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011, Song Dandan's first love boyfriend died of illness. After Song Dandan learned about it, she, who was fifty years old, wrote this sentence with nostalgia: " Thank you for giving me the best first love that a woman can have."
Yes, it is first love. This is a beautiful memory that Song Dandan will never forget, sweet and romantic.
Of course, there are sequelae.
Song Dandan's first love is called Yuan Gang . She is an alumnus of the same class in her high school. The two met very much, "Mary Sue", and they felt like a hero saving the beauty.
But this feeling made Song Dandan develop a strong interest in this handsome, tall and big Yuan Gang, and secretly feel affection in his heart and long for love.
As the saying goes, a woman chasing a man with a layer of yarn, Yuan Gang, who has always been simple, was immediately impressed by the love poems written by Song Dandan, and became deeply in love and out of control.
But because of the stress of studying in the college entrance examination, and in that era, they didn’t dare to fall in love under the eyes of parents, so the two of them prepared for the exam while secretly giving up their feelings.
Unfortunately, Yuan Gang successfully passed the exam to Peking University and became an alumni with Song Dandan's second husband Ying. Song Dandan was distracted by love and finally failed.
In order to improve with her first love boyfriend, Song Dandan did not listen to her father's advice to choose to repeat the exam, but instead turned her attention to Beijing People's Art Theater .
The reason why she chose Beijing People's Art Theater was, on the one hand, because Song Dandan liked this, and on the other hand, because Yuan Gang's family was related there.
In fact, even if it is not up to Yuan Gang's family, Song Dandan can also get into the exam because the humorous elements on her are too strong.
In the end, Song Dandan was successfully admitted to the Beijing People's Art Theater with a sketch, and thus stepped into the entertainment industry and began her artistic career.
During the years of learning, Song Dandan often rode her bicycle to the campus of Peking University. Her love with Yuan Gang has become increasingly lubricated, leaving many beautiful memories.
"The first time we officially started dating was in the zoo, in front of a fence, where I was waiting for my first kiss." Song Dandan said happily.
And her old classmate Wang Ji also confirmed this in a later interview:
"Old Song came in with love. The other girls of us all heard her about love. When Old Song was dancing, the sisters were like listening to the book of heaven."
There was still heavy snow for a year, and Song Dandan was excited for a moment to give Yuan Gang a warm hug and seek some romance among the snowflakes.
She took a bus from home to near Xizhimen , and walked along Xizhimen in the heavy snow, until twelve o'clock in the night to see her beloved man.
That's it. The two fell in love sweetly for five years. It was not until Yuan Gang graduated from university and went abroad to study, and this sweet first love left the scene sadly.
Because of the ruthless departure of her first love boyfriend, Song Dandan couldn't figure it out for a while, so she was angry and married a civil servant who had only known her for three months.
However, an impulsive marriage is destined not to go long. After the passion fades, what remains is a messy life after marriage.
Song Dandan and him lived for less than a year after marriage, and the two quarreled constantly over their personality problems. In the end, the marriage broke down and they broke up.
On the day of divorce, her first husband only proposed one condition to her due to his identity, that is, no matter how popular Song Dandan is in the future, he should not mention him to outsiders.
Song Dandan has kept her promise. Over the years, she has only mentioned her first marriage, but she has never said who the other party is.
In this way, Song Dandan protected her first husband well, and at the same time protected herself, respecting each other, and she did a perfect job.
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1987, Song Dandan ended her first marriage in a confused manner, without any sadness or too much nostalgia. The two broke up peacefully, and everything was peaceful.
This year, Song Dandan was only 26 years old. At the same time, Yingda , who is one month older than her, just returned from studying in the United States. She is arrogant and vows to make a name for herself in the field of literature and art.
To be fair, Yingda has this talent. After all, he has very excellent artistic genes in his bones. You should know that his father Ying Ruocheng is a famous drama actor in the circle.
After Yingda was born, she has been enjoying the treatment of a "big young master". From childhood to adulthood, she has never suffered any grievances and has also received a very high-quality education.
Under the illumination of his old aura, Yingda worked hard to study. In the year of the college entrance examination, he successfully entered Peking University and became a top student at Peking University.
During college, Yingda worked hard while striving for the best, and at the same time, she gained both studies and love. As soon as she graduated from college, the two obtained their certificates and got married, forming a happy small family.
