Recently, principal Zhang Guimei , who was appointed to run a girls' middle school, became a hot search topic because of something she said in an interview.
Previously, Principal Zhang Guimei attracted widespread attention for her founding of Huaping Girls' High School. She suffered from 23 diseases, but she founded the country's first all-free public girls' high school and changed the fate of 1,804 girls in poor mountainous areas. Therefore, she was Known as the "Randeng Principal".
But this time, Zhang Guimei was unwilling to accept donations from a student who became a full-time housewife, and even shouted "get out" angrily, which caused some controversy.
Principal Zhang’s original words were this -
"She led her doll and husband and held a large push of money (for donations). I said get out." "We have provided you until now, and you are now Instead, she became a full-time wife. "
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" When a man comes home, everything is ready-made, and he will find someone else, because after a long time, you and he have no common ground, completely gone, and you are regarded by society. After being eliminated...you can't help his career, and you no longer have the ability to come up with ideas. You have been kept at the original level, and you have been grinding and grinding, and you are no longer at the original level. I am most opposed to being a full-time housewife."
She concluded at the end of the video, "Women must be tough on themselves and rely on their own abilities to live, and cannot rely on men."
"Principal Ran Deng"
In 2020, "Zhang Guimei". Her name and her deeds spread throughout the country.
In July this year, the college entrance examination results of various provinces across the country were announced one after another. The Propaganda Department of Huaping County Committee released a set of data: This year, 159 students from Huaping Women's High School took the college entrance examination, 9 of them achieved junior college scores, and the remaining 150 students all went to undergraduate degrees. There are 17 people with a score of 600 or above, and 70 people with a score of 1st or above. The maximum score for science subjects is 651, and the maximum score for liberal arts subjects is 619.
As a completely free girls' high school, such college entrance examination results quickly attracted the attention of the outside world, and more people focused on Zhang Guimei, the founder and principal of Huaping Girls' High School.
When she was 17 years old, Zhang Guimei from Heilongjiang came to Yunnan with her sister who supported the third-line construction. While working as a teacher in Huaping County, she was already well-known as a "good teacher" in the county. She found that "female students disappeared as they read." There are various reasons for them not to study: in order to pay tuition for their younger brothers, their elder sisters were ordered by their parents to drop out of school and go home to do farm work or go out to work; because they have received bride price, teenage girls are also preparing to get married.
"Cultivating a girl can influence at least three generations. If we can cultivate educated and responsible mothers, children in the mountains will not drop out of school, let alone become orphans." Build a free school for these girls in the mountains The idea of high school began to take root in Zhang Guimei's heart, "Life is not easy, even if you try the college entrance examination."
For this "crazy" dream, she began to run around to raise funds, and was exposed to wind and rain, was left out, and was reviled. , but only raised 10,000 to 20,000 yuan. Until 2007, Zhang Guimei was elected as a representative of the 17th National Congress of the Communist Party of China. During her visit to Beijing to attend the conference, an interview report titled ""I Have a Dream"" made more people understand Zhang Guimei's dream of female high school, and the female high school project therefore start up. Governments at all levels of Yunnan Province, city and county invested 60 million yuan, and it took 7 years of construction before the school reached its current scale.
In 2008, Huaping Girls' Senior High School was officially established. In this year, Zhang Guimei was 51 years old.
The time at Huaping Girls' High School is calculated in minutes: 5 minutes to wash up in the morning, 10 minutes to get ready for reading, and 1 minute to stand in line for exercises. Students almost always run when entering and exiting the teaching building, going to the cafeteria, and returning to the dormitory. In order to save time, students from Girls' High School go to Huaping County Hospital to see a doctor without queuing.
