Jia Mu : Daiyu , I have delayed mentioning your marriage because I was afraid that you would have no place to go
When I read Dream of Red Mansions, I always had a question, and that was Jia Mu's attitude towards Bao Dai's marriage. From the book Wang Xifeng made a tea-leaf joke to Daiyu, Jia Mu's attitude is very clear, that is, she supports Baodai's marriage. Otherwise, as Wang Xifeng, she would never dare to make such a joke.
87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" stills of Wang Xifeng
In fact, in addition to Wang Xifeng's tea-eating joke, Baochai himself also made fun of Daiyu about Baoyu. Even and Jia Lian's servants knew very well about Baodai's marriage. Once they were a few years old, the old lady would not hesitate to speak.
Xing'er said with a smile: "In terms of appearance and behavior, they are a good couple. It's just that he already has one, but he has not yet shown his appearance. The future must be decided by Miss Lin. Because Miss Lin is sick, both of them are She was still young, so she had not yet reached this point. After three or two years, the old lady spoke, which was absolutely accurate.
Xing'er speculated on the reason why Baodai's marriage was not mentioned. First, Daiyu was sick, and secondly, Baodai was still young. In fact, these were not the reasons why Jia Mu did not propose marriage to Daiyu, because Baoqin, who was younger than Baodai, was already engaged at this time. Shi Xiangyun They have already met each other, and they are about to have a husband. In the 45th chapter of Dream of Red Mansions, Daiyu clearly mentions her age. According to the ancient women's age of fifteen, Daiyu has already reached the age of hair. Marriage age. But at this time. The mother had no intention of mentioning Daiyu's marriage. Zijuan was a little anxious and wanted to test Baoyu, but the result was that everyone in the family knew about it and the commotion was very big. Although her mother did not blame Zijuan for her recklessness, she did not mention Daiyu's marriage. Instead, Aunt Xue tried to figure out Jia Mu's intentions. Thinking, in the fifty-seventh chapter, he said the four-cornered words that made everyone in Xiaoxiang Pavilion happy. Unfortunately, there is no follow-up.
Stills of Aunt Xue in the 1987 version of "Dream of Red Mansions"
Aunt Xue persuaded her with a smile and separated her with her hands. She then said to Baochai: "My daughter, I was afraid that your brother would ruin her, so I told your brother." Not to mention this child, I will never give it to him. Because the old lady Qian'er wanted to tell Baoyu about your sister, she happened to have another family, otherwise it would be a good match. I made an appointment with Xing's daughter some time ago, and the old lady even teased me and said, "I originally wanted to marry him, but I didn't know that he didn't get it. Instead, he mentioned that one of ours was gone." 'Although it's a stubborn statement, it does make some sense if you think about it carefully. I thought that even though Baoqin had a family, even though I had no one to give to, how could I not say a word? I thought, your dear brother, the old lady loves him so much, and he behaves like this. If you want to talk about it outside, it will definitely not be tolerated. Why don't you decide to marry your sister Lin to him? Wouldn't it be all right? "
Perhaps Aunt Xue just made a joke to Daiyu in response to the situation and promised a bad check that could not be cashed. But at least in Aunt Xue's heart, she was also very clear about Jia Mu's thoughts. The person Jia Mu chose for Baoyu was Daiyu. She knew this well. The words she made to Daiyu in Xiaoxiang Pavilion, what happened later. It is not mentioned again because it has something to do with the golden marriage and Mrs. Wang's attitude towards Bao Dai's marriage.
Everyone knows that Daiyu's marriage is all about Jia Mu, but Jia Mu has never made it clear from the beginning to the end. Daiyu’s marriage was mentioned, which made readers very confused, especially after reading h In the last forty chapters written by tml1, Gao E doubts Jia Mu's love for Daiyu. In fact, Jia Mu's love for Daiyu has never changed. At the Lantern Festival banquet in the fifty-fourth chapter, Jia Mu was afraid of setting off fireworks. Daiyu was weak and couldn't bear the sound of the firecrackers, so she hugged Daiyu specially. This single action showed Jia Mu's love for Daiyu. No one else can compare to Baoyu.