However, the happy married life did not last long, and Yingda was not satisfied because he loved art, so he decided to study abroad and specialize in drama.
The wife saw that he was determined to leave, but she did not stop him. Instead, she decided to follow the couple and be willing to give up her job in China and wander around the earth with him.
However, it is interesting that after two years of studying abroad, the couple had a conflict when they faced the choice of going home and staying in the United States to develop.
His wife felt that there was a great prospect for development abroad and was unwilling to return to China to develop again, but Yingda was just the opposite. He believed that he would only have a useful place when he returned to China.
So, the couple had different opinions, which eventually led to the collapse of their marriage. From then on, they broke up and each went to have fun.
After returning to China, Yingda successfully entered the Beijing People's Art Theater with the help of his father to start an internship. When rehearsing " Arson ", he and Song Dandan had an intersection.
After rehearsing the drama, the two of them praised each other for a while in the background. They learned from each other that they had just experienced a failed marriage and were in a state of mutual sympathy.
Talented and beautiful women are all in their prime. At the age when they all need to be loved, with the friction in the future, they begin to secretly feel affection and love each other over time.
1989, after obtaining the consent of each other's parents, the two walked into the hall of the Civil Affairs Bureau one by one and another, and received the third little red book in their lives.
I originally thought that two people who have experienced a failed marriage will be the best comrades and partners in the battlefield of their future life, but unexpectedly, their married life is also a mess.
Less than a month after marriage, Song Dandan received an invitation from the folk art master Zhao Lianjia and began to rehearse the sketch " Lazy Man Blind Dating " to prepare for the Spring Festival Gala that year.
A few months later, Song Dandan, who was only 28 years old, got her wish and became famous with her words "My name is Wei Shufen", and became famous throughout the streets and alleys in China.
Subsequently, Song Dandan starred in sketches such as "Super Birth Guerrillas", which established the status of "Queen of Sketches" in China and became a veritable big star.
, and her husband Yingda, who started with her at this time, was still unknown and had no improvement in his career. What made him even more depressed was that the people around him were no longer calling him Yingda, but called him "Song Dandan's husband".
The strong woman and the weak man made this "big young master" who graduated from Peking University and went abroad to drink foreign ink. She felt very uncomfortable psychologically and had a shadow.
Especially as this name deepens, a kind of inferiority complex began to spread in Yingda's heart, so in a future interview, he said excitedly:
"You think my name is Yingda only two words, and it is very easy to remember. Why do others struggle so hard!"
For this reason, Yingda was very depressed. He didn't want to live under the halo of his wife Song Dandan, so he devoted himself to creation. As for everything at home, he didn't care about it, and it all depends on Song Dandan alone.
Although Song Dandan is famous, she did not use this to suppress Yingda. On the contrary, she was open-minded and supported her husband in creating.
However, her true feelings and sincere efforts did not bring about a happy life after marriage.
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Second year after marriage, Song Dandan got pregnant, but she did not enjoy the treatment a pregnant woman should have, but she was still trying hard to make money with a big belly.
In addition, she also took on all the housework at home. If the light breaks, repair the light, repair the lock, and if there is no gas, she will buy it with her big belly.
She fulfilled all the responsibilities a wife should do, but in Yingda's view, these small things are Song Dandan's duties and she should do them.
Song Dandan, who was in a strong relationship, did not care about this. Even if her good friend said that she had spoiled Yingda, she just smiled and laughed.
Because she knows that a good marriage is not only the romantic relationship of youth, but also the soul of the long years; it is not only the spiritual support in life, but also a solid support in career.
Song Dandan has always believed that since the day she got along with Yingda, she has firmly believed that Yingda is a very smart and talented man and will become a great man in the future.
and she firmly believes that Yingda only needs an opportunity, an opportunity to show herself. For this reason, when she joined the crew to film, she tried her best to convince the director to give Yingda a role, and the director also gave her face. The shadow of her husband and wife in dramas such as "Forty Not Confused" and " Love You No Negotiable ".
In those years, the couple truly helped each other, shared joys and sorrows, and became the spiritual pillar in each other's lives and a solid support for their careers.
Especially after Song Dandan gave birth to his son Batu, the family of three suddenly became an enviable object in the circle, but by 1993, all this changed.
