Women, don’t marry a man who is too "face-seeking"

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I remember Lu Xun once said: Face is the guiding principle of the Chinese.

think about it carefully, most of the men in marriage are like this, and they are showing face all the time.

is like Su Mingzhe in the TV series "Everything is Good".

He was fired at the beginning because he had the aura of a prestigious school, but he refused to bow his head to deliver food and feed his family. Obviously his wife and children can't open the pot, he still doesn't want to choose to put it down.

Later, younger sister Su Mingyu learned about this, and only then did she find a relationship to make Su Mingzhe a suitable job.

Because he didn't have enough savings after working soon, his father clamored for a good house.

He has no money in his hands, and he has to buy a house for his father, regardless of the normal life of his wife and children. The wife of

couldn't bear it, quarreled with Su Mingzhe and almost divorced.

In the eyes of Su Mingzhe, he can put down anything, but he can't put down anything.

Face is important, but a man who can't let go of such "things" doesn't really love you.

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There is a pair of ordinary couples living in a third-tier city. The income of the two is not high and they barely make ends meet.

But unexpectedly, the husband bought a luxury car without telling his wife and went through the installment procedures at the 4s shop.

After the wife learned of this, she was dumbfounded by her husband. Now their lives have been living tightly.

needs to repay her mortgage every month, as well as the child's tuition. Now she has added a car loan. No matter how much work she does, she can't afford to repay so many loans. The husband of

doesn't matter, he thinks that his colleagues around him are not bad cars, and he can't lose face.

If you don’t have enough money, then ask your parents to borrow more. With a good car, your status will start to improve, and someone will definitely look for you to do business in the future.

In life, how many people have a swollen face to fill a fat man and suffer their wives and children.

They are not only doing this economically, but even in daily life, they are not willing to take the initiative to bow their heads.

once knew such a couple. Every time they quarreled, the husband was always reluctant to bow his head for the sake of face.

Every time to the end, the two always break up unhappily, and their problems are not solved. When

arrives next time, there will be a quarrel because of the same problem, and it will be the same as last time, and it will end without bowing.

Because one of them loves face too much, the problem between the two is not that big, the key is attitude.

In marriage, a man who wants face is unwilling to show weakness, which leads to rifts in his relationship.

They value face too much. The fundamental reason is that they take themselves too seriously and worry about what others think of themselves.

It is not a bad thing for men to want face, but don't want face too much. For the sake of a few words from others, he clearly doesn't have that strength, but he has to hold on. The face that

holds so much will be pierced one day, but it will lose face.

The more powerful men are, the less they care about face, because their face is compared with their family, they will choose the latter.

Everyone's face is for outsiders, but life is for oneself. If you always care about the external evaluation, you will only ignore the feelings of your family.

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In a foreign country, a medical doctor once did a survey. They surveyed 76 children and studied their parents and family situation.

Generally, happy married families listen to their mothers, but their fathers are the role models and guides in life.

The mother will tell the children how to survive in this society, but the father will tell them the correct worldview.

Many men think that as long as their children listen to their own words, they won't have other ideas, they are correct.

is on the contrary, you let your child do this, just to satisfy your vanity and make you more face.

On the contrary, a family that will tolerate children at home and will not deliberately emphasize face will be more welcoming.

Sogou CEO Wang Xiaochuan admitted in an interview that his parents had a great influence on him.

Wang Xiaochuan's mother is extremely strict with him, and the pressure on him has always been great, which has made him better.

And father is the opposite of mother, he is a very gentle person, always tolerant of everyone in the family.

When he was young, he always thought his father was too persuaded, so he bullied him with his mother. When I grew up, I realized that my fatherMy dear is not what I thought when I was young.

He started to be tolerant of his family, just like his father.

Many times, some marriages break down precisely because men care about their own face too much.

No matter how we are outside and how high our status is, we still have the same role at home.

Don't think about establishing your own authority and good feelings in your marriage. It is more about tolerance to each other than deliberately showing your superiority.

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Men who really value marriage will never quarrel with each other because of the so-called face.

In the variety show "With You Along the Way", the program group asked each guest couple to tie a pink belt and complete the task.

But in the process of completing the task, the band needs to be cut, and the couple acted separately.

Hu Ke immediately became angry after hearing this, and asked Sha Yi, shouldn't he always follow me?

Although Sha Yi kept explaining, he still didn't calm Hu Ke's emotions.

Seeing Hu Ke's angry look, Sha Yi directly lowered his head to admit her counsel, and deliberately made Hu Ke amused so that she was no longer angry.

In marriage, putting down the bottom can show the husband's love for his wife.

Because in love, there is no face to say, two people together, it is more about living together, rather than looking for anger.

is more about taking the initiative to put down, and will not affect the intimate relationship between two people because of those false things.

has seen such a true story.

A man has created 6,000 steps for his wife for love, which is moving.

In the beginning, his wife became a widow when she was only 26 years old. Her husband’s family blamed her on Kef, and the villagers isolated her. As long as

has something to do with her, it will be rejected.

Once, a woman took a child to fetch water and accidentally fell into the water. Only he jumped into the water and saved their lives.

Since then, he has taken the initiative to help her work, sometimes cutting wood, sometimes carrying water.

Because he had a relationship with a widow ten years older than himself, the villagers began to speak ill of him. Even so, he was still paying for her.

In order to let his wife be with him smoothly, he decided to take his wife away and go to a place where no one knew them.

He lost face because of his feelings, but he did not hesitate to turn back. A man like

really puts you in his heart.

In fact, most people understand in their hearts that men care more about face than women.

So, women, don't marry a man who is too "face-seeking".

If a person is really willing to put down, it means that he really loves you.

On the contrary, he always thinks about his own face, which means he only loves himself.

Marriage can be said to be the most important thing in our lives. It will accompany us for most of our lives.

Choose a suitable person and enter into marriage together, then the harvest is sweetness and happiness. If you choose the wrong person, the ending will be exactly the opposite.

So, how to choose this person? What kind of marriage is happy? How should we treat marriage correctly? How to balance the relationship between love and marriage?

These questions can be answered in the book "Marriage Psychology".

It can be said that this is an "encyclopedia" closely related to marriage. It starts from different aspects of marriage and will give you a more thorough understanding of marriage, master management skills, and properly handle problems in marriage.

When you know it, are you afraid of finding the wrong marriage partner and not managing your marriage?