87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" Stills of Jia Mu
In fact, the reason why Jia Mu didn't mention Daiyu's marriage turned out to be a behavior with Mrs. Xing in the fifty-seventh chapter. related.
87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" stills of Mrs. Mrs. "Here you go, Mrs. Xing.
In this passage, because Xing Xiuyan was engaged to Xue Ta, Mrs. Xing was afraid that it would not be suitable for Xing Xiuyan to live in Grand View Garden again, so she prepared to take her out, but was persuaded by Jia Mu, and then she gave up. In fact, there is nothing wrong with Mrs.
87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" stills of Xing Xiuyan
Xing Xiuyan only lives in the Grand View Garden of Jia Mansion, not in the Xue family. Mrs. Xing, because Xue Baochai and Xue Baoqin lived in the garden, and Aunt Xue often went to the Grand View Garden. She was afraid that there would be bad gossip, so she had to take Xing Xiuyan out, not to mention Daiyu, who had been living in Jia's house all year round, especially if she was engaged. avoid arousing suspicion.
If Daiyu's first visit to Jia's Mansion was a temporary stay to visit relatives, then her second visit to Jia's Mansion was a complete orphanage and she came to live in Jia's Mansion for a long time. No matter how much property and dowry Lin Ruhai left Daiyu, with the kind of love Jia Mu had for her daughter Jia Min, she would not abandon Daiyu. After Lin Ruhai died, Jia Mu specifically asked Jia Lian to bring her back, which showed that Jia Mu had no intention of letting Daiyu go back.
87 version of Daiyu's stills in "A Dream of Red Mansions"
Since Jia Mu wanted to cultivate Baodai's feelings, and in order to keep her daughter Jia Min's only flesh and blood by her side, her only way was to marry Daiyu to Baoyu. The reason why she has not officially mentioned Daiyu's marriage is related to Daiyu's status as an orphan. Mrs. Xing knew how to avoid suspicion and wanted to take Xing Xiuyan, who was engaged to the Xue family, out of the Grand View Garden. How could Mrs. Jia not think of this?
Jia Mu delayed getting Bao Dai engaged because she was afraid that Daiyu would have no place to go. Daiyu can't leave Jia's house and go back to her hometown in Suzhou, or stay temporarily with other relatives in Jia's house, such as the Xue family. But the Xue family still lives in Jia Mansion, so this road is not feasible. Jia's mother should have been worried about Daiyu's marriage. She was just worried that Daiyu would leave Jia's house after her engagement and had nowhere to go, so she didn't mention Daiyu's marriage for a long time.
Just as Zijuan said, it is important to do big things as early as possible while the old lady is still strong. But Jia Mu ignored these, thinking that her health was fine and she could wait a few more years. Outsiders speculated that the reason was that Daiyu was in poor health, Baodai was still young, and Jia Mu said that Baoyu was not destined to marry early.
87 version of "Dream of Red Mansions" stills of Bao Dai
In fact, we all know in our hearts that those words of Jia Mu were meant for the Xue family, not for Daiyu. There is only one reason for Daiyu's delay in mentioning her marriage, and that is that Jia Mu loves Daiyu so much that she is reluctant to leave her and is worried that she will have nowhere to go after her engagement. Besides, when ancient women got engaged and got married, unlike when we get married today, they had nowhere to go and could stay in hotels or hotels. At that time, an engaged woman could only wait at home to prepare her wedding items. She could no longer live with relatives, let alone meet her husband's family.
I am Xiao Meng, telling you the story in "A Dream of Red Mansions".
Reference works: by Cao Xueqin , Zhi Yanzhai's review of "A Dream of Red Mansions" by Zhi Huiben
