all say that today is a society that values appearance. If the same thing is done by a beautiful woman or an ugly woman, the results and courtesy may be very different.
According to survey data from some foreign media, 95% of people believe that appearance is important to success, and 69% of companies select employees based on appearance.
Even human beings have the instinct to like beautiful things. After all, "Everyone has the love of beauty" . For example: many boys liked beautiful aunts when they were young. Even if this aunt is not gentle, they are more attracted to them than gentle and not beautiful aunts. At the same time, they especially like to play with beautiful little girls and are willing to give her their candies. I am willing to carry her schoolbag and so on.
I remember that the heroine in a movie once said with tears in her eyes: "She was so beautiful that she did nothing but flirt with him, and my boyfriend left with her."
This sentence , I don’t know how many audiences’ hearts were touched.
In this regard, Oscar Wilde, the pioneer of aestheticism, also said: "When something beautiful has a fault, you must forgive it indiscriminately; when something ugly has a fault, you must despise it regardless of the conscience of heaven and earth."
visible , How lethal is "beauty" to human beings.
However, from ancient times to the present, regardless of men or women, it seems that the fate of ugly people is happier than that of beautiful (handsome) people.
Take a look at the life fate of the "Four Beauties" and the "Four Beauties" in ancient China, which can be called "Since ancient times, beauties have had a bad life, and who can pity them when they die?" ; Let's take a look at the "Four Beauties" in ancient times. The life destiny of the "ugly girl" and the "four ugly men" is instead "I have been lucky enough to meet the emperor's destiny for a thousand years, and I have been born as a saint in two lifetimes" .
How tragic is the fate of the "Four Beauties" and the "Four Beauties"?
Traditionally, later generations regarded " Xi Shi, Wang Zhaojun, Diao Chan, Yang Yuhuan" as the four beauties of ancient China, and they enjoyed the "appearance of sinking fish and falling geese, and the appearance of closing the moon and shying flowers" The praises include: sinking fish refers to Xi Shi, falling geese refers to Wang Zhaojun, closed moon refers to Diao Chan, shameful flower refers to Yang Yuhuan, and each of them is a wonderful historical allusion.
Xi Shi - "Death without a burial place"
Xi Shi "Born with beauty, charming the country", whose real name is Shi Yiguang, who lived with his mother since childhood in Yue Kingdom Senwu Zhuluo Village (today's Shaoxing City, Zhejiang Province Zhuji Zhuluo Village) by the Huansha River, so she is also called "Huansha Girl".
▲After the four beauties of ancient China
Yue King Gou Jian were defeated in the war against Wu State , Xi Shi was dedicated by Fan Li to King Wu Fu Cha , with the purpose of letting Fu Cha indulge in wine and sex and become destitute in state affairs.
In the end, Xi Shi sacrificed her youth and beauty to achieve Gou Jian's dream of rejuvenating the country. Moreover, some people call her the representative figure of "Beauty is a disaster" and "A daughter who is a disaster to the country".
As for the ending of Xi Shi, some say that she hanged herself out of guilt; some say that she was drowned by Fan Li; some say that she was drowned by Wu people; some say that she was drowned by Gou Jian; some say that she was drowned by Echigo; some say that she was drowned by Fan Li. take away. Anyway, it suddenly disappeared into the vast mist of history.
Wang Zhaojun - married Xiongnu Chanyu and his son, the marriages were short-lived. Later, his request to return home was rejected, and he died in a foreign land. He was only 33 years old. In 33 BC, Wang Zhaojun was granted marriage to Huhanxiedan by Emperor Yuan of the Han Dynasty. He married a Xiongnu and lived with Huhanxie for three years. He died of illness and gave birth to a son, named Yi Tu Zhi Ya Shi , and he was named King Youri Zhu.
After the death of Hu Hanxie Chanyu, according to the etiquette system of Han Dynasty , Wang Zhaojun could have returned to his homeland. Therefore, Wang Zhaojun wrote to the Han court, requesting to return home, but Emperor Cheng of the Han Dynasty refused and ordered her to "follow the Hu customary marriage system."
