Bridge expert Mao Yisheng: The original partner died of depression, none of the six children were given away, and he was not forgiven until he died.

He is a talented man from a famous family, but he gave up his luxury life and devoted himself to the cause of saving the country.

He made great contributions in the War of Resistance Against Japan, and even took the lead in designing and building my country's first modern bridge- Qiantang River Bridge , which made great contributions to my country's bridge industry.

However, for such a highly respected superstar of the motherland, his family life in his later years was in a mess.

The original wife died of depression and passed away in grief. Before her death, none of her six children died, and she was not forgiven until she died.

His name is Mao Yisheng , a famous bridge expert in my country.

His married life is like the Qiantang River Bridge that he once was proud of. He spent countless sweat on the design and construction, but was destroyed by himself.

And all of this must start from his ideal, the union with his original wife.

Talented gentleman, corridors and bridge piers

According to the current statement, Mao Yisheng is indeed a talented second-generation rich.

In January 1896, Mao Yisheng was born in January 1896. Mao Yisheng was born in a scholarly family in Zhenjiang, Jiangsu. His grandfather was admitted to Juren and founded the Nanyang Official Daily, a well-known celebrity in Zhenjiang. .

Not long after Mao Yisheng was born, his father moved to Nanjing with his family and settled in Nanjing. In that ancient city with a long history, he spent a happy and short childhood.

Thanks to the excellent family traditions, his parents have strict requirements for Mao Yisheng. When his peers are still playing carefree, he has already been studying with "Zidi Gui".

In the tall and thick walls, you can often hear Mao Yisheng’s immature reading: "Disciple rules, sage training, first filial piety, second sincere faith, love the people, and benevolent, if you have extra energy, you can learn literary... ".

Under the careful guidance of his parents, Mao Yisheng's learning talent was discovered early.

After completing the private school in one year, 7-year-old Mao Yisheng was assigned to the first modern elementary school in China, Siyi School. Two years later, he successfully entered the Jiangnan Commercial School.

The prominent family background did not allow Mao Yisheng to be tainted with any unhealthy ethos. On the contrary, he had excellent cultivation. Many elders called him a gentleman with a gentle and gentle personality.

At that time, the official route had obviously declined. His parents hoped that Mao Yisheng could be in business and could be good at independent thinking, but he vaguely felt that this road was not suitable for him.

He didn’t like to go to business. Although he refused his parents’ request, he still didn’t know where his goal was. It wasn’t until he was 10 years old that an accident happened that allowed him to confirm his life. Target.

On the Dragon Boat Festival this year, people stood on the bridge by the river to watch the dragon boat race. As a result, too many people stood on the bridge, which caused the bridge to collapse. I didn't go when I was uncomfortable, and luckily escaped.

After learning about this incident, he felt heavier while rejoicing: "Why is the quality of our own bridges so bad?"

Mao Yisheng was full of ambitions, because of this incident, he secretly vowed to be sure. To build the strongest bridge, from that day on, he began to collect pictures of the bridges in the book and save them for reference.

The days of learning are boring, but Mao Yisheng enjoys it. He has never forgotten the "broken bridge tragedy", turning grief into motivation, and learning bridge knowledge bit by bit.

Mao Yisheng is reading more and more books, and his grades are getting better and better. Even the collection of photos of bridges, from the first few to dozens,Slowly accumulate into a thick book.

Time is ruthless, and in a blink of an eye, Mao Yisheng is already a 17-year-old handsome boy. As the saying goes, "get a family first and then start a career". Looking at his growing son, Mao Yisheng's mother was anxious and began to help him get married. .

In 1912, with the help of his aunt, Mao Yisheng and Dai Chuanhui, who was one year older than himself, met. No one thought that they would fall in love at first sight.

is similar to Mao Yisheng’s background. Dai Chuanhui’s family background is not bad, and she is also a famous lady, not only talented, but also knowledgeable and filial to the elders.

When the two met for the first time, Dai Chuanhui, who was tall and elegant, left a deep impression on Mao Yisheng.

