[Qiba Republic of China Republic of China 40th issue]
On March 8, 1935, the female film star Ruan Lingyu of the Republic of China died in the hospital after ineffective rescue. She was only 25 years old at that time.
Pity people must have something hateful! The same is true for the suicide tragedy of Ruan Lingyu, a female movie star in the Republic of China.
For a long time, Ruan Lingyu's suicide has been sympathized with the world because of the words "people's words are fearful" in her fake suicide note. But after exploring it, her death is not worthy of sympathy.
The significance of history lies in: it can always give enlightenment to people today. This is also the significance of Ruan Lingyu's tragic history.
Ruan Lingyu was born in Shanghai in 1910. Interestingly, her original name was not Ruan Lingyu. Her original name was Ruan Yuying and her nickname was Agen. Needless to say, this nickname is the name given to her parents for hoping to have a boy.
Ruan Yuying died at the age of 6. After that, his mother He Aying became a nanny for Zhang Damin and . Zhang Damin was Ruan Yuying's later first love. The love between Ruan Yuying and Zhang Damin is a very beautiful story at the beginning.
was in that year and year when the level was strict and the importance of being a good match. Zhang Damin's relationship with his nanny's daughter Ruan Yuying was opposed by both parents. Ruan Yuying's mother felt that her daughter was not worthy of the boss's young master Zhang Damin. Zhang Damin's parents felt that this marriage was too ridiculous and did not meet their expectations at all.
But Zhang Damin, who is deeply influenced by the free love trend, doesn't care about these things at all. Amid the opposition of his parents, he pulled Shen Yuying to live outside without stopping. That year, Ruan Yuying was 15 years old and Zhang Damin was 21 years old. In a daze, Ruan Yuying entered the world of two people.
After that, Zhang Damin was idle all day long and continued to hang out in the singing and dancing troupes and casinos. Although Ruan Yuying was alert to all this, she did not feel anything wrong. Ruan Yuying even felt that Zhang Damin, who took care of him and his mother, was worthy of his life.
htmlRuan Yuying, who lost her father at the age of 06, has always been a child who lacks love. In addition, she had a miserable childhood, so she lacked a sense of security. So, when she grew up and met a man who was a little bit better to her, she naturally fell in love.After falling into love, Ruan Yuying didn't know that the process and ending of this beautiful love at the beginning would be so bloody.
Shortly after the establishment of the "New Family", Zhang Damin lost interest in Ruan Yuying. Gradually, he began to stop going in and out of his and Ruan Yuying's new homes, nor provided the lives of Ruan Yuying and his daughter. Since then, Ruan Yuying, who has lost her source of life, has to go out to make a living. In 1926, after seeing the advertisement in the newspaper, 16-year-old Ruan Yuying went to the newly established celebrity film company to apply for a job.
Ruan Yuying's outstanding appearance and melancholy temperament quickly attracted the attention of relevant personnel. Soon, Ruan Yuying officially became an actor, and later, he was officially renamed Ruan Lingyu. At this time, her monthly salary was 50 yuan, and the filming was calculated separately. With Ruan Lingyu's efforts, she soon grew into a household star.
The story has developed to this point, like a female counterattack drama. But the plot did not follow the routine.
At the moment when Ruan Lingyu was famous, Zhang Damin was sinking deeper and deeper in the quagmire of gambling.
In 1928, after Zhang Damin passed away his parents and squandered all his property, he thought of Ruan Lingyu, who was already popular at this time.
After that, Zhang Damin, who was not doing his job, frequently asked Ruan Lingyu for money. Ruan Lingyu actually knew that Zhang Damin wanted money to be gambling, but every time she saw Zhang Damin lowering her body and begging her, she could not help but feel soft-hearted. After such days, Ruan Lingyu became tired of it.
After multiple disputes, Ruan Lingyu proposed to break up with Zhang Damin.
At this time, Zhang Damin said to Ruan Lingyu viciously: Don’t think it’s a famous female star. It’s easy to make you look ugly? Zhang Damin threatened that as long as Ruan Lingyu dared to break up, he would tell the story of her being the nanny's daughter.