In desperation, Wang Zhaojun had to remarry Hu Hanxie Shanyu's eldest son Fu Zhulei Shanyu , and they had two daughters (the eldest daughter's name was Xubu Juci, and the second daughter's name was Dengyu Juci). He only lived for two years, and Chanyu also died of illness.
After that, in less than two years, Wang Zhaojun died due to illness in a foreign country. He was only 33 years old.
I remember when I left my parents at the age of 18, I took the train all the way. Therefore, in the first three years, whenever I heard the sound of the train, I felt particularly homesick. Not to mention an 18-year-old girl. Not only is she far away from her hometown and relatives, but her living environment is completely different. She has never had a chance to go back and take a look in her life. She misses her home and parents so much. Lonely and sad.
Diao Chan - In order to save the Han Dynasty, regardless of her own safety, she dealt with the two great heroes Dong Zhuo and Lu Bu, and carried out a series of schemes, but ended up missing.
Diao Chan was the adopted daughter of Situ Wang Yun in the late Eastern Han Dynasty. In order to save the Han Dynasty, regardless of his own safety, he married Dong Zhuo first and then served Lu Bu. He circled between the two powerful men and implemented a series of schemes. The degree of danger can be imagined.
In the end, the evil thief Dong Zhuo was successfully eliminated with the help of Lu Bu. After Dong Zhuo's death, Diao Chan was taken as a concubine by Lu Bu. However, after Lu Bu's defeat in Xiapi, Diao Chan suddenly disappeared while following Lu Bu's family to Xuchang. It is unknown whether
was killed or remained anonymous. Anyway, he suddenly disappeared.
Of course, there is still controversy about the authenticity of Diao Chan.
Yang Yuhuan - hanged to death, no bones left.
Yang Yuhuan had a gentle personality, gorgeous appearance, good at singing and dancing, and proficient in music. She first married the longevity king Li Hao (the eighteenth son of Tang Xuanzong Li Longji), and was later admitted to the palace by Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty and canonized as a noble concubine.
According to the records of "New Tang Book" and " Old Tang Book ", during the Anshi Rebellion, Yang Yuhuan accompanied Emperor Xuanzong of Tang Dynasty to the Shu area. When passing through Mawei Station, in order to appease the soldiers who rebelled, he was given a white silk silk and was hanged to death in the Buddhist hall. Under the pear tree, he was only 38 years old.
Regarding this, Bai Juyi wrote in "Song of Everlasting Sorrow": "The Sixth Army has no choice but to do nothing, and it will die in front of the horse."
After the Anshi Rebellion was settled, Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty sent people to search for Concubine Yang's body, but they could not find it.
Traditionally, later generations call " Pan An, King Lanling, Song Yu, Wei Jie" the four most beautiful men in ancient China.
Pan An - Because his three clans were exterminated
Pan An, a famous writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, is known as the "Heyang County Flower" .
According to "Shishuo Xinyu", every time Pan An went out to play, a large number of girls would chase him and offer him flowers and fruits. Every time I go home, I always come back loaded with flowers (fruits), which is a bit like the star-chasing scenes of later generations. Therefore, there is an allusion of "throwing fruitful cars" .
However, in the Eight Kings Rebellion , due to his misfortune, he was involved in the tragedy of deposing the prince and causing the prince's biological mother to be executed. Sima Lun, the king of Zhao who succeeded in seizing power, killed the three clans.
King of Lanling - the God of War of the Northern Qi Dynasty, died unjustly.
King of Lanling, formerly known as Gao Changgong, also known as Gao Xiaoguan, Gao Su, was a clan member and general of the Northern Qi Dynasty in the Southern and Northern Dynasties, and was awarded the title of King of Lanling.
- " Northern Qi Shu " and " Northern History " record the appearance of King Lanling in this way: "soft appearance, strong heart, beautiful voice and appearance".
- "The Monument of King Zhongwu in Lanling" says of him: "The style is cheerful and the instrument is colorful and clear."
- "Old Tang Book·Music Chronicles" says of him: "talented and beautiful" .
- "The Sui and Tang Dynasties" says of him: "White and beautiful woman" .
Although King Lanling was a truly handsome man, he was also the God of War of the Northern Qi Dynasty. According to the "Book of Northern Qi", he once stormed into the Northern Zhou army with 500 elite cavalry, dismantled the Jin Yong City, and was besieged, so he was called the God of War of the Northern Qi Dynasty.