After the "blind date" was over, his father asked him how he felt about the woman. Mao Yisheng was a little shy and blushed and said: "I think she is pretty good, but I don't know how she sees me."

" A son is like a father.” Mao Yisheng’s mind was seen by his parents, and naturally they were happy to see it. In the same year, under the discussion of the Mao and Dai’s two families, the 17-year-old Mao Yisheng and the 18-year-old Dai Chuanhui stepped in. The palace of marriage.

Although this marriage was an arranged marriage, Mao Yisheng and Dai Chuanhui were not disgusted with it. They lived harmoniously and happily after marriage, and gave birth to their first child, Mao Yuyue, in 1913.

And Dai Chuanhui is also worthy of everyone's name as a lady. She takes care of her elders and is compassionate to her husband. She can't fault her at all. She even does all the big and small tasks at home by herself.

Mao Yisheng once said to his friends: "If I were the corridor on the bridge, Chuan Hui would be the stone pier under the bridge. Without her, there would be no me."

Sad marriage Life, the invisible bridge pier

Mao Yisheng didn’t know, the bridge pier buried under water sometimes suffered from difficulties,The corridor on the bridge is not necessarily visible.

Dai Chuanhui is all about Mao Yisheng, and in Mao Yisheng's eyes, his wife and career are equally divided, and sometimes the latter is the majority.

Mao Yisheng, who is devoted to studying, has no time to take care of many things at home. Thanks to his wife's virtuousness, he can have a stable learning environment.

In 1916, Mao Yisheng, who graduated from Southwest Jiaotong University , got the opportunity to study in the United States with the first prize. In the first year of arriving in the United States, he successfully obtained Cornell University_ span8span has a master's degree in bridges, and two years later, he obtained a doctorate of from Carnegie Mellon University, becoming the school's first doctor of science and engineering.

Mao Yisheng's achievements in the past three years, Dai Chuanhui is very happy to see, but missed her husband, but she was tortured.

I don’t know what kind of loneliness Dai Chuanhui has experienced in order to survive the suffering of being alone in those years, but what is certain is that this is only the beginning of her life’s tragedy. In the following decades, she has been worried about her husband. Painful life.

Mao Yisheng regards "serving the country" as his own responsibility. This is a good thing, but for men who shoulder family responsibilities, once they neglect their family members, it will inevitably lead to tragedy.

Although she can live with her husband, for Dai Chuanhui, such days are suffering. She is busy with housework every day, and the rest of the time is to pray for God and bless her husband to return safely.

Bridge construction is extremely dangerous, especially under Mao Yisheng's "unscrupulous" character, the danger is infinitely magnified.

During Mao Yisheng's tenure as the director of the Jiangsu Water Resources Bureau, there was a flood in one year, which caused tens of thousands of people to be displaced. As the director of the Water Resources Bureau, he rushed to the front line of the disaster area and almost couldn't come back several times.

How deep Dai Chuanhui loves Mao Yisheng is, the more worries he has in his heart,She knew that she could not dissuade her husband, she could only endure great pain silently alone.

Mao Yisheng did not notice that there were a few more gray hairs on his wife's head, and there was lingering sadness in the corners of her eyes, and the heavy burden on her. In addition to the family, he also had deep worries about her husband's work.

The overwhelming pressure on Dai Chuanhui broke out during Mao Yisheng's presiding over the construction of the Qiantang River Bridge.

In 1934, Mao Yisheng, who received the task of building the Qiantang River Bridge, began to leave early and return late. Even if he went home for dinner, he would go out in a hurry.

At that time, my country had not had any successful experience in building modernized bridges. As the first case of Qiantang River Bridge, the degree of difficulty and danger was unimaginable. It can be said that Mao Yisheng was under tremendous pressure.

Seeing that he was not at home and his head was full of bridge repair husbands, Dai Chuanhui became more worried. Inquiring about her husband became one of her things she must do every day. For fear of accidents, sometimes Mao Yisheng did not go home at night, so Dai Chuanhui would just Can't sleep all night, the whole person is in a state of insomnia and anxiety.

