Originally a happy family
Huang Jiaqian was born in Taiwan, China on June 13, 1973. He is a Taiwanese host, singer and actor. He met and fell in love with Canadian Xia Keli in 2005 while filming "Emmanuelle" .
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quickly entered the palace of marriage two years later, completing the process from strangers to lovers, and then developed into the best friends of the two surnames.
In 2015, Xia Keli and his daughter Xia Keli appeared in the popular domestic reality show "Where Are We Going, Dad 3". On July 10 of the same year, Huang Jiaqian participated in the show instead of her husband Xia Keli, so he became well known to the Chinese people.
The two of them are always very affectionate in programs and interviews, giving the outside world the impression of a sweet and happy relationship. They are a model couple in the eyes of the public.
Encountered a roadblock in marriage - no communication after conflicts
It is reported that in 2009, 36-year-old Huang Jiaqian gave birth to her daughter Xia Tian, who was considered an advanced maternal age at that time. But her husband Xia Keli especially loved children. After the birth, the two had a dispute about whether to have more children.
Huang Jiaqian was naturally unwilling. As a woman, she knew her own physical condition best. For older mothers, giving birth is inherently risky, and she also revealed on a show that she had had an abortion before, making it difficult to get pregnant again.
In the past year, due to the epidemic, they were no longer together and even began to live in separate places. Now, news of divorce has been revealed.
In the life of every couple, both parties will inevitably have trivial conflicts in life, and they will inevitably quarrel over matters such as having children. This is a normal and natural phenomenon. As the saying goes, a small quarrel means good feelings; a big quarrel means no worries.
However, because they were separated in two places, they lacked necessary communication and companionship, and lacked opportunities for face-to-face communication. In the end, they fell into the abyss step by step, heading towards the dead end of love and the tomb of marriage, and their 16-year marriage was eliminated midway.
We all know the horror of separation in different places. However, due to the pressure of life and the epidemic, how should we maintain our marriage when we have to separate?
1. Actively communicate . When the couple is in a different place, they should keep in touch with each other every day. At this point, we must adhere to three points: if can make calls, we will never message; if we can make video calls, we will never make calls; if we can meet, we will never make videos.
Former President of the United States Obama and his wife Michelle once experienced separation in two places.
At that time, they could only meet once a week. But even if they don't meet, they often talk on the phone to let each other know their status, so their relationship has always been very harmonious.
2. The couple should try to stay in sync and participate in some online activities together to increase their shared experiences. It is easy for couples living in two places to feel that "the other party does not value me".
In order to avoid this situation, you can combine leisure and entertainment with accompanying your lover.
For example, use the screen sharing function of Tencent Conference to watch the same movie or TV series together.
3. Frequently tell the other party how you feel. When you encounter conflicts and quarrels, you must learn to control your emotions and express your feelings to the other party reasonably so that the other party can know what kind of state you are in now.
Both parties should reflect on their own behavior, then take a step back, take the initiative to communicate effectively , only communication can produce understanding.
Although the other person has been sleeping with you for many years, human joys and sorrows are not the same, and we usually cannot intuitively feel the other person's true emotions.
People only have the same language. You should learn to express to each other and learn to understand each other.
