Welcome to follow @Yi Shuo, the place where women grow and gather. I hope you can withstand the difficulty of life without wearing armor. When watching "Star and Han", many people say that the heroine Cheng Shaoshang is pitiful and miserable. Some people also say that Shaoshang's

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However, after watching the plot several times, Shaoshang still likes it, but he cannot agree with this view. The same sentence can be discussed but not accepted. If the quarrel is, you are right, so you don’t need to continue reading.

Let’s talk about Shaoshang first, is it really that pitiful?

In the tone of Shaoshang's life, she has always emphasized that she was abandoned by her mother at birth, was a left-behind child for fifteen years, and was treated harshly by her grandmother and second uncle, almost losing her life.

Even when my parents return, my mother couldn't stand her, so she turned aside her cousin and suppressed her. After finally finding the beloved person, my mother didn't agree and later had to break off the engagement. Then he was forced to propose to the marriage by Ling Busi. After delivering his sincerity, he was finally abandoned. He walked into Changqiu Palace by himself, and once he entered it for five years. Is

miserable? It seems really miserable this way. But in fact, Shaoshang is not the one who is really miserable.

First of all, with Shaoshang's experience and personality, it is likely that he will meet bad people, but she does not. This is probably the halo of the heroine. Have you noticed

? When Shaoshang interacts with people, he cannot listen to unpleasant words. The so-called honest words are unpleasant. If you don’t think that sounds a little harsh, you should make more distinctions and then deal with them.

But Shao Shang is not. Whether it is the female girl bullying her or the mother Ling Buyi reminds her, her reactions are all thrilling to refute.

Liushenleilei When analyzing "Snow Mountain Flying Fox", Nanlan said that if a person makes you absolutely comfortable, everything goes to your heart, and caters to your heart everywhere, it is very likely that he is seducing you in dimensionality and has other intentions for you. I was deeply impressed by this passage of

and deeply agreed with it.

Actually, there is no need to look elsewhere, just watch the drama. He Zhaojun met Prince Xiao, which is a very real example. Interested friends can move to

, and then look at the pain that has always followed Shaoshang is the pain brought to her by her original family. However, I want to say that Shaoshang is the happiest female lady in this drama.

Let’s talk about the pain brought to everyone by the original family. In this drama, there are countless female women who are very unbearable.

For example, the princess is a family member like a pig teammate; for example, Luo Jitong is a family member who uses his daughter's marriage to cling to power; for example, Wang Gui, has a mother like Wen Xiujun. Interested friends can move

Her mother treats her harshly, but in her marriage, she gives her the right to make free choices. It can be said that everything is up to her, and she will not let her face the family difficulties and make choices.

Just as my mother asked Shao Shang, why do you think Ling Buyi would not make things difficult for you? It’s because he likes you and cares about you. So similarly, why can Shaoshang do whatever he wants in his own affairs? It also relies on her family’s love and unconditional support. Interested friends can move

Humanism Psychologist Adler said that happy people heal their lives with childhood, and unfortunate people heal their childhood with their lives.

Shaoshang has been healing her childhood, so she only saw the suffering she had suffered, but she could not see the happiness she had now.

Finally, let’s talk about Ling Buyi’s fate that led to her miserable fate. Let me first talk about Shaoshang and another lucky one that others don’t have, that is, she doesn’t have to bear the mission of the family.

Watch the women in the play, there are a few who do not carry the family mission, who have to rely on their family to live more or less, but there is no need for business. Her parents did not put pressure on her at all. On the contrary, they were trying to give her the greatest freedom.

So, when He Zhaojun reminded Shao Shang that Ling Buyi should have a deep hatred on his body, Shao Shang subconsciously refuted and disbelief.

Why can He Zhaojun see it? Because she had just experienced the tragic incident of her family being destroyed, she and Ling Buyi both carried the family mission and endured the torture of revenge. Shaoshang will never understand Ling Buyi because she has never experienced this.Even though she was treated harshly by her grandmother and second uncle, we should also note that the eldest mother and second uncle Ge had lived in the back house for a long time, and there was no pattern, let alone means or conspiracy, and sometimes they were stupid, so they were fooled by Shaoshang.