Especially after hearing the news that her husband had issued a "military order" that if the bridge was not repaired, he would be killed in the river, Dai Chuanhui almost stepped into despair, so he suffered from schizophrenia and wrote his suicide note several times. Want to commit suicide.

Mao Yisheng is like a corridor on a bridge. He only saw the part of the bridge piers exposed to the surface of the water. He saw his wife's happy smile when he returned home, but he knew nothing about the suffering behind this smile.

Extravagant sunshine, willing to be a stone pier

The humblest love in life is nothing more than I would like to be a bridge pier to help you rise to glory, but nothing else.

In the long and arduous torture, Dai Chuanhui collapsed and was sent to the hospital for treatment. She was like a trembling bird in the storm, waiting for her husband's comfort.

I heard that his wife was ill, Mao Yisheng,While rushing home overnight, he looked at the thin beauty in front of him, he suddenly felt like a passer-by, harvesting all the essence of Dai Chuanhui's flower, but not caring about her.

Mao Yisheng wanted to stay and spend time with his wife, but the bridge construction process continued to urge him to leave. In the midst of a dilemma, he had to choose more important things. After staying in the hospital for a few days, he reluctantly left.

Dai Chuanhui was full of expectation, finally in exchange for a glimmer of hope from her husband, the tenaciously growing weeds, with a ray of sunshine, successfully survived the long winter.

Soon after the Qiantang River Bridge was built, Dai Chuanhui recovered from his illness. Because Mao Yisheng, who completed the work, went home, she no longer needs to worry about her husband.

These short and warm days have become the happiest time in Dai Chuanhui's life. The War of Resistance Against Japan that followed has brought the family's life back to its original point.

During the war, the bridge repair work was more difficult than usual. The Qiantang River Bridge became an important strategic point. It was a battleground for military strategists. In order to prevent Japanese invaders from using the bridge, the bridge was only put into use for three months. Was blown up.

And the person who blows up the bridge is Mao Yisheng who built the bridge with one hand.

Destroying his proud work is undoubtedly a pain for Mao Yisheng, but for the country, he did it without hesitation.

Because of this incident, Mao Yisheng was still seriously ill. Dai Chuanhui was anxious looking at her husband who was in pain in the bed.

She understands: The bridge is the life of her husband. In any case, she can't stop her from repairing the bridge. The only thing she can do is to become a bridge pier for her husband's career.

In fact, Dai Chuanhui has indeed fulfilled his responsibility as a "pier".

During the 56 years of living together with Mao Yisheng, she not only gave birth to 6 children for her husband, but also cultivated them into talents.

Mao Yisheng works outside all year round,Rarely go home, absent from the life of his wife, but also absent from the children's childhood, but Dai Chuanhui has no regrets about this, and even warned the children: "Don't blame your father, he is making contributions to the country."

Thanks to Dai Chuanhui's hard work, this simple family has spent year after year in her sewing and mending, and everything is in peace.

Dai Chuanhui thought, after a long time, it will pass. When her husband is old, he won't run around like he does now.

She firmly believes that a happy life for herself and her husband will come one day.

But sometimes, wishful thinking, in exchange for the equivalent of despair.

Desperate, regret the mistakes of a lifetime

Mao Yisheng made very few mistakes in his life, but there was one mistake that made him regret for life.

It was 1946. Because of work needs, Mao Yisheng was transferred to Shanghai, while Dai Chuanhui and his children stayed in their hometown in Nanjing.

It may be that he lost his wife's company, felt empty in his heart, or resisted the immutable life. Mao Yisheng, who used to be radiant in the past, seemed a little absent-minded this time.

My friend was worried that he would not adapt to the local life, so he introduced Quan Guiyun to Mao Yisheng. At that time, Mao Yisheng was 50 years old and Quan Guiyun was only 21 years old.

The original intention of my friend is good. He hopes that through this method, Mao Yisheng can have one more person who can talk and relieve his boredom.

