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Anyone who has watched " Knows " knows that Hualan is the eldest daughter of the Sheng family. She has grown up with all her love since she was a child. Even Sheng Hong chose one of the marriages.
Hualan raised her in front of her grandmother for a while when she was a child, so her vision and insight were above other sisters.
, but he just married into the Yuan family and suffered from the trouble of his mother-in-law. He lived a life worse than death in his marriage for ten years.
A few days ago, I wrote an article about the comparison of Hualan and Minglan 's married life status. Interested friends can look forward.
Back to the point, the reason why Hualan lived a painful life after marriage was on the one hand because of her husband Yuan Wenshao's inaction, and on the other hand, she lived too tolerant and too face-consciously.
Maybe Hualan doesn’t know much about other people’s daughter-in-law, but she is a daughter in the Sheng family and is still doing well as the sister of three Lans.
When I was a child, Minglan lost her mother and was taken back to Wei Ruixuan by Wang. Hualan was always careful to take care of her, so Minglan survived.
Later, Wang and Lin fought secretly, and were always suppressed by Lin, and Hualan was also persuaded to help.
Minglan is at the age of discussing marriage, and Hualan has tried his best to match her sister and Gu Tingye .
If you haven't read the original work, you probably will never know that Hualan's matchmaking is hidden behind her "conspiracy".
01. Hualan tried his best to match it up to strengthen his mother's family's foundation
. In the original work, Gu Tingye appeared very late and only met Minglan four times, so he was deeply impressed by Minglan.
So, Gu Tingye said indirectly that he wanted to marry a wife and wanted Yuan Wenshao to help introduce him.
Yuan Wenshao has a sister, but he has already been engaged to someone else, so he thought of Hualan's unmarried sister, so he mentioned this.
Hualan was very excited after hearing this, and ran back to her parents' home the next day to lobby for the eldest lady and the old lady.
At first, the eldest lady was worried about Gu Tingye's character, and she was so angry that she was so angry that she had an outdoor room before she married her, and had two children, which made her look like a liar.
After Hualan explained it, the eldest lady's doubts were completely dispersed, and she still hoped that Rulan would marry into the Marquis' Mansion as soon as possible to suppress Molan.
Why is Hualan so active in matching Gu Tingye’s marriage?
One of the reasons is that Hualan is not favored in her in-laws' house and wants to rely on strengthening her mother's house to support herself.
Anyone who has read "Knowing or Not" knows that the Yuan family came to the Sheng family for the first time to hire, and the Yuan couple should have come forward, but when they arrived at , Yangzhou , they notified the Sheng family and temporarily changed it to the Yuan family Dalang couple. At the banquet of
, Yuan Wenchun also instigated the young Gu Tingye to throw a pot and win the betrothal gift of the Sheng family, which made the Sheng family embarrassed in front of many guests. These two things are enough to show that the Yuan family has given Hualan a warning.
After marriage, Yuan Wenshao watched his mother punish his wife for standing up rules, and occupied his wife's dowry many times, but he did not dare to stop him.
In the original work, Hualan went to Kyoto after getting married, and Sheng Hong was still a small official in Dengzhou at that time, so Hualan had nowhere to cry when she suffered all the grievances in her husband's house.
Moreover, Hualan has always reported good news but not bad news about her family, and her family members do not know the suffering Hualan suffered.
It was not until Hualan gave birth to his daughter, Sister Zhuang, that she was four or five years old, and Sheng Hong was promoted to Kyoto to become the Minister of Works, and that her mother's family came to her.
The reason why Hualan was tortured by her mother-in-law was that her mother's family was far away from home, and on the other hand, she had no children and could not stand up.
Later, the Sheng family moved to Kyoto, and the old lady invited the old lady of the He family to see the doctor and prescribed the conditioning prescription before she got pregnant and finally gave birth to a son, Shi Geer.
But it is not enough to rely on a son to gain a foothold, so Hualan thought of strengthening the power of her mother's family.
is like Changbai 's daughter-in-law Hai. She can live a stable life in the Sheng family because of her strong strength.
Every time I am bullied by my mother-in-law Wang, my husband Changbai and father-in-law Sheng Hong will stand up and be fair for her.
Seeing Hai's experience, Hualan understood: A married woman wants to gain a foothold in her husband's house, then her greatest reliance is to have a strong mother's family.