When the breakup failed and was threatened, 18-year-old Ruan Lingyu made a major wrong choice in her life: she chose to escape everything by committing suicide.That night, Ruan Lingyu found a bottle of sleeping pills in anger and despair, and swallowed them in tea. Fortunately, because there were not enough pills to swallow, Ruan Lingyu survived the disaster after rescue.
At first, Zhang Damin, who saw Ruan Lingyu looking for a short-sighted view, was very scared. But soon, Zhang Damin completely saw Ruan Lingyu's weakness from this extreme behavior: cherishing her image.
In order to calm down, Ruan Lingyu, who is weak, has never mentioned the breakup again. Obviously, Ruan Lingyu didn't know that her compromise was pulling herself into the abyss step by step.
Any time, compromise with bad people will only encourage bad people's arrogance. Ruan Lingyu never seems to have returned to the essence to think about the problem. In fact, the grudge between her and Zhang Damin has always been very simple. After all, the so-called "thing that made her ugly" in Zhang Damin's hand is just her identity as "nanny daughter".
But Ruan Lingyu cherishes her public image and never takes risks for it, so she continues to live in a cohabitation relationship with Zhang Damin. This relationship did not end until the emergence of the tea merchant Tang Jishan in 1932. This year, facing Tang Jishan's sweet love strategy, Ruan Lingyu completely fell into trouble.
At this time, she was still afraid that Zhang Damin would announce her "nanny daughter identity", but this time, she figured out that the former is more important than the public image, so she decided to give it a try.
But when she gave it a try, she made another wrong choice: she resolutely moved to live with Tang Jishan without completely breaking up with the scumbag Zhang Damin.
Ruan Lingyu lived with Tang Jishan without breaking up with Zhang Damin. This behavior itself violated the moral bottom line, which would inevitably lay a hidden danger for subsequent disputes.
On the other hand, Zhang Damin was originally a rogue, and Ruan Lingyu should have expected: the result of doing this must be that Zhang Damin was entangled with each other for various reasons afterwards.
Love has always been more varied than stocks. Stocks are: only by being good at choosing can you hold them for a long time. What about more changing love? Ruan Lingyu, who was guided by Tang Jishan, did not know that his so-called feelings and consideration were carefully designed for the purpose of hunting for beauty.
When Ruan Lingyu had not gotten rid of Zhang Damin, she hurriedly threw herself into Tang Jishan's arms. The result was that her left foot was still in the previous fire pit, and her right foot stepped into another fire pit. Ruan Lingyu soon discovered that the rich man Tang Jishan not only has a family and a house, but also a specialist in female celebrities.
Before Ruan Lingyu, Tang Jishan had been living with Zhang Zhiyun , who is also a movie star. When Zhang Zhiyun was old and old, he targeted Ruan Lingyu again. When Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan were just together, Zhang Zhiyun wrote to Ruan Lingyu and said: My today is your tomorrow.
But at this time Ruan Lingyu, who was immersed in love, only thought: Zhang Zhiyun was jealous of herself, and she turned a deaf ear to everything Zhang Zhiyun said. It was not until Tang Jishan cheated on Ruan Lingyu again and again that Ruan Lingyu realized that what Zhang Zhiyun said might be true.
Tang Jishan
Tang Jishan, this businessman who is 15 years older than Ruan Lingyu, truly made Ruan Lingyu alert after Zhang Damin came back.
A few months later, Zhang Damin, who returned to Shanghai, found that his "cohabiting girlfriend" actually lived with wealthy businessman Tang Jishan. When Zhang Damin, who was addicted to gambling, he felt a little excited when he first found out the news. For Zhang Damin, isn’t this equivalent to having fatty meat to make?
So, Zhang Damin quickly began to harass the two of them as "Ruan Lingyu's boyfriend". But he has only one purpose of doing this: to make money. Ruan Lingyu, who is burdened by her reputation, wants to continue to "exchange money for peace", but Tang Jishan, the old Jianghu, knows: meat cannot be filled with evil wolves! But it will only make the evil wolf have a bigger appetite!