However, when a man who is far from his wife and lonely in heart meets a young woman who has admired him for a long time, the pure friendship easily changes.

Compared with the "people, old and yellow" Dai Chuanhui, the young Quan Guiyun is not only vigorous and magnificent, but also speaks softly. She is like a gust of wind.Blow into Mao Yisheng's heart, making him unable to calm for a long time.

In the end, after getting along day after day, Mao Yisheng briefly forgot his wife and children in Nanjing, and lived with Quan Guiyun.

The two established a "small home" in Shanghai, allowing Mao Yisheng to feel the long-lost family warmth in this strange city, especially after Quan Guiyun gave birth to a young daughter. At one time I put my whole heart into it.

However, the days of "bad names and bad words" are difficult to live in peace after all. After a long time, Mao Yisheng began to worry: If his wife Dai Chuanhui knew, how painful it would be.

Therefore, he can only hide his love affair with Quan Guiyun more carefully, like a kid playing hide-and-seek, praying not to be discovered by his wife.

Dai Chuanhui did not find her husband's anomaly. She was very relieved of Mao Yisheng, and even said: "The biggest advantage of marrying him is that you don't have to worry that he will be in trouble."

In the past few years, Dai Chuanhui still lived in worry about her husband, and Mao Yisheng also struggled through the days of fear.

Dai Chuanhui is still full of Mao Yisheng, and Mao Yisheng's seriousness, in addition to his career and his wife, has a "small family" that cannot be told.

Two intersecting lines, once one of them changes its trajectory, it is destined to be unable to return to the point of intersection.

End of depression, sadness in old age

After all, paper can't contain fire, there is no air-tight wall under the sky, and the feeling of guilt in his heart is finally unbearable for Mao Yisheng.

After liberation, monogamy was implemented across the country, and Mao Yisheng, who knew that it would not last long, finally decided to confess to his wife, but considering Dai Chuanhui’s body,He can only slowly look for opportunities.

Finally, the opportunity has come.

One day, one of Mao Yisheng's friends was published in the newspaper because of the incident of raising the outside room. He decided to use it to try his wife's attitude.

Dai Chuanhui, who never thought that this kind of thing would happen to him, inherited the traditional knowledge he had learned, and subconsciously said to her husband: "It should be a problem in the outside room, or the wife is pressing too hard."

Mao Yisheng, who heard this sentence, thought that his wife could accept this kind of thing, so he told all his own affairs. What he didn't expect was that Dai Chuanhui was completely stunned after listening.

The sweet words of the first marriage, the vows still in the ears of the husband, the hard work over the past few decades, these beautiful things have become a great mockery in the face of "raising the outside room".

Dai Chuanhui felt like a clown who was teased by her husband. She was full of anger, but her years of upbringing did not allow her to yell at her husband.

Dai Chuanhui said exhaustedly: "I am like a tree that grows desperately, eager to see the sun. Although it grows slowly, there is always hope, but now my roots are rotten and I can no longer climb. ."

She did not say a word of blame to her husband, so she sat quietly, letting her despair and grief devour herself.

Since that day, Dai Chuanhui's condition has become more serious, and his schizophrenia has become more and more serious, and his hair is like a wild grass that has lost its vitality.

The betrayal in this marriage became the last straw that crushed Dai Chuanhui's life. He spent the rest of his life in love and hatred.

Every morning, she took her husband to the door as usual and watched him leave. Her eyes were full of dismay. She was afraid that Mao Yisheng would have an accident at work, and she was even more afraid that her husband would abandon this original home when he had a family outside.

Years of hard work, coupled with the loss of 6 children, left this woman with a mixed life,parefull.

One day in 1968, Dai Chuanhui fell asleep as usual. The next morning, Mao Yisheng called his wife to get up, only to find that his elderly wife had already quietly reached the end of life.

Dai Chuanhui, who was exhausted for the family and worried about her husband for a lifetime, was disappointed with Mao Yisheng and ended in depression.