And Ling Buyi grew up in the palace since he was a child, and the bullying he suffered was far from what Shao Shang wanted. You see, Shaoshang is very good at dealing with those girls in the Lou family and the Wan family, but once she entered the palace, she had no choice but to face the domineering and cruelty of the third princess and the fifth princess.

This reminds me of " Dream Hualu ". Gu Qianfan reminded Zhao Paner that you can dance well among the people, but once you meet an official, you have no choice but to go to the capital.

The same thing, the people you face are different, and the treatment you suffer is also very different.

Writer Li Bihua said that if you have something to wait, it is life, and if you have something to regret, it is life.

The pitiful things that Shaoshang experienced can only be said to be a kind of regret in life, but it cannot reach the level of miserable fate, let alone pitiful.

Then why did Shaoshang choose to enter the palace for five years and lock himself in Changqiu Palace?

There are two things that prompted Shao Shang to enter the palace for five years. One thing is that she thought Ling Buyi had let her down and wanted to hide and heal her wounds, and was unwilling to live in the pity of her family's eyes; the other thing is that the queen asked herself to live in Changqiu Palace in seclusion, and she wanted to accompany the queen.

Just these two things, we can also see the inner entanglement and contradiction between Shaoshang. In my previous article, I talked about it. Shaoshang kept saying that he was forced to fall in love with Ling Buyi, which was actually an illusion.

Everyone must be responsible for their own choices, and Shaoshang’s so-called pushing away by fate is actually a choice for themselves.

Her eyes were only staring at Ling Buyi when he jumped off the cliff and pushed her away, but she never thought that if she had jumped off the cliff, would she have pulled Ling Buyi and jumped together?

So, she knew very well in her heart that she loved Ling Buyi, but she insisted on breaking the engagement to show that she would not forgive Ling Buyi.

In fact, breaking off the engagement is also a choice. Just like the third uncle, there is nothing wrong. Interested friends can move to

It can be said that Shaoshang closed himself in the Changqiu palace, not punishing himself, but punishing himself to punish all those who care about and love her.

Sometimes, I'm not sure that the queen has always let her live in Changqiu Palace. It seems to support her and understand her, but in fact it is considered a kind of selfishness?

A little more, without any intention of belittle the queen. She is a kind and good person, and I like it too. I'm full of desire to survive.

also loves Shaoshang's family. Because she has not returned home for five years, she is worried and uncomfortable, but her mother has been ill for five years.

Shaoshang was heart-sick, and his mother accompanied her to make her body sick. The so-called mother and son are in love with each other.

Shaoshang has always emphasized that she went to Changqiu Palace to accompany the queen to make up for Ling Buyi's debt to the queen. After all, Ling Bumi owes the Queen, so I won’t discuss it here. I will write a separate analysis in detail.

just want to say that Shaoshang has always asked Ling Buyi to understand himself and desire the couple to be together. However, when watching the full drama, why do you think Ling Buyi has always understood Shaoshang, but Shaoshang may not really understand Ling Buyi.

Ling Buyi understands Shaoshang's choice, realizes his mistake, goes to the northwest alone, silently protects Shaoshang without disturbing her. However, Shao Shang could not understand Ling Buyi's decision to take revenge, and could not understand why Ling Buyi wanted to depose the prince.

Even if it is, Ling Buyi explained to Shaoshang more than once the consequences of the prince being overwhelmed with reuse. In the matter of nepotism, Shao Shang was as unconscious as the Crown Princess.

If Shao Shang can let go, she can go home frequently during the five years after entering the palace. However, she chose not to go home and would explain herself that she has many people in her family now and probably has no place for her.

After all, Shao Shang lived a very twisted life before he got out of Changqiu Palace. On the one hand, he emphasized himself and used resistance as armor to prevent anyone from getting close to him. On the other hand, he accused others of abandoning her, making her feel depressed.

She picked up a lot of things, but she didn't have the courage to admit that she couldn't let go of many things, but she had no strength to bear it. These twists were not given to her by others, but by herself.

Look, when she escaped from the secret room and lost Ling Buyi in Hua County, she truly grew up, realized how valuable the things she has are now, and knew what to grasp and what to let go.

is not so much that Ling Buyi finally moved Shaoshang and exchanged trust again, it is better to say that Shaoshang has truly grown.

F Bing gave Shao Shang a map of mountains and rivers, so that she could see the world and not be trapped in her heart. Fortunately, she finally did it.

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