So, Tang Jishan, who treated all this as a business, thought of: "Give Zhang Damin some color to see."
Tang Jishan believes that since Zhang Damin’s handle is Ruan Lingyu’s little privacy, he will just make him explode. As for the lawsuit filed by Zhang Damin for "Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan embezzled Zhang Damin's property", it would be fine if he went to court.
Speaking of this, I would like to add that the so-called Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan embezzlement of their own property refers to: during Zhang Damin's outing, Ruan Lingyu packed up his things and moved to Tang Jishan's place without notifying him. Obviously, this is a complete false accusation, but Ruan Lingyu, as a public figure, has no choice but to do anything.
When Zhang Damin proposed to sue them, Tang Jishan took the lead in counter-claiming Zhang Damin made up facts and hindered his reputation.
In the subsequent lawsuit, two men exposed Ruan Lingyu's privacy quite thoroughly in court. For a moment, Ruan Lingyu's news was flying all over the world. The tabloids were all addicted to the fire, and Ruan Lingyu, who was plagued by lawsuits, felt very tired.
What Ruan Lingyu couldn't accept the most was that Tang Jishan would expose their private lives so much regardless of her own feelings. In fact, from this point of view, Tang Jishan has selfish intentions. He was originally a businessman. Before that, he had relied on female celebrities to promote and advertise for himself more than once.
So, this lawsuit is exactly an opportunity for him. What's more, this will make Ruan Lingyu and Zhang Damin completely turn against each other, which will kill him twice.
In this lawsuit, no matter who wins or loses, Ruan Lingyu will be the biggest victim and loser. But who cares about Ruan Lingyu's life or death? Subsequently, the two men fought round after round about Ruan Lingyu's lawsuit. As usual, Ruan Lingyu was injured and consumed every time.
After a time, a large number of so-called adultery cases, love triangles and other articles related to these lawsuits were published in the newspaper. Under such circumstances, Ruan Lingyu unexpectedly calmed down. But this abnormality is definitely not a good momentum. In fact, people only know from the true suicide note of Ruan Lingyu when she committed suicide that during this period, Ruan Lingyu had suffered more than once from Tang Jishan's family violence.
And the wrong choice Ruan Lingyu made when facing Tang Jishan’s domestic violence for the first time completely pushed her to destruction.
During the lawsuit with Zhang Damin, according to the driver's description, Ruan Lingyu and Tang Jishan had repeatedly quarreled. The main reason for their quarrel was not because of the lawsuit, but at this time, Tang Jishan and a dancer Liang Saizhen got into trouble.
Ruan Lingyu was betrayed by her lover when she was deeply involved in a lawsuit and her career was blocked, which undoubtedly made her life worse than death. After a fierce quarrel, Tang Jishan beat Ruan Lingyu. At the most difficult time, being violently beaten by the man you love is the heaviest blow to any woman.
Under this blow, the angry and desperate Ruan Lingyu committed suicide by swallowing sleeping pills. This time, just like the first time, after rescue, Ruan Lingyu was rescued. But Ruan Lingyu's second suicide made her lose more, not get it.
Ruan Lingyu's first suicide allowed Zhang Damin to see her weakness of "loving her reputation". The second suicide allowed Tang Jishan to see another greater weakness of Ruan Lingyu: weakness.
Among men and women will take tough measures to stop them in the face of violence. Ruan Lingyu's choice is to escape by death.
escape never really solves the problem. Facing it straight is the beginning of solving the problem.
Ruan Lingyu's escape did not solve Tang Jishan's domestic violence problem. In fact, Ruan Lingyu's extreme reaction actually encouraged Tang Jishan's domestic violence to some extent. Not long after that, once at Xinghualou, Tang Jishan even beat Ruan Lingyu in public.
