These days, Big S and Wang Xiaofei divorced melons one after another, overwhelmed, one after another, and one after another. Although we ordinary people are far away from the marriage of celebrities, while eating melons, I also have a lot of insights into marriage.
As long as you are in a marriage, anyone must take the test
Marriage is not easy. It is not easy for two people to turn from strangers to couples. It is even more difficult for two people who become husband and wife to run their marriage day after day. Before the two of them got married, they had a lot of boyfriend and girlfriend. It is really not easy for these two people to walk together and become husband and wife.
Recalling how high-profile, sweet and happy they were when they fell in love and got married. I guess neither of them would have thought that their true destiny and true destiny turned into such a hateful person in the end.
Marriage needs to withstand too many tests. Long-term marriage needs to withstand the test of time, resist the test of external temptations, balance the test of career and family, and deal with the test of family conflicts... It is no exaggeration to say that marriage is a practice.
Two people who manage marriage need to have strong will and deep wisdom to solve various problems that arise in the marriage, eradicate various hidden dangers that endanger the marriage relationship, and firmly keep going with their partners.
This is a test that everyone in marriage must go through, and it is a problem that money cannot solve. Regardless of whether you have money or not, no matter your social status, the test that marriage gives you is the same. Even because you have too much fame, wealth, appearance or social status, your marriage faces more challenges.
A good marriage is not to create problems for the other party, but to solve problems for the other party
Since there are so many challenges in running a marriage, it is very important to face these challenges. A good marriage is about changing and facing two people together, rather than putting the burden on one person.
In contrast, the marriage between Big S and Wang Xiaofei, Big S's move to Taipei directly caused her and Wang Xiaofei to be in a different place, and Wang Xiaofei also exposed his immature personality on many public platforms.
Two people keep causing trouble for each other, but the result is that the two people are getting farther and farther away, and the two eventually end up divorce.
There is a problem with the relationship between husband and wife, and in many cases both of them are responsible. When we solve problems in marriage, we should not treat punishing the other party (including the other party’s relatives and friends) as our goal, nor should we create bigger problems to solve a problem.
Solution should revolve around how to make the relationship between two people better, rather than how to get the other person away from you. The couple has a long-term relationship with each other and has caused great harm to the relationship between husband and wife.
After divorce, only by completely breaking up and letting go can we truly be freed
If there is still a possibility of recovery from the marriage, then the two of them will make the best efforts. If the marriage really enters an irreversible situation, make up your mind and don’t worry about it repeatedly.
If you want to leave, then your feelings will be completely broken and your property will be clearly divided. The two of them calm down and find a plan that is fair to both parties, instead of thinking about how to take advantage of the situation, how to threaten the other party, and how to coerce the other party.
The party who suffered a loss may agree at the time, but may repent at any time. After repentance, there will inevitably be another quarrel and quarrel, and even go to court. They are all adults, why bother?
When the other party makes conditions, consider whether you can bear it for a long time. Don’t believe the other party’s verbal promises, but implement all negotiations in the agreement. Once the two divorce, their former partner will be a stranger and everything about each other will have nothing to do with each other.
As an adult, try to be more decent even if you leave. Decent, everyone looks good, the most important thing is to be responsible for yourself.If you have divorced, don’t blame and entangle each other anymore. Just think about how to face your future life.