And this is also the beginning of Mao Yisheng's sad old age.

Father and son turned against each other, but ended with regret

Dai Chuanhui's death became Mao Yisheng's heart disease. With guilt towards his wife, he wrote the "Hui Jun Chronicle", which will spend his life with his wife. Record it in.

At the same time, the boundless sense of guilt made Mao Yisheng start to reflect, thinking that he was already sorry for Dai Chuanhui and could no longer be sorry for Quan Guiyun, so he decided to make up for the mother and daughter.

But what Mao Yisheng didn't expect was that he did so much wrong. It was this compensation that made him completely break with the 6 children of his original wife.

Mao Yisheng and the 6 children said that they wanted to remarry. The children also expressed their support after hearing the other party's name, but they all disagreed when they said the other party's name.

The name "Quan Guiyun" has become a thorn in the hearts of the six children. In their opinion, if they agree with their father to be with them, it is infidelity to their mother.

Unfortunately, Mao Yisheng couldn't listen to the opinions of the children. He was full of guilt, and finally brought Quan Guiyun mother and son to his side, which also led to him and his 6 children. contacts.

Mao Yisheng's various faults may be ignored by Dai Chuanhui, but the children are still unable to let go.

The eldest son Mao Yuyue shouted angrily: "If you dare to take their mother and daughter, I will sever relationship with you."

An angry roar, like a helpless beast,Roaring out of the sadness of his mother's life, roaring out of his father's dereliction of duty.

Mao Yuyue has a long history of complaining about his father. Mao Yisheng was not around when he was born, and then he was absent from the years of growing up. The lack of paternal love made him already dissatisfied.

And when Dai Chuanhui passed away, Mao Yuyue failed to send his mother the last time because he was abroad, and he turned his regret for his mother into anger and vented on his father.

On the other hand, Quan Guiyun’s "home life" is not as good as he imagined. She has lived under Mao Yisheng’s protection for most of her life, but she has never made up for her husband’s Regrettably, this made her feel painful.

She is always an outsider, unable to fit into the love between Mao Yisheng and Dai Chuanhui.

In 1975, Quan Guiyun also left his life with regrets, leaving his daughter Mao Yulin alone.

Three people, two families, and finally ended with regret.

Life is like a bridge, leaving nothing to talk about

When Mao Yisheng died, he was the last time he boarded the Qiantang River Bridge and looked sadly at the scenery on the bridge.

This world-famous bridge has run through his entire life. It was built by himself, destroyed by himself, and then repaired again, but his marriage was not like this bridge, destroyed and restored.

Perhaps he also has feelings in his heart: building a bridge is such a difficult job, he has let himself do it, and such simple things as love and family affection have been completely ruined by himself.

Under the influence of the eldest son, Dai Chuanhui's six children cut off contact with Mao Yisheng one after another. Mao Yuyue went to the United States and settled overseas. Even when he returned to his hometown, he never stepped into the house, but chose to live in a hotel. .

Mao Yuyue said lightly: "I don't have a home anymore.

On November 12, 1989, in a hospital in Beijing, 93-year-old Mao Yisheng was lying quietly on a hospital bed with weak breathing.

It was the old people in the cold winter. The most difficult season is like the seeds buried in the ground. They either freeze to death or survive the next spring.

Looking at the dying old man in the hospital bed, people faintly understand that this test is hard to get through.

At the last moment of his life, Mao Yisheng still frequently looked at the door of the ward, chanting the name of his eldest son, looking forward to the arrival of his six children.

Only, Mao Yisheng’s expectations fell through.

The little daughter beside him couldn't help but shed tears. The deceased was so big that she couldn't bear to watch her father pass away with regret. Finally, the little daughter took out the one. The forged letter of understanding was handed to him.

Mao Yisheng carefully looked at the content on the paper, tears were like an out of control faucet, running down. Not long after, he closed his eyes and walked towards life. The end.

No one knows whether Mao Yisheng knows that the letter of understanding is false, but for him, the farce is over.

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