Huaping Girls' High School does not hold parent-teacher meetings. Instead, Zhang Guimei travels 110,000 kilometers to visit her parents. Since the establishment of Huaping Girls' High School in 2008, Zhang Guimei has been traveling on this home visit route for 12 years, covering one district and four counties in Lijiang City. During the home visit, Zhang Guimei donated money and clothes to the students' families, helped build roads, build water cellars, mediate disputes, and develop industries. She got lost, had a high fever, broke a rib, relapsed from an old illness, and almost fainted on the road. After every home visit, I would fall seriously ill.
While working intensively, Zhang Guimei also endured pain: osteoma, pulmonary fibrosis, cerebellar atrophy... 23 kinds of diseases, and she was hospitalized for rescue in critical condition several times. At the beginning of 2019, Zhang Guimei was issued a critical illness notice...
After Zhang Guimei's deeds were reported by the media, although some people questioned Huaping Girls' High School's "cramming" educational philosophy, most of them were moved by Zhang Guimei's dedication and love. .
Who did the full-time wife offend?
Previously, a Shangguan News report on July 28 titled "China's only free female high school has a female principal who rides the waves" told a similar story:
Starting in 2015, graduates have returned to China one after another. Even though we are working in Ping, some graduates have come back with donations. In 2018, Huang Fuyan returned to the Women's High School to donate money for the third time, but was rejected by Zhang Guimei. The first time they met, Huang Fuyan clearly saw the joy on Zhang Guimei's face. After asking about her current situation, she turned serious and lost her smile. "I didn't meet her requirements." At that time, Huang Fuyan had just given birth to a child a few months ago. She was unemployed and took care of the baby full time. "She doesn't want us to go to school and still be like the older generation, living around our husbands and children at home. We want to be independent and have our own careers and finances." In 2019, Huang Fuyan was admitted to Guizhou's special post teacher.
This time, as soon as Zhang Guimei’s remarks about being a full-time wife came out, netizens became quarrelsome.
Many people believe that "women must rely on themselves, not men." This is certainly true. However, when Principal Zhang said: "The family is so difficult, we have provided for you until now, and now you are a full-time housewife?" The words in are full of disdain for full-time housewives, as if full-time housewives are inferior and not worthy at all respect.
Some netizens said that the real meaning of Principal Zhang Guimei's rescue of the children in the ravine was to open a window for her to see the vast world outside, with more choices and opportunities. When she becomes an adult and has this understanding, her decision should be fully respected. As a principal, you can be biased and discriminatory, but you should not refuse her donations.
Some netizens believe that whether should be a full-time wife or not is a personal choice and has nothing to do with . "We do not advocate or discriminate against any way or state of life. Everyone should choose what they can bear and bear what they choose." "It's just that one has achieved others, and the other is the success or failure of the personal stage."
Many people have personal experience Netizens who have experienced it even expressed their disapproval of Principal Zhang's remarks, believing that the efforts of the full-time housewife have not received the respect they deserve, and have even been belittled.
"Many people think that a full-time housewife only drinks tea, chats, and goes to a beauty salon every day. However, only through experience can you understand what it means 24/7."
"Why should a full-time housewife be disliked? It is obviously a hard job. What a problem! "
"If there are no elderly people at home to take care of the children and do housework, what should we do if we have to sacrifice one person's work to take care of the family?"
Some people think that the contribution of full-time wives at home is different from that of women in the workplace. Compared with, maybe even worse than : full-time wives maintain the daily operation of a family and bear most of the childcare responsibilities. Some people also have to support the elderly who cannot take care of themselves or are partially unable to take care of themselves... All these tasks, If is converted into social rewards, will be an extremely high price. However, the social value of the role of is often seriously underestimated, and it is difficult to gain a sense of accomplishment.
Others mentioned that with the development of society, more and more "full-time wives" are no longer housewives in the traditional sense. They allocate their time freely and create value independently. In the era of mobile Internet and platform economy, they can "seamlessly connect" with society with just a mobile phone.