After the defeat of Mangshan , Chang Gong was in the middle army and led 500 cavalry to reenter the Zhou army. He then reached the foot of Jin Yong and was severely surrounded. The people on the city didn't recognize him, so they showed their respects and showed off their armor, so they lowered their crossbows to save him, which led to a great victory.
Although King Lanling spent half his life in the army and made great achievements in battle, instead of bringing himself glory, it brought him misfortune.
▲ King Lanling
After the victory at Mangshan, King Lanling was jealous of his successor Gao Wei and was given a glass of poisoned wine. Before his death, he said to his beloved concubine Zheng with great grief and indignation: "I am loyal to my duty, why should I be betrayed by heaven and be poisoned!"
Zheng advised him: "Why don't you ask to see the beauty of heaven?" , Maybe it can save a life. However, at this time, he had lost all hope. After saying "How can you see the beauty of the sky!" , he drank the poisonous wine in one gulp. Before his death, he burned all the bonds owed to him.
Later generations of Du Yuesheng, I wonder if he ever learned from him, also burned all the IOUs from others to lend him money before his death.
Song Yu——died full of regrets
People often use "as beautiful as Song Yu, as beautiful as Pan An" to describe a man's handsomeness. However, there are not many historical records about how beautiful Song Yu is. They are basically based on the records in "Dengtuzi Luosefu".
"Deng Tuzi is Lustful" describes Song Yu's beauty like this. Deng Tuzi reported to the King of Chu that Song Yu was too beautiful, eloquent, and lustful by nature. He must not be allowed to go to the harem, so as not to confuse the king's harem. Beauty.
Song Yu, also known as Ziyuan, is said to be a student of Qu Yuan. The so-called "Lower Riba Man", "Yangchun Baixue", "Qu Gao and few" and other allusions all come from him.
Although Song Yu's achievements are difficult to compare with Qu Yuan's, later generations often refer to him as "Qu Song" . Li Bai once said "Qu Song passed away for a long time, and there is nothing to be said about it.". This shows Song Yu’s status in the history of literature. During the
period, he worked as a literary attendant for the King of Chu. Because he was not good at being an official, his official career was bleak, so he had to return to his hometown and ended his life full of regrets. He was about seventy-six years old. The best ending among the four beauties.
Wei Jie - because there were too many "fans" onlookers, he was "watched to death". He was only 27 years old.
Wei Jie, also known as Shubao, was a metaphysician in Jin Dynasty and became the crown prince Xian Ma.
He and his father-in-law Le Guang were famous throughout the country. People at the time commented: "My father-in-law is as clear as ice, and my son-in-law is as smooth as jade."
html When Wei Jie arrived in Kyoto from Yuzhang County in 0312, people came out to watch one after another and surrounded him like a wall, making it difficult to escape for a while.Originally, Wei Jie was suffering from a weak illness, but now his body couldn't bear it. He fainted on the spot, and this handsome man of his generation passed away. This is a pity.
Therefore, there is an allusion of "watch and kill Wei Jie" .
In the Tang Dynasty , some people still lamented the death of Wei Jie: "The ladies in the capital are so crazy that they don't know how to kill beauties."
Regarding the "Four Beauties" in ancient times, there is another saying: "Pan An" , Lanling Wang, Ji Kang , Wei Jie" , removed "Song Yu" and added "Ji Kang".
Ji Kang, a thinker, musician, and writer during the Three Kingdoms period Cao Wei , was executed by the general Sima Zhao when he was forty years old. The result was equally tragic. Before
's death, 3,000 Taipei students collectively petitioned for his pardon from the imperial court, but did not receive approval. Before his execution, he looked calm and played "Guangling San" on the piano, then calmly killed him, so he was praised by future generations.
On the contrary, the fate of the "Four Ugly Women" and "Four Ugly Men" in ancient China was very lucky.
How lucky are the fates of the "Four Ugly Women" and "Four Ugly Men"?
According to traditional saying, the four ugly women in ancient China are "Mother", Zhongli Chun, Meng Guang, and Ruan Shi".