In fact, whether in ancient times or today, for a married woman, the strength of her mother's family determines her happiness index in her in-laws' family to a certain extent.
Relatively speaking, if the mother-in-law's family is stronger than the mother-in-law's family, then naturally no one dares to shout at you after marrying into the mother-in-law's family.
But if the opposite is true, women may have a more painful life, after all, they have no right to speak without status.
Of course, all this must be based on the premise that the partner is not a "mother man", a "fool filial man" and a "soft man".
If you are like the "soft man" like Sun Xiucai, no matter how strong his mother's family is, it will be useless.
Therefore, when a woman gets married, she must keep her eyes open and see the other person's character clearly, and make a cautious choice.
This is also one of the reasons why Hualan tried to get married to Gu Tingye with his parents' sister.
02. Hualan struggled to match her, but in fact she was for her "conspiracy"
After Gu Tingye learned that Rulan had an intention to Wen Yanjing, he asked the Sheng family to marry Minglan, which made Old Lady Sheng lose her temper. Even Minglan was confused and couldn't figure out the situation.
However, the day of Gu's Geng Post is approaching, and Old Lady Sheng refused to hand over Minglan. Sheng Hong and his wife returned to the past to lobby and were scolded.
In the original work, Hualan thought about it for a few days and decided to ask the eldest lady to take Minglan to the Earl Zhongqin's mansion on the grounds that she was pregnant again and wanted to see her mother and sister.
However, at this time, Gu Tingye had already been waiting for Minglan to arrive in the Earl's Mansion. He wanted to take this opportunity to explain to Minglan everything he wanted to marry Minglan.
Minglan then heard Gu Tingye's touching confession: "I dare not say that I asked you to live a fairy-like life, but with me one day, I will never let you be wronged! I am the old man among men, and you can be the old man among women!"
Looking at Minglan and Gu Tingye in the pavilion from afar, Wang sighed and said, "Oh, it's just a pity that your girl, Ming girl can marry into such a noble family, but she can only live in a cold family. ."
Hua Lan said unhappily: "It was her mother who insisted on resolving the jealousy at the beginning. Actually, according to my opinion, it is more suitable for the younger sister Ming, such as Lan. Look at her little look when she made the old lady happy. I feel relieved, let alone men."
Hua Lan's words to extinguish the jealousy Wang. Seeing the marriage between Minglan and Gu Tingye settled, Hua Lan finally breathed a sigh of relief.
Why does Hualan not match Rulan but support Minglan instead?
Because Hualan knows the tempers of her two sisters, Rulan's temper is like an old lady, and good things are easily destroyed when they come to her.
, but Minglan is just the opposite. She has a calm personality and speaks and does things without any leakage. In the future, she will marry into the Marquis' Mansion, which will be beneficial to the Sheng family.
This is why Hualan tried his best to match Gu Tingye and Minglan. Only by letting Minglan marry into the Marquis’ Mansion can the Sheng family benefit from it, and Yuan Wenshao, who works under Gu Tingye, needs no more.
Hualan privately arranged a meeting opportunity for Minglan and Gu Tingye without telling her old lady Sheng, but in fact it was for her own "conspiracy".
Because Hualan hopes that the Sheng family will marry the Gu family, she can ask Minglan to help and find Gu Tingye to find Yuan Wenshao to get a job of being released.
Only when you leave Tokyo and the Yuan family can Hualan live a good life. So for her selfishness, she did not hesitate to plot against Minglan.
Fortunately, after Minglan married Gu Tingye, his life was pretty good. She was loved by her husband and also granted her imperial edict, becoming the most successful daughter of the Sheng family.
In fact, everyone has selfish intentions, without exception.No one’s life path is well designed. Most people experience unfair treatment in life, and then they gradually develop selfishness.
people are selfish, it is not scary to have selfishness. What is scary is to build their own interests on the basis of hurting others.
is like Mo Lan who is willing to destroy the reputation of all the female relatives of the Sheng family in order to marry into a high school. This kind of selfishness is extremely selfish and is also despised.
But if your selfishness is based on win-win results, in order to make yourself and the other party have a good result, I believe it is understandable.
This is why Hualan plotted against Minglan, but the sisters were still harmonious afterwards.
