At first glance, "divorce" seems to be a matter between two people. However, once both parties have children, those days when it is difficult to reach a consensus or even have fierce arguments will become the most difficult pain in the children's childhood memories. The Children's Welfare Alliance Cultural and Educational Foundation (hereinafter referred to as the Children's Welfare Alliance), which has been paying attention to children's rights and family issues for many years, has conducted numerous family investigations and found that divorce will certainly cause harm to children, but adults also need professional assistance so that they can find each other. After getting rid of the crux of the deterioration of the relationship, even if you still decide to divorce afterwards, you can still give your children the companionship, warmth and love they need from the perspective of "co-parenting"!
Even if they are not married, they can still "grow up with their children"!
Celebrities demonstrate "rational breakup" to open up a new way of life for parent-child relationships
No longer will divorce lead to divorce, in recent years, artist couples have chosen to get together and break up! Artist Arnold recently announced his divorce from his husband. While wishing each other the best for the future, he also emphasized that he wanted to "be a good parent to his children." The KOL science wife, whose marriage ended not long ago, also learned about the term and concept of "cooperative parent" for the first time during the consultation. This "heart relationship" was widely discussed in the spotlight, causing many netizens to discuss and reflect.
In this modern era where the divorce rate remains high, many people have gradually realized that "divorce is not a bad thing." If both parties can reach a consensus and break up peacefully with a rational attitude that "least harm to the children", then even if they divorce, they can still divorce. The "cooperative model" is to be your child's forever parent. This friendly alliance that emphasizes "parent cooperation" is the concept of "co-parenting" that the Child Welfare Alliance strives to provide at the same time as the "Divorce Parent-child Maintenance Service" and hopes to promote it!
Children need to be heard too! The Child Welfare Alliance promotes "child/family discussion" to minimize the trauma of divorce
Adults understand that "divorce" will have a negative impact on children, but "I don't know how to discuss it with my children" and "Will they understand?" Questions such as this are also one of the key points that make it difficult for most parents to communicate with their children. As a coordinating role, the Child Welfare Alliance has been striving to provide "divorced parent-child maintenance services" since 1999. Although it focuses on "children's needs", it can also lead the way in conjunction with consulting services such as "child/family consultation" Adults should not act out of emotion during the divorce process and minimize the damage of divorce.
Diandian's (pseudonym) parents have been quarreling frequently since he was born. In the end, his father wanted to end this tired marriage, while his mother believed that a complete family must have a father and a mother... After the couple separated for a period of time, they decided to seek help from the Children's Alliance for negotiation. Under the suggestion of the social worker "Do you want to listen to the child's voice?", they also used a professional child negotiator to understand the mood of the preschooler Dot in the form of drawing and cutting. . Diandian revealed in the painting that he likes to live with his father and his mother, but "mom and dad will quarrel when they are together, but Diandian doesn't like to quarrel." The negotiator and social worker brought Diandian's thoughts back to the discussion with his parents. Both of them were surprised that although the child was young, he was actually quite direct about the negative feelings caused by adults' emotional wrestling. The mother, who originally insisted on not getting divorced, reconsidered the possibility of a peaceful breakup. In the end, the two parties reached a consensus to "let Diandian have parents who love him wholeheartedly."
In addition to the above-mentioned "child and child consultation", the Child Welfare Alliance will also further provide "family consultation" for families who have been or are discussing divorce to provide assessment and assistance according to different situations. Among them, when encountering domestic violence or one of the parties refuses to consult, the Child Welfare Alliance will also give other suggestions and respect, but it may also help each other face the marital problems through consultation, and then improve the marital status! However, in any case, the ultimate purpose of "Children/Family Matters Discussion" is not only to give minor children the right to express their opinions, but also to let the children clearly understand that even though their parents are getting divorced, they do not need to sympathize with one party because of life changes. The mood changes the feelings towards another person. Through the active care of social workers, we can resolve the tangled emotions in the child's heart, and discuss with the parents the best separation arrangements for both parties and the child, ultimately achieving a win-win result of "co-parenting".
is not just for kids! "Divorced parent-child rights protection services" also need to untie the knots in adults' hearts.
In fact, at the family negotiation site, negotiators often find that many parents have a "good for their children" mentality and would rather endure a period when they are not happy. of marriage…. Through discussions, after parents can correctly interpret their children's views, they can naturally let go of their imagined anxieties and inexplicable persistence. While giving each other freedom, they can also continue the parent-child relationship in a positive way.
Modern society no longer has only one single expectation and imagination for marriage and family relationships. Regardless of whether the marriage relationship exists or not, "co-parenting" is also a growth issue that modern parents must face together! Through the Child Welfare Alliance's "Divorce Parent-Child Maintenance Service", children can still enjoy the irreplaceable love from their parents, and each other has the opportunity to develop a "parent-child relationship", but it must be admitted that everything is also the beginning of a "new challenge"! However, as long as parents can establish a cooperative attitude rationally and firmly, and have the courage to ask for help through the Child Welfare Alliance and other units when necessary, these will become the most valuable lessons in life for their children, and even for themselves!
