Around us, there are often some people who are irritable to their relatives and kind to outsiders, and always think that happiness lies elsewhere.
People like html are either used to being spoiled by their parents and are fearless; or they are mindless and have misunderstood their feelings and will be instigated by outsiders at any time.
Think seriously, will such a person have a good ending? You must know that everything has cause and effect.
The military strategist in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period Wu Qi , although he used his troops like a god and left a certain reputation, it was undoubtedly a failure in the family.
As Cao Cao said: "Wu Qi was greedy for generals, and he was confident in killing his wife, and he scattered gold and asked for an official position. His mother refused to return to death. However, in Wei, the Qin people did not dare to go east, and in Chu, Sanjin did not dare to plan south."
As we walked, we will understand that people who are cruel to their relatives will not live a good life.
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If you lose your filial piety, you will only be looked down upon.
Wu Qi, a native of Weiguo, was very naughty when he was a child, and did some boring things like fencing with his friends.
Mother often scolded him.
Wu Qi made up his mind, bit the deep marks of teeth on his arm, and then sweared to the sky: "If I don't be a big shot, I won't meet my mother."
Mother chased Wu Qi and cried all the way. Wu Qi didn't look back.
According to common sense, a person should go far away, as Confucius said : "If your parents are here, you won't travel far away, you will have a way to travel."
tells your parents where you are going and when you will come back. Reassure parents. If you throw away your parents and go out, you will be "ruthless and unrighteous".
Think about it, it is unrealistic for a person to not even tolerate his parents, and he still wants to say "conquer the world". Are there no parents in the world?
As expected, Wu Qi went to Lu and became a teacher of Zengzi , so he was looked down upon by his brothers and teachers.
Zeng Zi said, "You are angry with your parents, this doesn't count."
Wu Qi disagreed. Even after learning about his mother's death, he shed a few tears. His actions angered everyone, and thus lost the opportunity to become a Confucian scholar, and had to change careers and learn military tactics.
In normal chats, you will definitely hate it when you hear someone say "How bad your mother is and how useless your father is." Such people are ungrateful and don’t know what they have grown up with.
If you are an unfilial person, then you will be destined to be unable to gain a foothold when you enter society. Even if you have a good position for a while, you will be taken advantage of. After all, your character is there.
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hurts the person next to the pillow and leaves only pain.
Wu Qi married Tian, a woman from Qi State, as his wife.
When the Qi army attacked Lu, Wu Qi volunteered, but they were rejected by Lu Mugong . The reason for rejection is very simple - how could the son-in-law of the Qi people attack Qi? People will not fight with their parents' family to the death.
Wu Qi, who lost his career, returned home and was depressed. His wife Tian asked, "What should I do to help you?"
Wu Qi not only did not miss the relationship between the old couple, but also drew his sword to murder his wife. Then tell Duke Mu of Lu: "I am no longer the son-in-law of Qi."
"A couple has a hundred days of kindness, innocent people are tolerant of being wronged" . Those who can hold a sharp sword to face their wife are obviously irritable, ruthless, or even without distinction between inside and outside.
Judging from Wu Qi's life, he became a general of Lu, but he was soon suspicious and forced to Wei .
Wu Qi used his military strengths to defend Xihe County when he was in Wei State, but he still could not be reused.
People who cannot trust their lovers, no matter how good they say benevolence, righteousness and morality, or how powerful they do things that keep their trustworthy are, are still questionable.
The husband and wife are birds in the same forest, flying together through ups and downs. If the storm comes and gets separated, then the fate of the couple will come to an end.Only those couples who walk together through thick and thin can come to the end and form a perfect family.
With a good family as the background, life will flourish and be confident when you go anywhere.
Look at the life of Zhuge Liang and you will know. He married Huang Yueying and became his wife and devoted himself to his career. The wife takes care of the children at home and takes good care of the elderly. The couple collaborated together, leaving behind a good reputation, and Zhuge Liang was also valued.
Ask yourself, you hurt the person next to you, don’t your heart hurt? Such guilt will make people suffer for a lifetime. Even if the couple has different values, at worst, they will break up instead of fighting each other.
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Helping others hurt relatives will only attract hatred.
Wu Qi was reused as a minister by King Daowang when he was King Daowang .
In order to make Chu State stronger, Wu Qi thought of many ways. He turned the nobles from , five generations, and later into ordinary people, allowing them to support themselves. The original intention was good, but the follow-up arrangements were not thoughtful, and there was no sufficient communication, and it was not taught how to live a thrifty life.
The nobles were all relatives of King Dao of Chu. Kiss or not, breaking the bones and connecting the tendons.
Whether it is relatives or relatives, it is normal for a family to separate. If a big family changes the rules, it can be understood, but disrespectful practices will inspire hatred.
When Wu Qi was besieged by the nobles of Chu State, his life ended.
Historical books say: "Although the king's laws should be punished, we should not avenge the public, but we should avenge our private interests."
There are always some people who are trying to get into trouble for their friends. They don’t know that helping friends hurt their loved ones must be wrong. What we need to do is to help friends and relatives develop together, and to relieve hatred.
You must be able to distinguish clearly, it is difficult for a clean official to make a decision on family matters. It is not a good thing for you to interfere in other people’s housework. You must be calm and calm again.
If you hurt all the people around your relatives and friends, then you will offend more people. Over time, you will be unable to gain a foothold somewhere.
has family rules and state has national laws. When implementing the rules, you need to be dedicated to your heart and emotion.
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Zhou Guoping said: "The reason for many pains in life is blind competition."
You always compete with your relatives, so what is the meaning of your life? Even if you have friends all over the world and spend all your money, you are still alone.
Our lives are given by our parents; the first thing we say is taught by our parents; our small family is given by our lover; our small days are given by our family...
Of course, when we meet people who are cruel to our relatives, don’t turn against each other immediately. You can help them correct from three aspects: learn how to keep a family and restrain them with rules; help them reflect on themselves and see their own mistakes; set an example and set a good example for caring for their family.
People live their lives, and at a certain age, what can truly tolerate you is their family.
Don’t be inseparable from inside and outside. Being kind to your relatives is the best cultivation for a person.
May you and me, your loved ones, your family business prosper, and your life be safe.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
Reference material "Records of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty".
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