Recently, the realistic drama " Anjia " directed by An Jian, written by Liuliu, starring Sun Li and Luo Jin has been popular all over the country recently.
"An Jia" tells the story of Fang Sijin, a rural girl with a bad original family. Because of her long-term self-reliance and hard work, she was recognized by her boss in her work. She was appointed to serve as the store manager at Jingyi store in Shanghai. Together with Manager Xu, Wang Zi, Zhu Shanshan, Laowutou, 985, and Loushanguan in the store, she sold one house after another, realized the good, evil, beauty and ugliness of human nature, looked at the various aspects of the world, and found the direction of life.
In my opinion, the TV series is not only about the warmth and warmth of selling and buying a house, it is also a very meaningful "love guide" . Why do you say so? Because the three views of love presented in this drama are the three most common love patterns in our human society, and it happens to you, me, and him.
After understanding these three love patterns, we will have a deeper understanding of the "true meaning of love".
01 The love between Fang Sijin and Xu Wenchang: support each other, give each other, and always advance and retreat with you
A middle-aged man who has experienced the betrayal of love, no car, no house, no deposit. One is an older unmarried young woman from the countryside who came to Shanghai to work, and was deeply hurt and dragged down by her original family. To be honest, it takes a lot of courage to choose such two people together from a realistic perspective.
However, love is often unrelated to conditions. Love is a feeling from the heart, accumulating bit by bit. No matter how bad Fang Sijin's family is, no matter how difficult it is. Xu Wenchang chose to stay by Fang Sijin's side and face it with her.
- If you determine that you are my woman, you will not let others hurt you
Still remember the time when Xu Wenchang accompanied Fang Sijin back to his hometown because of a conflict with Pan Guiyu, they wanted to beat someone. How did Xu Wenchang do it? He picked up a bench and shouted loudly: "This is my woman, I don't care if you don't care about me." He was so domineering.
Although Xu Wenchang is kind and easy to talk to, he is by no means a soft persimmon. If you treat me well, I will treat you twice as well. If you treat me not, then sorry, I don’t need to treat you well anymore.
When he fell in love with Fang Sijin, he did not allow others to hurt her. Whether in love or work, he has a sense of responsibility. You are my woman, and I will do my best to protect you. This is Xu Wenchang's love. No wonder many people saw Xu Wenchang's efforts to Fang Sijin and said, "It turns out that middle-aged men can be very romantic!"
Aunt Xu's most rare thing is that she did not avoid Fang Sijin's original family, but faced it with her. If she didn't want to face it, he would also help her find a way, which many men could not do.
Don’t talk about the complicated situation in Fang Sijin’s family, even if there are many brothers and sisters in the family, it will become a concern for men. They are afraid of being dragged down. Aunt Xu is willing to face her complicated original family with Fang Sijin, and this alone is better than most people.
- You can bully me, but it is absolutely impossible to bully him
Since Fang Sijin and Aunt Xu announced their relationship, Fang Sijin has had several "domineering husband protection" behaviors. In fact, it is all an instinct, a kind of cherishing each other.
may be because she lacked love since childhood and suffered a lot. If someone is kind to her and gives her wholehearted love, her efforts will definitely not be less than that of the other party. Especially when she first came to Shanghai, this person helped her, and she was her great benefactor.
So for Fang Sijin, Aunt Xu is the person she wants to cherish the most, and she cannot allow others to hurt. "You can bully me, but bullying him will definitely not be able to."
When the old fried dough stick's wife came to the office to fight and make trouble, Fang Sijin was not involved, but when she saw her hitting Xu Wenchang, it was even more uncomfortable than hitting her, so she rushed over and stopped her.
and when discussing plans in the office, she would help 985. In fact, it was because she knew that things they could not do would be pushed to Xu Wenchang. Helping 985 is to help Xu Wenchang.
She has never been a woman who needs to be protected, but a woman who can stand behind a man at a critical moment.
When I was a child, I loved watching idol dramas. I always thought that the passion of "the mountains have no edges, the world is united, and I dare to be separated from you" can only be called love. But as time goes by, it is more and more invented. What can withstand the erosion of time is never a vow or sweet talk.
The true love always hides countless sincerity in the loyalty of mutual love and tacit understanding of mutual appreciation.
Fang Sijin and Xu Wenchang, one from the countryside and the other from Shanghai, when they knew each other, they fell in love with each other in the fireworks of the world working together and got together. It can be said that the more they appreciate each other, the deeper their love is.
In the play, Xu Wenchang and Fang Sijin have the same unbearable original family, but Fang Sijin is strong and unyielding, Xu Wenchang is warm and kind, the two support each other and independent of each other, Their love is gentle and equal, and it is the dance of two independent souls.