This year, the " I Love My Home " created by Yingda was released. He successfully realized his dream of being a director and also created a precedent for domestic sitcoms.
I have to say that top students who graduated from Peking University are really fucking, and foreign ink is really not for nothing.
At this point, Yingda gradually gained fame in the circle and became good friends with Liang Zuo . The two began to create together, and at the same time, there was also rumors with his sister Liang Huan.
Coincidentally, Liang Huan and Song Dandan were still good friends for many years, but at that time, "fire, theft and best friends" had not become popular yet, otherwise Song Dandan would never have lost her marriage.
After Song Dandan learned that Liang Huan had an affair with her husband, she began to turn a blind eye and did not take it seriously. She secretly encouraged herself in her heart that they were impossible. After all, one is her husband and the other is her good friend for many years.
At the same time, Yingda's father was hospitalized due to liver disease. As a daughter-in-law, Song Dandan needs to stay in the hospital every day to take care of her father-in-law, which made her not have too many ideas for the moment.
But not wanting it does not mean that some things will not happen. In the end, this scandal evolved into facts. When Song Dandan learned the truth and wanted to save it, she found that they were "severely ill" and loved them.
Even though the two families came forward to save the situation together, and Liang Huan's brother Liang Zuo even said that if the younger sister had something wrong with Yingda, the Liang family would have cut off relations with her, but neither could resist Yingda and Liang Huan being together.
In the end, Song Dandan, who couldn't bear it anymore, took the initiative to file for divorce under complicated emotions.
Song Dandan was very direct, and called him a phone call and said straight to the point: "I have an affair, let's get a divorce."
After hearing this, Yingda responded without any extra thoughts and directly responded. Then the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau and received the little red book again. At this time, Liang Huan was asking Yingda: Is the matter done and when will I go home?
What is even more unexpected is that only three days after Yingda and Song Dandan divorced, he and Liang Huan went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get the marriage certificate .
It can be seen that the two of them had already secretly had a new home outside, and Song Dandan was still like a fool, serving Yingda's father in the hospital day and night.
At the same time, Song Dandan, who thought he had many good friends, was stunned when he divorced, and all the so-called good friends around him went straight to Yingda.
The reason is very simple, because Yingda was a very famous director at that time, and the director's status was very high back then, so it became natural for those friends to leave Song Dandan.
At this time, Song Dandan felt particularly desperate. She took the child alone and didn't know how to go in the future. For this reason, she locked herself at home without seeing the sunshine, and even thought of death.
She even thought that even the old man who stored the car might not want her in the future. She would never be able to have a marriage again, and there would be no man to pursue her in the future.
At this moment, a call from Ni Ping gave her hope of rebirth: "Don't die first, come to my house to help us wipe the floor!"
Song Dandan went, Ni Ping and her grandmother prepared a delicious meal for her and gave her a political class in life, which resolved the knot in her heart.
God is fair. It closes a door for you and will open a window for you. If you overcome this hurdle, happiness will naturally not be far from yourself.
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997, Song Dandan met Zhao Yuji with the help of several best friends.
Zhao Yuji is a handsome and elegant person, knowledgeable and gentlemanly person. He is also an executive of a multinational company, has a good income, and he has just divorced.
After a simple understanding, the impression of each other was still good. In the following days, the two had a deeper relationship. The adult world does not require too many twists and turns.
After only 28 days of dating, Song Dandan decided to marry herself again. She was a flash marriage and brainstorming , but she said she did not regret it at all.
Not only did she not regret it, but she also said to Zhao Yuji: "Since my 37th birthday, I have followed you. I will not leave for the rest of my life, and you can't escape from my palm again."
The fact is true, and Song Dandan did choose the right person this time. Zhao Yuji is not only good to Song Dandan, but also regards Batu as his own son, and is completely raised.
Batu is also quite well-behaved. He called Zhao Yuji very sensible, but just like this, Dad, his real father Yingda became jealous and began a series of "sexy" operations from then on.
After Yingda and Liang Huan got married, Liang Huan gradually gave up his career and returned to his family, got pregnant and had a child, and gave birth to another fat boy for Yingda, named Yingrudida . After Ying Rudi was born, Yingda, as his father, was very happy and regarded his son as the "fifth generation successor of the Ying family" and placed high hopes on him.
