Article 1: Opinions
Don’t give me opinions, I won’t listen.
These two sentences are not often said. If you don't listen, don't listen. However, some people especially like to give opinions to others, which is extremely annoying, so these few words are very often said, but they are very effective and can calm the ears.
Accepting other people's opinions is traditionally considered a virtue. In fact, it is not the case. Everyone knows the story of the old man, the child, and the donkey. It is not necessary to listen to what others say, regardless of whether the words of others are well-intentioned or malicious, useful or not. Whether it's wrong or not, there's no need to listen. The reason is very simple, because after listening, you become him, no longer you, and you no longer even have yourself, so where can you go?
There is another situation that is simply ridiculous. A person who knows nothing about a thing or a job is bold enough to give advice to experts in this field without thinking about his own qualifications. When dealing with such people, you don't need to be polite. You must ask: "Do you understand or do I understand?" If you deal with such people politely, there will be endless troubles.
Most smart people rarely ask for opinions from others, and smart people rarely give opinions to others unless they really need it or unless they really have the qualifications!
Part 2: Clothes
People wear clothes, don’t let clothes wear people.
The principle of wearing clothes has always been to insist on "people wearing clothes" rather than "clothes wearing people". However, many times, we see people wearing clothes, especially when a certain clothing suddenly becomes popular. This situation is even more common. It is obvious that this kind of clothing is not suitable for wearing. After wearing it, , may not look good, or may be uncomfortable, but in order to "fit the trend", they still dress appropriately. People have become tied up by clothes. They were originally upside down, so this is not the case. However, most people are not immune to the vulgarity, which is a pity.
The older you get, the weirder you dress.
It is very difficult to win praise from others when wearing clothes, so there is no need to pursue it deliberately. Everyone will look in the mirror after putting on clothes. It can be seen that they must be satisfied with themselves first, and then consider what others think.
In this case, you should be satisfied with the style, color, etc. of your clothes. When you look in the mirror, you only need to look at what you like. You don’t have to worry about what others think.
has always adhered to this principle, so people often think that people who dress in strange clothes are more and more "weird" year after year, so whenever they encounter someone who is surprised, they will say this as a response. . Fortunately, Hong Kong is a free society and everything is peaceful.
Part 3: Difficulties
Everyone has his or her own difficulties.
When I was young, I was not very willing to forgive others. I felt that others could obviously do this, but they chose not to, so it was not worth it. As I get older, I realize that this is entirely due to a lack of consideration for others. Everyone has their own difficulties, but the difficulties are not known to others.
could do this but ended up not doing it, and ended up doing that. Naturally, he had difficulties that he had to do that. Even if he does that and hurts you, you still need to know his difficulty.
Other people's difficulties will sometimes be explained to you, and sometimes they won't be explained to you at all because they have nothing to do with you.
If he tells you that he has difficulties, he must not take you very seriously. It is very important to know that others are having difficulties, but what we must not know is that if someone should do something like this, but ends up doing that, which damages or does not take into account your needs, then you are in his mind. , status is certainly not very important. There must be self-awareness and no further entanglement.
Because, not only is it useless, but it is also very annoying.
Chapter 4: Amazing
A beautiful image can only be achieved without in-depth understanding.
Almost everyone has one or more amazing experiences in their life. At a glance, they are almost suffocated, and even the heartbeat feels like it has stopped. Naturally, it was only a very short period of time, and then it disappeared. In most cases, there would never be a second chance to see it for the rest of its life.Therefore, if you pay close attention to the beautiful image for a long time, the image of that moment is even extremely clear, like a masterpiece of photography with absolutely correct focus.
This is a beautiful image formed because it is impossible to understand deeply and explore further. If there is a chance to make contact again for a long time, nine times out of ten, it will be gone. Not only will it no longer be beautiful, but it may also become ugly.
A stunning glance is an impression in a moment. It is purely a spiritual feeling. There is absolutely no analysis of all the worldly details, and it is completely uninterrupted by various other factors. Therefore, an impression in a moment can sometimes become eternal. good impression.
Long-term is not necessarily good, and short-term is not necessarily bad. For some unknown reason, human beings have been pursuing the long-term and do not know how to praise the short-term. This may be due to the nature of human beings to seek the root of things.
is fundamentally ugly, why not be satisfied with the beauty on the surface?
[About the author]
Ni Kuang, formerly known as Ni Cong, with the courtesy name Yiming, was born in Shanghai on May 30, 1935. His ancestral home is Ningbo, Zhejiang. He is a famous novelist and is also known as Jin Yong, Huang Zhanhe and Cai Lan. He is one of the "Four Great Talents in Hong Kong". After the outbreak of the Anti-Japanese War in 1937, his parents took him to the countryside of his hometown, Zhenhai, Zhejiang for refuge. As a child, I liked to read a lot of books, and developed the habit of reading miscellaneous books throughout my life. In 1951, after graduating from junior high school, Ni Kuang entered the East China People's Revolutionary University for three months of training. Later, he joined the People's Liberation Army and the Public Security Bureau and went to northern Jiangsu and Inner Mongolia to reclaim wasteland. He went to Hong Kong in 1957 and worked as a worker, proofreader, and editor. He was self-taught and became a professional writer. Ni Kuang's novel written under the pen name "Wesley" was serialized in the supplement of "Ming Pao" and became famous in one fell swoop. His writing range is very broad, covering all genres. His novels include detective, science fiction, gods and monsters, martial arts , and romance. His writing speed is also very amazing, he can write 8,000 words per hour (handwritten), and he once wrote serials for 12 newspapers at the same time. Martial arts novels are represented by " Six Finger Musical Demon ", which has a unique imagination. It was also ghostwritten and serialized in "天龙八部" while Jin Yong was abroad.
