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When of the Western Zhou Dynasty, Wang Muwang got eight horses.
In order to raise horses, he arranged for his subordinates to establish three types of stables: Tianxian stable, inner stable, and outer stable.
The horse lives in the Tianxian stable and eats ten buckets of millet every day; these horses are in the inner stable and eight buckets of millet every day; wait for the horses and official horses in the outer stable again, eat six buckets or five buckets of millet; the remaining are civilian horses, no one cares about them, and they ask for blessings.
After King Mu of Zhou passed away, Zhou Yiwang succeeded to the throne, and wars rose everywhere in the world.
In order to calm the battle, the soldiers rode their horses to charge into battle. Sadly, the horses are pampered and will not run at all and retreat step by step; the horses in the inner stable are mainly used to drive and cannot fight; the horses in the outer stable are very angry, so why do you have to work hard to eat less?
As a last resort, King Yi of Zhou summoned the horses to disperse.
The horse is wild and not only does not fight, but also wastes wheat and flees to the enemy.
Therefore, Zhou Chao was in trouble and retreated step by step.
This is a fable written by Liu Bowen in "Yu Lizi".
Horses were treated differently, which led to the Zhou Dynasty losing its combat effectiveness. It was very realistic and helpless in comparing variously.
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Home is a small country, and the country is everyone's home. There are similarities between the two.
As Montegni said: "The trouble of managing a family is no less than governing a country."
Mencius also said: "The foundation of the world lies in the country, and the foundation of the country lies in the home."
For a family, living in poverty, as long as everyone works together, it can always change. However, parents are biased and lead to the centrifugation of their hands and feet, so there is really no way out.
My little aunt , she has two daughters but no son.
In theory, there is no problem of favoring boys over girls in the aunt's family. It would be enviable to have two little cotton jackets to take care of their parents. But the little aunt's old age was not easy.
The eldest daughter Xiaomei , when she graduated from junior high school, her grades were not very ideal, so her family decisively ended her dream of studying and joined the fish farming industry.
When Xiaomei was twenty-six years old, she found a son-in-law. It was agreed that the house and deposits would be managed by her.
After marriage, Xiaomei and her husband were raising fish and doing fish fry wholesale business, with an annual income of more than 100,000 yuan. I rarely care about the property in my parents' hands. My parents asked Xiaomei for money every now and then.
The younger daughter Xiaochun , her grades are OK, she went to high school and repeated the school three times. After graduating from university, I worked as a nurse in a township hospital and my income was very average.
Auntie felt sorry for her younger daughter, so she secretly transferred most of the family’s property and "scaught" some money from her elder daughter to help her repay her mortgage.
In September last year, my aunt was hospitalized for two months due to lung problems. At the beginning, the eldest daughter of was taking care of her. When she advanced part of her medical expenses, she found that the family's deposit was gone, so she left in anger.
The younger daughter took over the burden of taking care of her mother, but was very unhappy. After all, she was a married daughter and the eldest daughter was the "her daughter".
On the day the aunt was discharged from the hospital, the whole family sat together and had a meal. The eldest daughter asked where the property went? The youngest daughter insisted that no matter how much money the family has in the future, it has nothing to do with her.
It is obvious that the aunt placed her hope for retirement on her eldest daughter, but gave her sincerity to her younger daughter. The consequences of eccentricity can be seen at a glance.
I have read an intriguing passage: Many elderly people who can’t walk anymore want to rely on and force them to be filial to themselves. However, when he was alive, he gave his money to his preferred children, gave his enthusiasm for raising his grandchildren to his preferred family, and gave the sentence " filial piety first for hundreds of virtues " to his unfairly treated children.
Filial piety is everyone's character, but the rule of filial piety is - you respect me one foot, and I respect you one foot, which is a two-way operation.
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"Shangshu·Taijia" says: "It is still possible to violate the evil of heaven. It is impossible to survive if you commit evil of oneself."
The family is in trouble. If it is a natural disaster, no one should blame anyone. Just face it positively. If it is a man-made destruction, it is a man-made disaster. If you want to face it positively, you will be "helpless".
"biasedness" two words, is taken for granted by parents, and it is indeed an important source of "brokenness between brothers and feet" in the world of children.
extends from "biasedness" to the future, which is the distribution of interests, emotional acquisition, maintenance issues, family tradition inheritance, education level, etc.
Of course, God will give you a difficult problem, and at the same time will give you a tip for solving problems.
First, separate the family in time and stop the loss in time.
If parents are biased, their children will let their development and suppress resentment in their hearts, it is terrible. Any emotion will explode when it reaches its extreme.
When children grow up, they will split up their families immediately, figure out the situation of the big family, and allocate their wealth. Life will be much better in the future. Although there was hatred before, at least hatred will not expand.
Second, be yourself and set an example.
When a person does not expect to get anything from his parents, he will naturally not feel that parents' bias will hurt himself.
Some people have made a fortune outside, not only do they not want the things of the big family, but also give their brothers, sisters and parents a fortune. I have been treated unfairly, but it is just a process of self-sufficiency.
often listens to people's advice, "Forget it, don't worry." To do this, it is nothing more than to enlarge the pattern. The fundamental reason for a big pattern is that you are strong and rich. Having money is a person's greatest confidence.
Third, correct your parents and eradicate evil roots.
Spring and Autumn , Zengzi accidentally dug the seedlings, and his father beat him hard. Zengzi also apologized to his father. Kongzi is very angry when he knows this and thinks that Zengzi is too unfilial and actually condons his father's mistakes.
Filial piety is not "fool filial piety", but tells parents a lot of truths to let parents progress with the times. When parents make mistakes, they should strengthen communication and try every means to correct them.
For parents who violate the law and discipline, they will also send them to prison and undergo reform.
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If you want family happiness, you must remove the root of poverty - the real root of poverty is not a life that cannot be exposed, but a "short-sighted and domineering".
Parents love their children very carefully, but if the method is wrong, the ending will be counterproductive.
Freezing for three feet is not a day's cold, and a disaster of partiality is not a day's fun. It takes generations to work together, spend many years to adjust, and spend a lifetime to pass on good practices.
is not a family, and you don’t enter the family.
Once you enter each door, you have to have a family.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
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