On the evening of March 7, 1935, after Tang Jishan and Ruan Lingyu attended the party, the two broke out in the car back to their residence over Zhang Damin’s affairs.
After returning home, Tang Jishan fucked Ruan Lingyu again. After beating Ruan Lingyu, Tang Jishan, who had calmed down, fell asleep.
At this time, Ruan Lingyu was completely disappointed due to emotional torture. She walked downstairs and saw her mother in the hall. After the two comforted each other for a few words, Ruan Lingyu said she wanted to eat noodles, so He Aying cooked a bowl of noodles for her daughter.
Ruan Lingyu took the bowl and returned to the second floor bedroom. Seeing that his daughter was as calm as usual, He Aying also went to the third floor bedroom to sleep.In the next more than an hour, in the entire three-story western-style building, only Ruan Lingyu did not fall asleep.
She took out three medicine bottles from the drawer, totaling 30 sleeping pills, stirred the pills in the soup and ate them, and then insisted on writing two suicide notes.
Among them, in this suicide note to Tang Jishan, Ruan Lingyu wrote:
Ji Shan:
Without you being obsessed with someone, without you hit me that night, and hit me again tonight, I probably wouldn't do this! After I die, in the future, someone will definitely say that you are a demon who plays with women, and even more so that I am a soulless woman. But at that time, I am no longer alive, you can bear it yourself! The past Zhiyun, today, who I am tomorrow, I think you know it yourself. I am dead, I dare not hate you. I hope you will treat your mother and Xiao Yin......
Lingyu's ultimate writings
After writing this suicide note, Ruan Lingyu lay on the bed, and soon, she fell into a coma.
At three o'clock in the morning, Tang Jishan woke up from her sleep. He opened his eyes and looked at Ruan Lingyu lying beside him. He woke up in an instant when he fell asleep: Ruan Lingyu's face was bloodless and the corners of her mouth twitched.
After experiencing Ruan Lingyu's last suicide, Tang Jishan immediately realized: Ruan Lingyu committed suicide again.
He hurriedly ran to the third floor and called He Aying, and rushed Ruan Lingyu to the hospital. In the hospital, after more than ten hours of rescue, Ruan Lingyu finally left.
Ruan Lingyu's funeral
After Ruan Lingyu's death, in order to escape the guilt, Tang Jishan was busy tampering with her suicide note. He entrusted the suicide note written by Ruan Lingyu to himself to tamper with it into the "Letter to the Society". In this suicide note, businessman Tang Jishan cleverly attributes Ruan Lingyu's death to "people's words are fearful."
Fortunately, the Liang sisters finally discovered their conscience and handed over the true suicide note to a reporter from Siming Business Journal for release.
Ruan Lingyu probably never thought that the one who was really sad about his death was her fans, not the man he cared about and asked her to die for. After Ruan Lingyu's death, a woman in Hangzhou left a book to commit suicide, saying, "Ruan Lingyu is dead, what's the point of living?" Since then, a total of 5 Ruan Lingyu fans have committed suicide due to her death.
Ruan Lingyu's death was an avoidable tragedy. After all, Ruan Lingyu met a scoundrel and a domestic violence man. When encountering such scumbags, if she could face them bravely instead of choosing to escape again and again, how could she fall into such a situation?
And her escape was, on the surface, because of the matter, but in fact it was because of love. As a weak woman who lacks love in her childhood, her lifelong efforts are just to get love. But the way she tried to rely on men to get love was essentially a mistake.
Under this mistake, she mistakenly thought that her blind compromise and concession could allow her to get love, so in the end, she actually tried to trade her life for love! The final outcome is naturally destruction!
Her death reveals us: at any time, the so-called act of giving up life for love and exchanging life for love is stupid. Just imagine, will a woman who even can give up be a woman who loves herself? Isn’t this a contradiction for a woman who doesn’t even love herself, but she hopes that a man will love herself!
(Attachment------The final outcome of Zhang Damin and Tang Jishan: Zhang Damin died of illness in middle age, and Tang Jishan died of bankruptcy in his later years was desolate.)