"To the Oak" says: "We share the cold wave, wind and thunder, thunder, and thunder; we share the mist, flowing mist, rainbows. It seems to be separated forever, but it is depended on each other for life. This is great love! "
This is the love between Xu Wenchang and Fang Sijin. They are not only partners, but also confidants, and work partners. No matter what the other party does, they will not ask for reasons, but will only support them, always stand where the other party needs them, giving him shoulders.
Flom wrote in "The Art of Love": " Love is a kind of ability. Love includes care, responsibility, respect, and understanding. You love what you work for, and you work for what you love. " Two equal and independent people love each other, which can make each other better.
The love between them not only heals each other, but also makes both of them become better selves. is like Xu Wenchang. He finally got out of his hatred for his father, reconciled with his original family, reconciled with himself, and showed his strength on the road of entrepreneurship. And Fang Sijin also eventually transformed from a cold and hard phoenix woman to a gentle and soft boss lady, and the power of love is indispensable.
02 The love between Wang Zijian and Zhu Shanshan: There is a kind of true love called "each mutual dislikes each other, but is afraid of losing it"
Wang Zijian, the ace salesperson of Jingyi store, works hard at work and is humble in love, his goddess-level girlfriend always treats him as a backup tire, he thinks that his house is low and the car is low, and her mother also orders him to do this and that. The prince has always been cautious in this unequal relationship.
Zhu Shanshan is an innocent girl who has not issued an order for two years after joining the company. She is not smart but kind, does not understand business but is positive and optimistic. She said that she came to settle down and found her partner, she is here to find her partner, with a Shanghai household registration, a house and a car, which has always been her hard condition.
Zhu Shanshan is an innocent girl who has not issued an order for two years. She is not smart but kind, does not understand business, but is positive and optimistic. She said that she came to settle down in the world, just to find her partner, with a Shanghai household registration, a house and a car, which has always been her hard condition.
Zhu Shanshan is a naive girl who has not issued an order for two years. She is not smart but kind, does not understand business, but is positive and optimistic. She said that she came to settle down the world and is here to find her partner. She has a Shanghai household registration, a house and a car, which has always been her hard condition. html l2
In his daily work, the two often play and fight. Shanshan is simple and has no scheming. When things happen, Wang Zijian will sarcastically and beat her up. Although it is half-joking, it is another form of concern.
No matter how disgusted Wang Zijian is to Shanshan, when Shanshan encounters danger, Wang Zijian is the one who is most anxious and impulsive.
When he heard that Zhu Shanshan was wearing Snow White's clothes to discuss the details of the house, he was the first to find something strange, so he ran out immediately and notified the people in the store to find Zhu Shanshan. At this time, his car speed was too fast to describe, which shows how nervous he was this girl.
arrived at the hotel and searched hard for no results. He thought of turning on the alarm and found Shanshan at the first moment with intuition. Seeing Shanshan who was scared to cry, he directly punched the bad guy.
Afterwards, he was silently with Shanshan, comforting her to buy her favorite snacks, and taking her to watch movies. In order to make her happy bribe the boss of the claw machine, she asked Shanshan to "show off her skills", and secretly asked the store manager to give her a chance to stay.
And Zhu Shanshan is also a broad-minded girl. Every time the prince's clumsy coaxing method makes her smile. Even though she said every day that she wanted to find a wealthy man with a Shanghai household registration and a wealthy house, she was not a person who was jealous of money and was comparing with vanity.
She can forget all the misfortunes because of a few dolls, or forgive Wang Zijian for "not saving her" because of a cake. She can become the mascot of the entire store, or become her best friend with the store manager who is sad about her.
Many people say that she is stupid and has no mind, but because of her simplicity, Wang Zijian feels that such a girl is more to protect, and she will think of Wang Zijian as soon as she encounters difficulties.
This is an unconditional trust because the other party gives you an unconditional sense of security.
is going to propose to the goddess. At the moment when Wang Zijian turned around and left, Zhu Shanshan cried so sadly. She felt that she was going to lose Wang Zijian forever. On the way to the proposal, Wang Zijian finally woke up under Fang Sijin's on-demand. He turned his direction and came back to confess to Shanshan.
"I just left you and when I walked out, I suddenly felt that I might lose you forever. Zhu Shanshan, you vixen, I can no longer imagine what my world would be like without you. I would have been unable to live without you."
Although neither of them looked like the other half set by each other, in the day after day, the relationship between the two has long heated up into an unconscious love.
This is probably called "each each other dislikes each other but is afraid of losing it."
We often say who is born with whom, and who is the perfect couple. Actually, it’s not. The ones left are the ones who see through you and are still moved by you.
The best feeling between two people is that they dislike each other on the surface, but they never leave each other in their hearts.
