"Women are like flowers", flowers have "shelf life", and people are no exception.
20 years old, blooming quietly, full of vitality; 30 years old, pay attention to maintenance and still be beautiful;
40 years old, but it is like a deadline - it will not wither, and it will be difficult to maintain youthful vitality.
Recently, a variety show called "pretty forty" pointed the camera at a group of 40-year-old women.
In order to "feel the changes at the age of 40", the host Tian Ruini even gave her uterus a live broadcast.
checked the health of the uterus and whether the egg cells were normal. Finally, he sighed:
"I didn't expect that even my uterus would appear on the camera."
stood at the door of 40 years old, and Tian Ruini had many ideas. Going further forward, it seems to be the "abyss".
can check the results but tell her: "Everything is normal."
has no tumors, no polyps, and the uterus at the age of forty is no different from the age of fourteen.
changes do not seem to come from the body.
"When did you feel old?"
A while ago, Chapter Ziyi celebrated her 40th birthday.
She posted on Weibo to express her feelings: I am about forty, and I don’t know if I am ready to welcome it.
0 The forty years is coming quietly / @Rare Earth Force
Whether it is a celebrity or an ordinary person, forty years old is a "huge".
Before and after "kan", there are two worlds.
Tian Ruini chatted with a few sisters:
"When I was young, my daily life officially started at 11 o'clock in the evening, and nightclubs are my home court."
But when I was 40 years old, when I went to nightclubs again, she suddenly realized that nightclubs were no longer suitable for her.
Another good friend expressed his feelings: "I can't go to and , it's very noisy."
Before the age of forty, it was common for me to wear a sexy suspender skirt to go out;
After the age of forty, I wanted to wear a small suspender to go out, "it was the time for a sudden nervous break."
Even so, I have to ask my husband again, is this too sexy:
- likes lively and starts to pursue tranquility;
- dresses sexy and begins to become conservative;
- loves to drink cold water and ice drinks, but now he keeps holding the thermos...
At the age of forty, he has begun to change his mindset before others can say anything.
Writer Zhuo Yunzhi believes that women who are forty are in the late stage of middle age. When middle age drinks warm water, they should drink hot water if they are older.
In other words, forty years old is already the last stage of middle-aged women, only one step away from the elderly.
"When you are 30 years old, your heart may be sluggish, and there will be a big psychological change, but there is no physical change. You should eat, drink, and play."
But when you reach the age of 40, you will find that
physiology is beyond your control, and health preservation must begin immediately.
"Chinese Girl" Three Treasures - Thermal Pot, Shawl, and Hand Cream, you must bring them all when you go out.
Say goodbye to the short skirt and say goodbye all night. It’s not that you don’t want to, but that your body can’t bear it: headache, foot pain, and call the police in various ways...
Want to have a child, go to the hospital for checking your body, and find that the quality of your eggs has dropped.
What’s more terrifying is that trying all kinds of ways is in vain:
insists on exercising and maintains good living habits, but cannot change the quality of the eggs.
"When did you suddenly realize that you are old at ?"
For everyone, many times, they are mentally unwilling to admit it, and their bodies have already given the answer.
Chen Xiaoqing once mentioned his experience in "Round Table":
Once went to Xinjiang to shoot a movie, the road was damaged by a flood, and the car was loaded with too many people and couldn't get through, so some people needed to jump out of the car.
Others advised him: If you are an old comrade, just take the bus.
He waved his hand and said, "This is fine."
As a result, he couldn't control his body well, and suddenly fell into the river.
When people reach middle age, their bodies cannot keep up, and their "brain" seems to be no longer enlightened.
cannot accept new things and does not want to accept them.
cannot call the new celebrity names; I don’t know what the various Internet buzzwords mean.
But for women, the "inadvertent harm" brought by this age is more obvious than that of men:
40-year-old Tian Ruini followed the beauty blogger in her 20s. Tian Ruini always reacted half a beat slower, and the beauty blogger was a little dissatisfied:
She is like a sponge that absorbs water and can no longer absorb new things.
Tian Ruini laughed at herself: I think she misunderstood, I actually "crashed".
becomes the "old comrade" who needs care in the eyes of others day by day.
Not everyone can accept this change.
"A 38-year-old woman,
does not deserve love, does not deserve girlish heart"
revolves around an ordinary forty-year-old woman, generally there are no good words.
If you are not married at the age of forty, then the whole person will often be no different from a "sinner" in the eyes of others.
A young man in his twenties can't help but question:
This aunt is still going to a nightclub for entertainment?
program interviewed some young women who have not yet entered marriage: When is it appropriate to get married?
answers are mostly before the age of 30:
No woman wants to get married and is willing to "drag" until she is 40 years old.
