Xu Zhisheng in the variety show "Talk Show Conference 4" became popular because of his self-deprecating appearance.
In his explosive memes, he often sees his complaints about his appearance.
On the stage, he used a self-deprecating way to tease his shortcomings and shortcomings. The most impressive sentence is: "What else can I lose in my appearance? Until I started Hair loss ..."
Napoleon once said this:
"If you are a humorous person, then you will easily influence the people around you and make them like you forever."
Facts prove that this is true. Xu Zhisheng won the favor of the audience and became a "dark horse" in the talk show industry.
Being good at self-deprecating is a manifestation of humor, and self-deprecating itself is an indispensable ability.
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Self-mockery, make yourself happier
Self-mockery is not self-negation, but a way of self-regulation.
For a while, the term " Worker " was very popular. Whether it is a company executive or an ordinary office worker, no matter how high or low the position is, they all call themselves "workers".
often see some "worker quotes" on the Internet, which are a kind of self-mockery for office workers about their hard work:
"Today I went to see a dentist, and the dentist asked me: Why are the young teeth so worn so seriously? I said that over the years, I have been gritting my teeth. Come on, the worker..."
These quotes seem sad and helpless on the surface, but what I want to express is an optimistic and open-minded attitude towards life, which is the self-deprecating worker after realizing the status quo, and it is also a positive and joyful way of suffering.
Faced with unsatisfactory life, appropriate complaints can help you look at the problem from a different perspective, relieve the pressure and depression in your heart, and add a little happiness to your life.
People who are good at self-deprecating often live more comfortable in life, which is a kind of ability to make themselves happy.
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Self-mockery, open the door to social
In life, people who are good at self-mockery can usually resolve embarrassing situations more cleverly.
Poet Marshal Chen Yi Once, I went to my relative's house to celebrate the Mid-Autumn Festival.
When he entered the door, he found a good book and focused on reading.
Relatives urged him to go to dinner several times, but he didn't go. In desperation, the relative brought glutinous rice cake and put it in front of him.
He read and ate, and even put the glutinous rice cake into the ink and put it into his mouth with ink.
After a while, the relative came in and saw it and laughed.
Only then did he come to his senses. It turned out that he ate the ink as sugar, making his mouth full of ink.
But he was not in a hurry, but instead said with a self-deprecating voice: "It doesn't matter if you eat some ink, I just feel that there is too little ink in my stomach!"
A simple and humorous self-deprecation resolves the embarrassment, while getting along with others can be more pleasant and smooth.
saw this sentence in the magazine "Personality and Individual Differences":
"We found that self-deprecation is beneficial to mental health and also to improve social skills."
is good at self-deprecation and is a rare social ability for a person.
Most of them are humorous and humble, and are willing to give up the so-called "face" and give each other a way out. How can a friend who knows the overall situation be unpleasant?
is just, self-mockery also requires grasping the scale, too much is just as insufficient.
In social networking, only the right self-mockery can achieve twice the result with half the effort.
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Self-mockery is a manifestation of self-confidence
The book "Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking" says: "Self-mockery is something that people with confidence can do."
Most people who often make fun of themselves have a kind of self-confidence support behind them.
famous writer Lin Qingxuan often makes fun of himself.
Because he looks bad, he also has long hair while bald.
was once said by fans to look like the Fire Cloud Evil God in the movie " Kung Fu ".
But he didn't care.
He will share his adventures with the audience at various speech sites.
For example, he said one winter, he wore a coat and glasses and took a taxi on the streets of Beijing.
The driver asked him, "Where are girls?" He hurriedly took off his glasses and wanted the driver to see his appearance clearly.
Unexpectedly, the driver quickly changed his words and said, "Auntie, where are you going?"
Lin Qingxuan did not feel inferior because of his appearance, but shared various experiences he encountered in life with everyone in a self-deprecating tone.
This kind of self-deprecation is simple, but it is difficult to do without full confidence.
A person who dares to make fun of himself is confident in his heart.
Most of them are confident and optimistic people, with deep understanding and self-awareness of themselves.
People who dare to amplify their shortcomings and self-deprecating are the most confident people.
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Powerful content, with the ability to self-mockery
I remember a philosopher said: "The golden rule of laughing is that no matter what you want to laugh at others, laugh at yourself first."
However, the ability to self-mockery is not innate, everyone has it.
If you want to have this ability, the first thing you need to do is to strengthen your heart.
1. Cultivate a sense of humor and shape a good personality
You can usually watch more humorous variety shows or some humorous TV series and movies to learn from others' sense of humor.
You must also learn to cultivate your humorous mentality, be neither anxious nor impatient, and respond calmly.
2. Accept the imperfect self
Many people may be subconsciously afraid to expose their shortcomings. Therefore, I like to pretend to be myself.
But blindly avoiding imperfect self will never grow up. Learning to accept imperfect self is a very important topic in life.
It may be a painful thing to face your own shortcomings, but you can have a deep and comprehensive understanding of yourself, so that you can face all aspects of life more confidently.
If you encounter unsatisfactory in life, instead of starting a new day with negative emotions, it is better to laugh at yourself and live at the same time.
After some self-deprecating, he can empty the pressure, go into battle lightly, and continue moving forward!
Author profile: Sanwan, a worker in the system, a post-90s literary young woman who loves to read, uses her pen tip to help you experience the ups and downs of life.
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