The princes and princesses you fantasy may not love you much, but those who can despise you on one side and silently contribute to you on the other side must have you in their hearts. Isn’t the love between Prince Jian and Zhu Shanshan a microcosm of thousands of traditional Chinese couples? They quarreled for a lifetime and despised each other for a lifetime, but they always tolerate each other and accompany each other, and use their unyielding tacit understanding to support a home that shelters from the wind and rain.
In them, I can see a kind of marriage that is the most common way.
03 Zhang Chengcheng's love for Xu Wenchang: In the name of love, he is selfish, and he is the killer of love. After Zhang Chengcheng and Xu Wenchang were fake divorced, he could not withstand the temptation and had a new love, but he found that the new love could only play together but not live together. He had no income or ability, and could not give her a luxurious material life. So he still thought that Xu Wenchang was better and more reliable, and wanted to coax Xu Wenchang back. However, although Xu Wenchang is weak-hearted, the most intolerable thing should be emotional betrayal, because his mother committed suicide because of his father's betrayal.
So from the moment he packed his luggage and left home, he didn't want to pay attention to this woman, would never love her again, and would never look back.
Unfortunately, Zhang Chengcheng probably thought he was good at being good at being good at being good at acting cute and capable. He called "brother" on the left and "brother" on the right and teased Xu Wenchang, trying to do it again with him.
During this process, she naturally said "I love you" many times. obviously, her love is too fake. Maybe she does like Xu Wenchang, but that is not love anymore.
Because she loves herself more, she just needs Xu Wenchang, he needs the good life brought by his ability, he needs to be kind to himself, he needs to wash and cook for himself, and take good care of him.
Later, I became pregnant with someone else's child and needed Xu Wenchang to be the father of the child. So the love in her mouth is just a kind of possessiveness .
If Zhang Chengcheng really loves Xu Wenchang, he will not betray him first, no matter whether she is impulsive or not.
Secondly, after betrayal and hurt, if she loves him, she should respect his choice, she can apologize, ask for forgiveness, but not entangled.
And her entanglement with him has become a trouble for him. This trouble extends from the store to the rented home, which is not very annoying, but obviously a burden.
Although it seems that she is "pursuing" Xu Wenchang, chasing him and turning back, confessing her love to him, and begging for peace with him, it is just to achieve her own goals, not to love Xu Wenchang at all.
Blo said: "If I love you, as long as I know where you are, know that you are healthy, know that this relationship does not increase your burden, and know that you can see you one day, it's fine. If I love you, I will have you in the way you think you are safe and comfortable."
If your love brings trouble and trouble to the other party, then what you call love is not love, but your own selfish desires.
So, if you truly love someone, sometimes even if you can’t get him, you can’t be with him. But as long as you know that you live well and smoothly in this world, you are already happy and relieved.
If the other party does not need his own appearance or his company, then he will not be entangled and will not appear. respects every choice of him and loves and protects him in the way he likes. Isn’t it also a kind of love?
04 Love is to dedicate oneself and fulfill the other party
"An Jia" is a warm and healing realistic drama. It brings us not only complex thinking about the flavors of life, but also positive and optimistic attitude towards life, and of course profound reflection on love. That is: What does good love look like?
As society becomes more and more polarized, people's pursuit of material things is becoming stronger and stronger. Too many people regard love as a calculation problem. They calculate their family background, education, income, status, and efforts clearly, hoping to find the maximum value as much as possible.
They always yell at the verge of not believing in love anymore. They do not believe in time, life, or loyalty, for fear of being hurt at all.
But Fang Sijin and Xu Wenchang, They use sincerity and truth, and they use their three views and the mutual nourishment of the soul to tell us that true love is not calculated, measured, only mutual achievement, and only mutual support.
Wang Zijian and Zhu Shanshan, they used their daily quarrels and noises to tell us that ’s true love has no comparison, no scheming, only silent company, and only never leaving.
"I wish to win one person's heart, and never separate from my old age" is how many people pursue love, "I just wish that your heart is like my heart, and I will never let down my lovesickness" is how many people's persistence in love.
Indeed, knowing each other is love, and loving each other is love. After all, the meaning of love is not what you gain, but what you give.
Just like Xu Wenchang said: Love is to dedicate oneself and fulfill the other.
There is no calculation, no scheming, no dominance, no measurement, and no worth or not, only willing or not. True love doesn’t need to be said much. It may be between meals and vegetables, maybe it is in trivial matters, or it may be hidden in the first threshold of the sun.
This special period of the epidemic is raging, "Anjia" conveys the warmth between people by interpreting the love, family and friendship in contemporary society, making us always have beautiful expectations for the increasingly cruel social reality.
The story of Fang Sijin and Xu Wenchang, Wang Zijian and Zhu Shanshan allows us to appreciate the unique taste of love. Good love is to support each other and achieve each other. This is the greatest inspiration brought to me by love in "An Jia".
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