The girl Mendy also longs for marriage. She feels that "a woman can only have a perfect life after getting married and having children."
However, the relationship has been unhappy, which made her very frustrated.
She is a graphic designer, and her self-awareness is actually very unconfident:
- scores 50 or 60 on the outside, and 60 or 70 on the inside, not beautiful enough; without a house or car, she has no achievements...
- Although she always smiles, it is obviously a "disaster" for her at the age of 40:
- was in love for the first time at the age of 30, and she also gave her a "heart card" to her crush at the age of 39...
Her "childish girlish heart" was ridiculed by everyone.
This has always been the case. The older a woman is, the smaller the range of choices available in marriage and love.
This may also be the biggest difference between a forty-year-old man and a forty-year-old woman. Several men interviewed in the
program were a little disdainful of this:
"The most urgent task is to find a good partner to get married as soon as possible, and the range of choices can be smaller and smaller..."
In comparison, men in their forties have more choices:
20, 30, 40 years old... are not uncommon.
But if it is reversed, "A 20-year-old boy likes a 40-year-old woman, and the probability of marrying her is too small."
Some people also choose to "play and see, and make friends. I am only 26 years old, and it is more than ten years apart."
40 years old, most of whom are the tail of the post-70s.
Now on the Internet, even the post-00s generation looks like "will be replaced by the post-10s generation".
70s and 80s seemed to have to disappear silently, no one paid attention to it.
Who is it that "forced a 40-year-old woman to death on the beach"?
"40 years old is the beginning of enjoying life seriously"
If 40 years old is a "hook", then there is a Shujun that can guarantee that for most people, every age is a "hook".
- 20 years old, you must start to learn to be independent, put away willfulness, and leave family care;
- 25 years old, your physical function begins to decline for the first time, and you dare not dance all night long, and your back pain comes to your door, and your yearning for love gradually becomes "just as long as you want";
- 30 years old, those who get married will face the pressure of work, life, children, and the elderly. Those who have not got married may have been tempered in the blind date field. "Invincible";
- 35 years old, he may be overwhelmed by his children's schooling, homework, parents' physical examinations, medical expenses, mortgage and car loans, and he may never have any illusions about marriage;
- 40 years old, his health is not as good as before, the midlife crisis is coming, and he is determined half a lifetime, and the good or bad will go with the flow...
Society has long set up a "survival list" for most people, and he knows what to do at every age.
fails to keep up with one step, or takes the wrong direction, you are a "unuser".
So I fear aging and losing the right to choose, and I begin to look down on myself.
However, there are still many women who are telling us in their hands what it is like to be "not afraid of old age".
Early this morning, 54-year-old Gong Li remarried and married 71-year-old French "national treasure musician" Jean Michelle Jaer , the news spread hot searches.
When she just divorced ten years ago, she was asked if she would remarry. She replied:
"Marriage is no problem for me, but it is very important to have both parties happy and willing."
As long as she is happy and willing, age is not a problem.
Gong Li and her boyfriend / Visual China
In the variety show, several women travel together.
The beauty blogger in her twenties is powerless in the face of all kinds of sports, but Tian Ruini is good at exercising, surfing, and lifting iron.
Others lamented that they were 40 years old, "I want to die too early, I want to love too old."
She firmly believes that there is no boundary in love, and the boundary is given by herself: "You feel that you are not worthy of such things in your heart."
The "kan" of forty years old is actually not much different from the age of twenty or thirty.
blindly emphasizes that "you can't do anything after you're past this age", which is to "frame your life to death".
Youth may never be equal to happiness.
As Wu Xiaobo said: "Most ordinary people are not qualified to enjoy the peaceful life before the age of 40."
worked hard for decades to make a living, and were about to start enjoying, but are you afraid that it was too late? There is no such reason for
.
In life, people who always talk about age crisis are precisely those who cannot "slow down".
To put it bluntly, "It's not old age, it's because of fear. If you don't have enough fear, you are full of anxiety."
There is a saying in "11 Lifespans" by cartoonist David Saracion:
You can only live once, this is wrong.
It only takes about seven years for a person to master a skill. If he lives to the age of 88, then there are 11 opportunities to become a "master" in his life.
means that you have 11 lifetimes in your life:
You can be a poet, a carpenter, and a chef for your whole life...
has accumulated enough confidence to face everything calmly. You can "open new life" at any age.
- You can start learning English and painting at the age of 40;
- can enjoy the warmth of family or the pleasure of freedom at the age of 40;
- can also continue to move forward in your career at the age of 40...
The so-called "age anxiety" is nothing more than the eyes of outsiders, or the confidence that is not strong enough.
In fact, as long as you don’t draw a “dividing line” for life, no one can limit what you should do.
Click "reading" to the article. When the sun was shining in his teens, everyone was ambitious for their whole life.
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