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Hello everyone, I am a marriage and love relationship coach. The most terrifying thing in a relationship is not the lack of passion, but the lack of anything to say. How long has it been since you talked to your significant other, even just Say what's on your mind, share what happened recently, no matter what the relationship is, the most important thing between people is communication, because everyone is an independent individual.
Everyone thinks differently. If you don’t communicate, the relationship will gradually become cold. This is how the estrangement is formed. Maybe you don’t deliberately neglect each other, but your lack of communication is the same as neglect. If you don’t say something, it will There is already a distance, and some things are already alienating without asking. Only by not caring can you be indifferent. When lovers start to ignore each other, it means that the relationship has begun to end.
There is not so much tacit understanding in the world. The so-called tacit understanding is the result of good communication. Without communication, there will be no understanding. Never expect a person to read your heart. There is no real mind-reading skill in the world. He even said that you have roundworms in your belly. If you want him to understand you, you have to speak out boldly. Silence will only make your misunderstanding deeper and deeper, and the distance between you will become farther and farther. Most of the feelings will die in vain. You can talk.
This is how Yangyang and his ex-girlfriend broke up. After three years of dating, their relationship was obviously good, but in the end they reached the point where they had nothing to say. Originally, they talked about everything when they were still working in the same city. What happened today What? what did you eat? Who did you meet? How are you feeling? They both shared with each other without reservation, and their relationship has been very good during the two years they were in the same city.
Yangyang was assigned by the company to work in other places. He had to work in other places for five years before he could come back. The two and three months in the other place were fine at first, but gradually they began to drift apart. Sometimes, he could clearly hear his ex-girlfriend’s voice on the phone. It was strange, but Yangyang never asked, and his ex-girlfriend didn't take the initiative to say it. Sometimes he was busy at work, and it was difficult for Yangyang to take the initiative to care about his girlfriend for a week. He would just sleep in the company dormitory after get off work. Moreover, his ex-girlfriend had to gradually stop sharing her life with him. As time went by, the two of them communicated less and less.
I would only call once every three to five days and always hang up in a hurry. When chatting on WeChat, I could only use emoticons to cover up my embarrassment. Until one day my ex-girlfriend suddenly broke up with her. She said she felt she couldn’t hold on any longer. The distance made her feel uncomfortable. The two of them are getting farther and farther apart, becoming more and more silent. She doesn't want to wear away the good feelings she had at the beginning. Yangyang respects her and agrees to break up. In the song, Tanya Chua sings that if you like her or you like her, she should make it clear, no matter what the future holds. Something to say. If you hide your words, no one will understand. If you don't say what you should say, your feelings for each other will become weaker and weaker. Misunderstandings start from non-communication.
I thought you understood me, but you thought I had nothing? Then we have a tacit understanding and are separated. This kind of tacit understanding is the last thing we need in a relationship. We must not be self-righteous in a relationship. We love each other but we cannot understand each other 100%. Communication is indispensable in a close relationship. Good relationships are not It comes from communication. When one day we are really speechless, the relationship will never come back.
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