According to statistics from the Ministry of Civil Affairs, since 2003, the number of divorces in my country has increased for fourteen consecutive years. In 2003, the number of divorces was 1.331 million. By 2016, it had increased to 4.85 million. In the first half of 2017, 5.58 million couples were newly married nationwide, and 1.85 million divorced at the same time! People born in the 70s and 80s are called the group that is most likely to experience crises in current relationships, and are the main group for litigation and divorce.
The following summarizes several reasons that are prone to divorce:
1, the work is basically stable, and there is no major development or change. I have lacked passion for life. If the other party still does his own way, it is easy to have no hope for the other party.
2, those who have children at home are basically married or are still in college. Don't worry about your child's growth all the time.
3, the relationship between husband and wife is not very harmonious, because no matter how old you are, some things still need to be there.
4, due to frequent family conflicts, the resentment has become deep.
5, look for freshness, because the longer the marriage is, the less passion is.
6, age is not the foundation of divorce, because everyone enjoys the right to freedom of marriage
7, exhausted by some trivial matters in life.
8, the lack of sweet dialogue between husband and wife.
9, some external temptations fill all aspects of life.
10, mutual suspicion is also a major factor leading to divorce.
So how should we maintain our marriage? Do the following well and try to see if it can win back the other person’s heart:
1. Marriage requires ritual sense . Create more mystery or surprises for the other person:
The importance of ritual sense is self-evident. Marriages full of ritual sense in life can bring a sense of security and happiness to the other person. So what kind of ritual is it? A hug of love, a romantic candlelight dinner together, watching a movie together, etc. Or give the other person a surprise during a specific holiday. But you need to grasp this degree yourself, too many surprises can easily make people numb.
Some trivial matters in life can become a sense of ritual in marriage. Although it looks childish, it can keep your marriage fresh. You must touch your face, and there is nothing embarrassing about old couples.
2, leaving the other party with a certain independent space:
So what is space? For example, the husband in the living room cabinet and the wife in the study, the two of them do what they like in their respective spaces, which are relatively independent but closely connected. Because everyone has their own privacy. Whether it is a man or a woman, as long as you don’t do anything out of order, what do you care about the other party? Just be happy.
is interdependent but independent of each other, so that you can be loved for a long time!
3, respect the other party, and even more respect yourself.
Never think that your man or woman is useless. The other party is at a beautiful age and chooses to be with you at a handsome and elegant age. If you are not sure about each other, you will definitely not choose to be together. Think more about the other person's goodness. Ignore those unpleasant things. Often, many quarrels are caused by trivial matters. So it is important to respect the other person.
In marriage, you must not only respect the other person, but also respect yourself. Because only a close-knit marriage can be managed for a long time.
4, set rules, but they cannot be dead rules:
There is an old saying that without rules, you cannot make a square and round, and this sentence also applies to marriage relationships. Not many couples are born with each other, but more often they get along with each other. Everyone has their own hobbies or habits. In order to avoid conflicts, we might as well set the rules. For example, you must rest before 10 o'clock. You must spend a few days a week with your family, or take turns cooking. Even if you wait for some things, it is just small matters, but some conflicts in marriage often arise because of small matters. After we set the rules and declared our bottom line, the contradictions were immediately reduced by half. Of course, rules cannot be dead rules, because people live and depend on the situation. It's just a way to restrain each other.
Rules are needed in marriage to restrain the other party. But you need to learn to be considerate of the other party and learn to make concessions!
5, learn to show weakness to the other party.
If we all know how to show weakness, when the other party sees you surrender, most of the anger will disappear immediately. As the saying goes, it is said that people who are not slapping smiles. This is the reason. Especially for female friends, the effect of actively showing weakness is better, and it will only make your man love you more. Pity you.
The two people who quarrel in marriage both happened without reason. Whoever shows weakness first can avoid such quarrels.
6, constantly learn and always improve your mentality:
In maintaining a marriage relationship, learn to continuously improve yourself, increase your personal charm index, and learn more new knowledge and skills, such as yoga, tea ceremony, reading, exercise, Tai Chi and other knowledge. Let the other person look at you with admiration, know how to discover surprises and share happiness, and make the marriage more boring. It will also make you more and more confident.
7, play less on your phone and spend more time with each other.
As we all know, more and more cheating is coming from the temptations on the Internet. Online dating is risky, so we firmly resist it. For example, a woman in Shenzhen cheated on a man online and was cheated of 600,000 yuan a while ago. There are countless examples of this. There is a big gap between the Internet and reality. Your lover and child around you need to throw away your phone and accompany her (him). After discarding it, see if your emotional index can rise rapidly. Let’s wait and see.
summary. Marriage is a process of continuous adaptation between two people, and a process of constant humility and tolerance. If you want to have a stable marriage relationship. It is important to manage with care, and in marriage we must learn to resist any temptations in life. I wish all male and female friends a happy marriage and a happy old age. Take action quickly and manage your happiness with your heart.