“Principal Zhang worked hard to train her from a female high school”
On the other side, quite a few netizens expressed that they could understand Principal Zhang Guimei’s good intentions. Although her statement was a generalization and rather extreme, one should understand why she said it. After all, she is still worried about women, especially women who come out of impoverished mountain villages.
Some people also think that this is related to the "spirit of contract". is just like the orientation college students who have to work in the orientation unit for five years after graduation. The rural girls trained by Principal Zhang Guimei for free will have to serve as role models after graduation. After all, rural resources are very limited.
The Beijing News' comment also mentioned that to some extent, Zhang Guimei's judgment of full-time wives is also based on the dimension of "social contribution" rather than the dimension of "individual choice". Judging from her words, in her eyes, what the student who became a full-time wife failed was not only the knowledge she had learned, but also the rights she had gained and the people who had paved the way for her every step; in her eyes, It seems that although "personal choice" is made for "individuals", it cannot be just for individuals.
People who support Principal Zhang also used the character " Gu Jia " in the TV series "Only Thirty" as an example, emphasizing that being a full-time housewife is indeed not a good choice. Even if someone is as outstanding as Gu Jia, divorce is still inevitable. Being a full-time wife means ruining many possibilities in the future and becoming dependent on others.
Some people believe that girls from rural areas have too narrow a path for them, and that studying and getting a job is almost their only way. Zhang Guimei's original intention to run a girls' high school is also related to this. Zhang Guimei, who has been deeply engaged in education work in impoverished mountainous areas for many years, has seen too many tragic lives of women, so she does not understand and does not forgive for the choice of "full-time housewife", especially for her own students.
An analysis said that based on her personal experience, this mentality is not difficult to understand. She turned the torch into ashes in order to let students learn knowledge and get out of the "original dilemma." Furthermore, she wants her students to be more independent and in control of their own destiny. This can also be seen from the school motto of the Huaping Girls' High School she founded - "I was born to be a mountain, not a stream. I want to look down at the mediocre ravines from the top of the mountains. I was born to be a hero, not a mediocre person. I stand among the great men. Do you dare to be a full-time wife? ”
The discussion surrounding Principal Zhang Guimei is still focused on the discussion about full-time housewives, which still involves some unfair social concept-"full-time housewives have no value." Behind the opposition to "stay-at-home wives" is also a disapproval of family contributions, which essentially adheres to a patriarchal perspective. Equating "full-time housewife" with the subjugation of women may also be a bit of a stereotype. It is not objective to think that "full-time housewife" means completely giving up on oneself.
We don’t need to criticize Principal Zhang Guimei’s “unforgiveness”. Perhaps it is precisely because of Zhang Guimei’s stubborn character and insistence on women’s independent consciousness that this is the only free female high school in the country and has helped so many rural girls come out of the mountains. . However, why this principal Zhang Guimei, who has devoted her life to women's rights and interests, still adheres to stereotypes, is the most worthy of our deep thought.
Perhaps it is because Principal Zhang Guimei has been deeply involved in rural areas for many years and has witnessed the experiences of too many girls that she made some controversial remarks. Therefore, the distinction between stay-at-home wives and professional women has its own social basis. The history of gender equality in modern society is also a history of women "going out" and entering society and taking up various positions. Those professional women who have entered society create production value, create jobs, compete for the right to speak, and benefit generations of women. Women's rights to education, inheritance, voting, and equal pay for equal work... were all won bit by bit in this way.
Whether you want to be a full-time wife or not is a personal choice; but whether you dare to be a full-time wife depends on the environment provided by the society. We don't need to put an absolute label between "full-time housewife" and "career woman", which is good or bad. Neither of these two is the standard for judging whether a woman is independent or not. There is no contradiction between encouraging women to be self-reliant and respecting women's choice to be full-time housewives.
Source of information: China Education News Network, The Paper, Beijing News, etc.
column editor: Liu Lu Text editor: Cheng Pei Source of title picture: Tuchong Creative Picture editor: Shao Jing
Source: Author: Shangguanhe
