Since ancient times, heroes have been sad to pass the beauty , which is everywhere in my country's dynasties, such as the King of Western Chu Xiang Yu and Yu Ji , "What are Yu Ji and Yu Ji doing?" Li Xuanzong and Yang Guifei , "A concubine riding on the world of the world smiles, no one knows that it is the lychee coming."
These verses reflect how the king pampered his concubine at that time. Such a love story sounds very touching. But there are also people who misled the king and the country because of this, and they were extremely licentious, such as King Zhou of Shang and Daji .
Greedy to beauty will make people depressed and not do their jobs. Therefore, if you want to be a great politician, you must first get rid of these bad behaviors.
Today we will talk about patriotic generals of the Qing Dynasty, , how Zeng Guofan gave himself a quit sex.
Zeng Guofan when he was young
Although it is not romantic and indifferent to a young man, it is normal for young people who are full of energy and blood to control themselves. When Zeng Guofan was young, he passed the Jinshi exam and left his hometown. He was alone in a foreign land and became a stranger. He felt lonely and lonely after leaving his wife.
began to go to some entertainment venues with colleagues, so that every time I returned from a war, I would linger in the fireworks place to "relax myself".
reflects on himself and is determined to change
For a long time, Zeng Guofan's mentality has changed a lot. When he heard that his colleague married a young concubine, he found that he not only began to dislike his bad wife, but even covet his friend's wife, which made him very worried and troubled.
For the sake of harmony in his family, he can let himself have no worries and have a better future, He made up his mind to quit sex .
No one can do without mistakes, knowing mistakes can correct them, and there is no greater good for .
After thinking, he made strict regulations for himself. The specific implementation method is to devote all his energy to studying, managing government affairs, and exercising, so as not to feel empty.
Whenever he thinks about these things, he will write a diary to record his evil thoughts, and then start to scold himself . Over time, he has really changed this bad habit. A stupid method like
requires strong willpower , but Zeng Guofan did it. It is so important to show that a person’s subjective initiative is so important.
We need a strong will and a strong heart to support us, realize our dreams, live our lives well, and walk the path we should go.
formulated six principles for himself
After successfully abstaining from sex, he then formulated six principles for himself for dealing with people . It is his strict requirements and self-discipline for himself that have enabled him to make good friends and recommended many talents to the country.
became one of the four famous ministers of the Qing Dynasty and made many contributions to the country.
Set six principles for yourself in dealing with people
0 The first one is not to pursue interests too much. The so-called pie will not fall from the sky. For those obviously profitable things, we must stay away from them and not cause trouble. That may be a trap.
Article 2 , Confucius said: "Three people must have a teacher. Choose the good ones and follow them, and correct them if they are not good." . We should not judge others' goodness at will, and we should not deny one's strengths because of a person's shortcomings, and we should not deny others' great kindness because of some small resentment.
Article 3: In interpersonal communication, you should have high emotional intelligence. When you meet others, don’t point out other people’s weaknesses and shortcomings. After all, everyone is willing to listen to some nice words and try to praise others’ strengths, so that you will not offend others.
Article 4: When you encounter benefits, you must think of others and share them with others. You cannot take alone. This is also the way to do business. If you have money, you can earn together.
Article 5, as the saying goes, Humility makes people progress, pride makes people lag behind . We must maintain a humble attitude and learn a lot of useful things.
Article 6: We must have enough experience and improve our abilities. Anyone who has achieved something must have a rich heart. Opportunity is reserved for those who are prepared for so that opportunities will not slip away from us.
Zeng Guofan’s main achievements
Looking at Zeng Guofan’s life, he has made achievements in many fields. Always reflect on yourself and be a self-disciplined person is his lifelong cultivation. It is not just about talking about it on paper, but also about taking action.
Not only did he participate in Westernization Movement , but he wanted to save his country, lead Xiangjun to confront the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom head-on, and build a navy. Zeng Guofan followed the "Six Precepts" principle of dealing with people and had unique insights in employed people.
recommended many sages to the court and gave them some benefits, etc. In the decadent late Qing Dynasty at that time, it was particularly dazzling, and he contributed his strength to his country.
Zeng Guofan wrote "Zeng Guofan's Family Letter" . In this book, he introduced his ways of governing politics, governing his family and studying. This book is a collection of letters he wrote to his siblings and children and relatives.
In his book, he wrote about how to make the family harmonious. The way to deal with people , Cultivate one's character, make friends, educate children, be loyal, and go to politics . Know how to reflect and self-discipline, as well as how to exercise your perseverance and enrich your heart.
The book emphasizes that people should know filial piety and brotherhood, be filial to their elders, and always be grateful to their relatives and friends. Such principles of being a human being not only affected Zeng Guofan's descendants, but also a great gain for readers.
Such good character will inevitably affect generations of descendants, and such family style has also made his descendants successful. If Zeng Guofan had not awakened and used this stupid method to restrain himself, he might not have achieved those achievements.
We should learn Zeng Guofan's self-discipline spirit
Zeng Guofan's method of abstaining from bad habits may be a stupid method, which requires strong willpower. Now that we know this method, we may not have such strong perseverance, and there may be very few that can be done.
Today's society, especially the Internet, is so developed, communication is more convenient and open. We no longer need to abide by the feudal system like the ancients, and the tolerance of the society is also higher , which gives some destructive elements an opportunity to take advantage of it.
Some people have become unscrupulous, and now there are very few people who can reach Zeng Guofan's level.
As modern people, we grow up in a developed world. Faced with many temptations, we may lose ourselves for a while. We should also learn from Zeng Guofan's spirit of being strict with ourselves and .
often reflect on yourself, Mencius teaches us to examine ourselves three times a day . Temper your character, do not do illegal things, be responsible to your family, be a person who is beneficial to society, and contribute your own strength to the construction of the motherland. Every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the country, and realize the great rejuvenation of the country.
also improves your qualities in all aspects and is an excellent person with comprehensive development. It does not mean that it is impossible to do it. As long as is hard, as long as the iron rod is grinding into a needle, we must strictly demand ourselves.