Auntu - The Yellow Emperor defeated Emperor Yan and killed Chiyou, all because of Auntu's internal help. Legend has it that the Yellow Emperor defeated Emperor Yan and killed Chiyou, all because of the help of his concubine.
Her ugliness is described in "Four Sons' Theory of Morality": "My mother is a Japanese puppet, and those who praise her well cannot cover up her ugliness" .
The later commonly known as the Niangniang Temple refers to the Temple of Leizu and Mu, which was built to commemorate the achievements of Huang Di's Yuan concubine Leizu and second concubine Mu.
Zhong Lichun - was made queen by King Xuan of Qi because of his talent.
Zhong Lichun, also known as Zhong Wuyan, Zhong Wuyan, was the wife of King Qi Xuan. In later generations, people often used "seemingly without salt" to describe ugly women.
▲Zhongli Chun and King Xuan of Qi
According to historical records, Zhongli Chun was "unmarried in his forties", "extremely ugly", had a "sunken head and deep eyes, a long belly and knotty knots, a raised nose and throat, a fat crown and few hairs" , and "skin paint" .
However, she was very concerned about national affairs. She once took the initiative to see King Xuan of Qi, and accused him face to face of extravagance and corruption, and stated the four major dangers of Qi State . King Qi Xuan was very moved, so he made her his queen.
Later, King Xuan of Qi adopted his words, "Destroy the stage, stop the female music, withdraw from the flattery, advance outspokenly, select troops and horses, strengthen the treasury, and make the Qi country safe".
Meng Guang - the creator of the allusion of "raising a case to raise eyebrows"
Meng Guang looks "incomparably crude", "fat, ugly and black", "strengthening a stone mortar" , but she has the reputation of a virtuous woman.
In later generations, people often use the expression "raising the case to raise eyebrows" to describe the harmonious atmosphere of the couple. Meng Guang and her husband Liang Hong are the creators of the allusion of "raising the case to raise eyebrows". It can be seen how happy and harmonious the couple lived.
Ruan family - the husband and wife respect and love each other and grow old together
Ruan family, the wife of Xu Yun, a celebrity in the Eastern Jin Dynasty . On their wedding night, Xu Yun was almost scared away because of Ruan's ugly appearance. As a result, he was grabbed by Ruan and could not escape.
So, while struggling, Xu Yun said that Ruan's "female virtues (women's virtues, women's speech, women's appearance, women's skills) are lacking" , while he "has all the qualities" , which means that the two of them are not. A perfect match.
However, Ruan said that the only thing he lacked in the "four virtues" was "feminine appearance", while Xu Yun lacked "the most important virtues, how can you say that you have them all?" Xu Yun was asked Left speechless. From then on, the husband and wife respected and loved each other until they grew old together.
According to traditional saying, the four ugly men in ancient China are " Yan Ying, Zuo Si, Bao Zheng, Liu Yong". They are all virtuous ministers and good-looking men who have been passed down through the ages, and their lives are like opening up. It's normal, the career is booming, but the ending is perfect.
▲Liu Yong
and later Jack Ma . According to him, when he first went to KFC to apply for a job, there were 24 classmates who went with him, 23 of them were successful, but he was the only one who didn't get in; later, Jack Ma went there again There were five classmates who applied for the police job, and four of them were successful. He was the only one who didn't get in. Everyone knows the reason.
For this reason, Jack Ma once defended: "People say I am ugly, I just have a unique look."
As the saying goes: "One rich can cover up all ugliness." As long as you achieve something in life, no matter how ugly you are. , will also be praised as the counterattack legend of " ugly duckling turned into white swan ". On the contrary, no matter how beautiful and handsome you are, if you are treated as a "playing pawn" by others, you will surely end up with the "beauties have had a bad life since ancient times" tragic ending.
Although people always hope that there will be no regrets in life, in fact, "Nothing is perfect, and there are always shortcomings in life" . When God gives you beauty, it seems that it will make you lose a lot of luck; when God gives you luck, it seems that it will make you feel the troubles caused by ugliness. Therefore, whether it is beautiful or ugly, whether it is successful or failed, as long as you work hard and struggle, and face it with the indifferent attitude of "Everything depends on people, success depends on God" , this actually means leaving no regrets in life. .
