What is love? I get various private messages asking me this question every week. To be in love, does it mean that we have to get on and off the bus together every day and go into the canteen to buy lunch together every day? In high school, maybe it was like this!

What is love? I get various private messages asking me this question every week. To be in love, does it mean that we have to get on and off the bus together every day and go into the canteen to buy lunch together every day? In high school, maybe it was like this! But adults' love is usually accompanied by a little "independence". They don't need to be together every day, but they have a tacit understanding of life. However, because of this independence, people take "loneliness" for granted. It is obviously a love between two people. And you are talking alone.

John and Xiaomi have been together since they were students. At that time, they were the envied class couple. They were in and out of each other every day, and no one could live without the other. John really loved Xiaomi, so after graduation, they decided to Marriage, but if John wants to get married, he has to rely on his own efforts. A wedding is the basic thing, not to mention a new home for two people after they get married. Every bit of this depends on the savings of the two.

Xiaomi was very touched by John's seriousness. The two agreed to work hard for marriage together. John joined the real estate agent and worked day and night to achieve results, sacrificing a lot of weekends and holidays. Sometimes it was already almost after work. At ten o'clock, there was still time, and he could still take over the paperwork processing job and earn some extra money. And what about Xiaomi? She is not a princess who stays at home. She has a stable administrative job, a stable income, and accumulates a wedding fund bit by bit. Xiaomi comes home from get off work on time every day, but she cannot wait for John to come home for dinner and waits for John in front of the TV. When he fell asleep and woke up in the morning, John had already started a busy day.

Since entering the workplace, the two of them have been busy with their own work. Even on rare holidays together, the boyfriend spends the whole day catching up on sleep, leaving the girl to eat alone. After dating for almost ten years, I asked Xiaomi what she wants most. , she raised her chin and thought for a moment, "I don't know if it's a luxury for two of us to have a good dinner." She felt lonely when she went home every day, but she didn't dare to complain, because it wasn't that John didn't love her, but Because I love her very much, I choose to work hard!

The two people who fell in love because of loneliness had to learn to be lonely from each other after they chose to be together. Is the essence of love just endless consideration for the other person's neglect?

Don't lose each other while working hard for each other. You are not wrong, you just place different emphasis on it.

A woman’s order is family, relationship, life, and work.

But men are about work, pressure, responsibility and themselves.

In his world, hard work is the first priority. The rest of the time he has to do what he likes, such as playing video games, playing basketball, etc. In your world, you always hope that he will be more interested in love. With a little management, if you just endure and hope that "it will get better one day", it is a negative approach and a conniving approach. In the end, it will only make your position in his heart gradually recede.

Your thoughtfulness allows him to work hard without any worries, but it does not mean that he can take your thoughtfulness for granted. Sometimes, you still need to wake up your other half and remind him that love is not just for the future. Just work hard and manage your current relationship. Therefore, you must always take the initiative to remind you that "love" is also an important accessory in life.

Boys, I know that you are all carrying extremely heavy pressure and responsibilities on your shoulders. You work hard not for yourself, but for the hope of living a good life together. But don’t forget, when your woman understands your hard work At the same time, please also understand her loneliness? Hug her at night when she suddenly becomes "open", occasionally pay attention to your dating anniversary on the calendar, and even turn down a job especially for her. For her, it doesn't need to be normal, but it is already satisfying. .

If you don’t want your work to sacrifice the lives of the two of you, you should take the initiative to adjust the proportion of your life. Is it possible to reduce the number of jobs? Is it possible to arrange the vacations of the two of you together as much as possible in exchange for more companionship? ? Trying to find a balance point between the two of them in this unbalanced seesaw. Of course, this is not a balance that can be achieved by unilaterally retreating all the time, but a love balance achieved by you changing a little and me compromising a little.

has said that we are working hard for each other, but we still have to learn to hold on to each other!