There are many ways to encourage children to study, but is giving money a good way? A netizen shared on PTT the contract his mother had made with him in the past, stating that if his grades improved, he would get pocket money, and if he fell behind, he would have to give his mother money. However, he was originally very interested in studying, but because of this contract I have completely lost the motivation to make progress...
▼This netizen said that when he was a child, there was no such thing as fixed pocket money at home. It was often when the family went out to eat, they would get the remaining change after the checkout, and they had to share it with their brothers and sisters. Therefore, he, the youngest in the family, only received about 20 yuan each time; but he saved the money until he was in his second year of high school. He also had an initial income of 1,200 yuan and became the richest child in the family.
At this time, his mother proposed a contract that would affect his life, that is, he would use his improved grades in exchange for pocket money! His mother said that as long as he improves by one point, he can get 10 yuan. On the contrary, if he falls by one point, he will also have to give his mother 10 yuan. ; and he improved by a total of 12 points in the last exam, so he can get 120, which is good for It was a big sum for him without a fixed pocket money, so he agreed to this "unequal treaty" without thinking too much, but he didn't expect that this was the beginning of a nightmare...
The second Duan Kaoli, He encountered the most distressing mathematics problems: factorization and quadratic equations. The atomic world of physics and chemistry was also difficult for him to understand, so his scores exploded. All subjects added up and he dropped 50 points, which meant he had to give his mother 500 yuan. ! His balance was suddenly only 820. He said, "I feel super complicated at the moment. I saved so much for so long and ended up spending so much money all at once..." But his mother only said, "I can get money if I make progress in the exam next time!"
The result of the next exam was even more tragic. In the last exam of the semester, both old and new content appeared. Not only did he not know the old content, but he also couldn’t learn the new content. After the exam, he dropped a total of 64 points and had to give his mother 640 yuan. At this time, Xin The money I had worked so hard to save was only 180...
▼ "Before I calculated the money and gave it to my mother, I collapsed when I saw the balance. All the money I had accumulated since childhood was gone overnight..." He said that he He directly threw the entire piggy bank to his mother. After counting, she said there was still 180 yuan left. At this time, he shouted "No more", and his mother said: "Next time if you regress, just take it from here!" He collapsed and shouted: "Okay!"
After his pocket money was deducted to 0, he no longer had the idea of earning it back, because to earn it all back, he had to get almost full marks in the exam, and he could never regress. , otherwise the money would disappear, so his grades have not improved since then, with only 60 points in English, Mathematics, and Physics and Chemistry...
After this incident, he also gained three profound insights, which are:
1. Don't try to get things that are not your own.
2. When others negotiate terms, you must think clearly.
3. Nothing matters.
He said that these realizations also made his sister often complain that he was too much, and his mother seemed to be very helpless towards him. " Because apart from ordering me to do things, they couldn't use any inducements to get me to help out or study with enthusiasm. "
When he was a sophomore in high school, he said that he saw a brand new watch at home. It was his At that time, I happened to have something I wanted. My mother was excitedly saying, "If you get into the top 10 in the class, I can give it to you!" But as soon as he heard this, he put the watch back and walked away. His mother said in surprise: "Don't you want it?" He said calmly: "Yeah! No, it's okay if I don't have it."
Later he learned that the watch was a gift bought by his mother to encourage him to study, because his mother seemed to complain to his sister about it afterwards, saying that his personality and behavior made her feel disappointed...
Netizens shared this paragraph. After reading his sad experience, other people couldn't help but resonate deeply and felt deeply. They left messages saying: "Children have been made to think that scores can be exchanged for money since they were young." "This is a sure win," "I think the mother of the original poster should break away from the model of using rewards to encourage reading." "This is the best example of not being able to induce children to read." "It seems that rewards and punishments for children are really necessary. Be careful", "Actually, I feel that my mother is a bit pitiful and it's really hard to be a mother." Many parents may adopt similar methods when teaching their children, but they must also be careful not to stifle their children's sense of achievement and motivation... Share it so that more people can see this case from netizens!
