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If there is a thing in the world that is invisible and intangible, but can always affect people’s hearts, it must be love.
In the world of adults, love is the most difficult to figure out. Love or not love, the heart cannot be controlled.
I remember when the TV series "My First Half of Life" was just broadcast, netizens left comments that this TV series was too "heart-wrenching". It seems that every character in the drama is bright and beautiful, but in fact there is no A person is really happy and comfortable, and the emotional belonging of the final protagonists is also confusing.
To be honest, when watching "My First Half Life", Chen Junsheng and his colleague Ling Ling were mixed together, which was actually expected.
After all, Luo Zijun, who became a housewife, has been out of society for too long. Chen Junsheng and her have no common topics, so they can only find comfort from other women.
What makes people incomprehensible is that with the development of the plot, Luo Zijun divorced and started a new life, but his girlfriend Tang Jing's boyfriend He Han slowly fell in love with Luo Zijun.
You must know that at the beginning, He Han was the person who looked down on Tang Jing's best friend the most. He said more than once that Luo Zijun is a broad wife who knows nothing but spends money on men.
What is even more incomprehensible is that Tang Jing is beautiful and capable. He and He Han are a match made in heaven. They cooperate happily at work and help each other in life. In the eyes of outsiders, they are just a pair of talented women.
Tang Jing and Luo Zijun are completely different types of women, and He Han himself knows that Tang Jing is the most suitable woman for him, but why finally put down Tang Jing and choose Luo Zijun?
With doubts and incomprehension, I went to watch this TV series again, and found that this might be the magic of love, although I have sneered at some people in life, but after I really understand the contact, I am deeply affected by such people. Deeply attracted.
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There are many people who always compare Luo Zijun and Tang Jing based on their own subjective ideas. Some people say that if it were not for Tang Jing, Luo Zijun would not be able to start again after the divorce; if Not Tang Jing, she would never meet the outstanding and successful man like He Han.
But in fact, in He Han's mind, what he lacks in his life is a woman like Luo Zijun.
When most people watch this TV series, they may have doubts. What is better about Luo Zijun than Tang Jing? Let He Han give up the excellent and perfect Tang Jing and still love Luo Zijun so much?
In fact, the reason is very simple. You can understand the way Tang Jing and Luo Zijun get along with He Han.
Tang Jing is too strong, but Luo Zijun knows how to show weakness
Most men are better and strong, especially men who have successful careers. They have seen them at work. Many sharp-edged people fight for the benefit of "life and death". Women who are too strong will feel pressured to get along and feel that they cannot conquer her.
And "the desire to conquer" is often deeply ingrained in men's bones. Tang Jing is too strong and she never shows weakness, which will make He Han feel unfulfilled.
Women can have tempers, but they must learn to control their tempers, and occasionally show weakness in front of men, act like a baby, so that men not only like them, but also find women very attractive.
The reason why He Han left Tang Jing at last was because both of them were too strong. Sometimes Tang Jing was stronger than He Han, so that sometimes He Han felt very pressured and didn't know how to get along with her.
This kind of getting along with each other is destined to separate. Evenly matched love is very beautiful, but if two people are not convinced in a relationship, and both are too strong, they will really live very tired.
On the other hand, Luo Zijun, she is weak, she knows how to complain, she needs help, He Han has solved her troubles time and time againCheng Zhong gradually fell in love with this woman who was not strong enough but was always improving.
Luo Zijun will rely on men and make them feel that they are needed
They all say that men have vanity and like to show themselves in front of women The importance of this, especially in front of a woman you like.
If a woman needs a man, the man can be with the woman for the first time, the woman will gradually rely on the man, and the man feels a sense of accomplishment.
Being relied on by a woman you like is a very happy thing for men. Even if a man works hard outside, he will feel warm when he comes home and sees a woman waiting for him to come home.
To say that Luo Zijun is better than Tang Jing, that is, Luo Zijun will rely on men and give men a sense of being needed. This is what Tang Jing does not have, and it is also a place where men like women most.
It is undeniable that Tang Jing is really good, but she is not like a girlfriend. Her independence and independence will make He Han feel insecure. She feels that Tang Jing does not really need him too much.
However, Luo Zijun's dependence on He Han is clearly visible, and her needs are always satisfying He Han's needed heart.
Therefore, although Tang Jing is excellent, it is inevitable that He Han will fall in love with Luo Zijun.
Luo Zijun can give men 100% trust and make them feel safe
What men dislike the most is the woman they like Always doubt him, don't trust him.
If a man quarrels with a woman every day about this matter, the man will feel very bored over time.
after all. Men can do nothing, but women's trust is essential for men.
A relationship will not last long. It depends on mutual trust and distrust. There are many annoying things in life. If two people are together and cannot stand the test and do not trust each other, then the relationship will not last. long.
Tang Jing has always been worried about He Han and Vivian. Although she didn't say anything on the surface, she always minded her in her heart, so that she couldn't let go of the past and couldn't see He Han's feelings for her. .
may be because she loves He Han too much, but what Tang Jing doesn't know is that her distrust has brought this relationship to an end.
And Luo Zijun, because of the failure of the previous marriage, she has a new understanding of feelings in her heart. She has achieved 100% trust in He Han. I think this is also a major reason why He Han fell in love with her.
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We are not an excellent and perfect woman like Tang Jing, nor a lucky woman like Luo Zijun, but if a woman knows how to hold a man’s heart, we must be Will meet his own "He Han".
Yi Shu wrote in the original book "My First Half of Life": "The relationship between lovers will not last. Which kind of relationship will last. Husband and wife relationship? Friendship relationship? Competitive relationship? No matter what kind of relationship, we must constantly motivate ourselves. Myself.”
Tang Jing in the TV series is very beautiful and excellent, and deserves to be treated with the utmost kindness of everyone.
But she can't give He Han a fresh feel. Their love is a step-by-step relationship, when and where to have dinner, when to do something, nothing new.
But what did Luo Zijun bring to He Han? It's endless trouble.
Ke Luo Zijun grew up in these troubles, and at the same time gave He Han a lot of freshness. This freshness is a breeding ground for feelings.
After all, in a relationship, a woman should not be too strong, otherwise it will make a man feel useless. Since you can do everything, you can do everything.Man is done, what do you want a man to do?
This is perhaps the biggest reason He Han fell in love with Luo Zijun.
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