Since this week, "sheep" has suddenly become a social hot word.
Everyone meets: "Have you sheep today?"
This is because a small game called "Sheep a sheep" suddenly went viral on the Internet.
is this little game. makes people fascinated and unable to fall asleep.
The obsessed players are not only adults, but also many children.
This also made some parents start to worry, what should I do if my children get addicted to ?
Even adults can’t control themselves from playing for a night after knowing the game routine.
, let alone children with limited awareness of games, and minors are more likely to become addicted.
Nothing makes parents more anxious than children's addiction to games. So what should parents do?
Why do children become addicted to games?
Let’s first analyze why “Sheep” makes people so popular:
The difficulty of this game is huge in the first and second levels, and the first level is almost super easy.
reached the second level, and the difficulty jumped from "novice" to "epic difficulty". has a clearance rate of less than 0.1% , and instantly aroused everyone's strong desire to challenge.
plus its unique incentive mechanism - "regional ranking" and "achieving title ranking", directly aroused people's competing spirit. either fight to the death and pass the 0.1% of people;
or disappear until the end and post it on WeChat Moments and show it off, and 's sense of accomplishment is directly full.
Chinese Academy of Sciences psychology experts point out that
Anything with the attribute of "addiction" must have an inner satisfaction . Without an inner satisfaction, there will be no need.
Why do children become addicted to games? Because they meet the two major psychological needs of children.
sense of accomplishment, encouraged and recognized by others
Beijing Normal University Doctor of Psychology Shen Zijiao Teacher once shared: "Children are addicted to mobile phones, and children must have got something in their mobile phones. in real life, they cannot get.
In the process of playing games, children will get a certain amount of satisfaction, fulfillment and pleasure when they win. . This feeling is by their side. It is difficult to get the opportunity in the environment (family and school).
, such as some rankings, rare equipment, special titles, etc. in the game, are all special affirmations for children to play games, , so that children become the object of admiration for other players in the game.
In the family environment, according to the results of "Research on the phenomenon of minors addiction to mobile online games" , some Minors will use mobile online games to replace the lack of companionship and family interaction caused by parents' "too busy" and "neglect". They will also choose to use games to express negative emotions and relieve stress due to their "overly severe" and "overly punished", and gain recognition through game experience, placing the lack and displeasure in real life in the game.
In school environment, the measurement standards for judging good and bad are often relatively fixed, making it impossible for all students to get a sense of satisfaction and value. Many people have failed to get positive and negative results under the school system. The game provides them with the opportunity to prove themselves.
When a game that can bring freshness to children and meet social needs appears, they are naturally easily addicted to it.
But when the real environment cannot meet their emotional needs for a long time, they are even more deeply trapped in it.
Therefore, we will find that the more children with poor academic performance, introverted personality, active and playful, and are always suppressed by their parents, the more likely they are to be addicted to games, because only in the game, they are constantly accepted and encouraged to recognize.
longs for a space to be free and freely
There are also children who are addicted to games, is to use games to escape reality , such as unpleasant family environment, unhappy school life, unfriendly classmates' relationships, etc.
game becomes a small self-space for him. He can only gain a moment of spiritual relaxation in the game. Of course, he will regard the game as a life-saving straw and keep playing it uncontrollably.
In psychology, this space is called: transition space .
Only when reality almost forces children to a dead end will they become truly addicted, that is, they will be directly addicted to the depths of the transition space and will never be able to come out again.
If you want to avoid children's addiction to games, you must first consider the reasons why children need to play - "the gap between ideals and reality".
When children face high-competitive academic and family environment, they will feel stressed, have many rules, have unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, etc. Children will increasingly desire to have a space to be able to be free and free.
The threshold for games is very low, simple and convenient, giving children a room to breathe.
How to help children avoid addiction?
We have come across a child who dropped out of high school and was at home, did not go out or socialize, and was addicted to playing games for about a year.
But a year later, the child returned to school and was admitted to his ideal university. The method of success in
turned out to be the mother's attitude: this mother almost achieved the empathy and maintenance of by professional consultant.
First of all, she respected the children's needs for transition space. almost did not judge, do not prohibit, or advocate children's games.
does not judge, is because she saw the child’s need for games.
is not taboo, it is because the more you don’t let your child do things, the more likely he is to confront and do it secretly.
There is also no unconscious "promotion", such as letting people play when rankings improve, and letting people play when the exam is over.
Then she spent a whole year adjusting her previous "cultivation environment": actively building other "transition spaces" closer to reality.
For example, travel, summer camp, watching movies together, raising pets, etc. of course these are all interesting to children.
Mothers have built the most important "transition space" and transferred their children from the Internet.
Teacher Cao Tinghui once mentioned in the sharing:
Parents should respect their children and create more advanced, more real and happier achievements and values for their children than mobile phones.
When children can get a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment outside of the game, why should be obsessed with it?
In addition, parents can also help their children understand what’s behind the game. and children explore why games are addictive, and what elements are attractive when designing games.
is equivalent to dissecting the process of this game, and can also help children realize some of the things behind the game.
uses such a very rational way to help children develop a healthier attitude towards games.
Don’t use various methods to reverse the situation as soon as you see your child playing games, as this will only have the opposite effect.
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