the iceberg, and I really can't see those creepy cases in social news anymore.
Action bullying is bullying.
Language bullying is also bullying.
What we want to admit is that our parents, teachers, and schools are not doing enough, far, not enough.
The school plays a great role in solving campus bullying.
However, focusing on grades and academic results is still the most concerned issue for our current school.
About bullying, teachers and school, have no experience and no consciousness.
There is a website in the United States called www.stopbullying.gov. It is an official website specially targeting campus bullying established by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services of the U.S. Federal Government.
There is a lot of information about campus bullying, suggestions and handling methods on this website.
Our parents can also learn from it.
First of all, how to define the power of campus bullying
1 Average. These forces may include having stronger bodies, some information that embarrasses the bullied party, or how popular it is among classmates, etc.
2 Repeatability. Bullying is a recurring behavior, or the potential for recurring.
Secondly, there are much more types of bullying than we imagined
1 Language bullying. For example, verbal provocation, nickname, inappropriate sexually related comments, threats, etc.
2 Social bullying. For example, deliberately isolating someone, spreading rumors about a classmate, humiliating a classmate in public, etc.
3 Body bullying. It directly causes physical harm to a classmate.
spread rumors about Chen Nian's mother, and the classmates didn't play with her, just language and social bullying
When bullying occurs
school, how should teachers deal with
1 intervene immediately, and find other teachers or parents to assist
2 Separate the two parties involved in the bullying to ensure everyone's safety
3 Stay calm, and also keep both parties involved and bystanders calm
4 If necessary, immediately take necessary medical care and psychological counseling
Common wrong practices
1 Turn a blind eye and feel that students can solve problems by themselves without the intervention of adults
2 Want to find out the truth of the matter immediately
3 Ask witnesses present to tell the story of the incident in public
4 Ask the students of both parties in front of other students
5 Call the parties involved to confront each other, instead of asking them separately
6 Let the party who commits bullying apologize to the bullied students on the spot, or show friendship
How to help the bullied children
1 Patiently listen to the students' narrative, understand the whole process, and express your willingness to provide help
2 Tell students that things are not your own mistake
3 If you understand that the bullied may not be willing to tell the process, you can also seek a psychologist to help
4 Teach your child some methods to deal with bullying, what should you do after meeting next time
5 Cooperate with other personnel to protect the bullied student, you can ask the child how to make him/her feel safe
6 Bullying will not disappear overnight, and you must continue to support the bullied student
How to help the bullying implement the bullying
1 You must clarify with her which behaviors are bullying, so that the students fully realize that they have caused harm to others
2 You must calmly tell the students that bullying is serious and unacceptable wrong behavior
3 Understand the real motivation for students to bully.Some students bully others to join a small group, some students are because of family factors, and some are because they have been bullied by other students
4 Let students who commit bullying participate in some anti-bullying activities and projects
5 Provide students who commit bullying with the opportunity to correct mistakes
0 It is worth reminding that it is completely invalid to make reconcile between the two parties in person. Bullying is not a conflict of equal strength between the two sides. Letting them reconcile in person may further hurt the bullied students.
Don't always wait until that moment
Wait until "Youth You" Hu Xiaodie jumps down
Wait until "Thirteen Reasons" Hannah
Never come back
Back to the line Zhou Dongyu said
I don't want my child to grow up
also face all this
Wish everything will be fine
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