Ying Rudi Since he became sensible, Yingda has devoted all his energy to his youngest son and spent a lot of money to let him learn piano, horse riding, figure skating, and other specialties.
Ying Rudi is talented in ice hockey, so Yingda sent her youngest son to study abroad at all costs. After returning from school, she returned to China to participate in the competition. Yingda even became her youngest son's special car driver nanny.
When he was on the show with his younger son, he said proudly: "I have been called Yingruocheng's son since I was very young, and later she was called XXX's husband. I am very disgusted with this."
"I am particularly willing to be called Yingruodi's father now. I think I am very honored."
Such various things are enough to show how much Yingda likes his younger son, but for the eldest son Batu, it is miserable. Yingda has never fulfilled his father's responsibilities.
It would be fine if he didn't fulfill his responsibilities. He also stepped on his eldest son twice from time to time. For example, he would say with disdain: "Yingbatu is my eldest son, but the word "Ying" is appropriately doubtful first. It is called Batu now."
Not only that, Song Dandan wanted him to fulfill his responsibilities as a father and took the initiative to bring Batu to the door, but Yingda said: "Don't come to me if you divorce. I don't want to hurt my current wife and son."
treats two sons, so different that Song Dandan really couldn't bear it to him, and posted a message to Yingda angrily: "You can perform a kind father, but don't hurt my son."
As soon as this article was posted, Yingda immediately fell into public opinion. In addition, Wang Shuo bombarded him with selfishness in the death of Liang Zuo, and Yingda's reputation in the circle instantly collapsed.
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The biological father is unreliable, just like his mother said, rely on himself.
Batu also entered the entertainment industry under the protection of his mother Song Dandan and began acting. In those years, almost all the film and television dramas that Song Dandan participated in filming were Batu.
In addition, Song Dandan also took her son to participate in variety shows to increase his son's exposure as much as possible. Although Batu's performance is average, he does not have a little bit of ruffianism.
He is honest and kind, treats people sincerely, and is positive and optimistic about life, especially when Song Dandan scolds him in public, he will not talk back to his mother in public, which shows how filial he is in his heart.
In 2018, 28-year-old Batu established his own small family, and in this year he became a father, had his own son, and Song Dandan also had his own grandson.
Three generations of family live together, and they are happy. This situation also makes Yingda on the other side have unreasonable thoughts.
He wanted to see his grandson and also wanted his grandson to call him grandfather in the future. This may be because he is old, or perhaps he wanted to reconcile with Song Dandan and his son Batu.
But he can forget the past, but Song Dandan will never forget, she will never forget Yingda's ruthlessness and indifference to her son Batu.
Just when Yingda suggested that she wanted to see her grandson, Song Dandan refused: "You are not qualified. You didn't even want your son back then. What qualifications do you have to be a grandfather?"
In fact, Song Dandan has confidence in saying these words. On the one hand, Yingda did not fulfill her responsibility to be a father to Batu in the past, and on the other hand, she is rich now and worth billions.
Moreover, she now has her own good connections, both in the entertainment industry and in the business circle. Some time ago, Song Dandan celebrated her birthday, and people from half of the circle went to send her blessings.
On the other hand, Yingda , Not only did he lose his career, he also owed him 5 million foreign debts. Because he refused to pay back, he was finally sued by him.
Nowadays, he put all his hopes on his youngest son. Not only was he anxious, he also had to work hard to work hard.
Sometimes, time is the best proof. People have to bow their heads in front of reality. Looking at Yingda's interview, he found that his tone of speaking has completely changed.
"As long as you have the opportunity, I will treat all children equally, but others don't let you pay attention, so how can I pay attention. "
This sentence has a sympathy and a pitiful smell.
But no matter what he said, how pitiful, Song Dandan and his son Batu no longer care. The mother and the two live freely and happily now.
One shines on variety shows and keeps making money, and the other starts the second spring in their career on live broadcast. Both mother and son live like Yingda cannot afford it.
I don’t know if Yingda regretted himself when he was dreaming at midnight. He shouldn’t be so ruthless to them and son.
In fact, you shouldn’t be so proud when you are proud, and don’t be discouraged when you are at a low point. Whether you are relatives or ordinary people, sometimes you can’t speak too much. Giving others a decent means leaving a way out for yourself. Otherwise, the only thing that is embarrassing will be yourself.
