One day in 2012, actor Bai Han was lying on the hospital bed and said to Hai Qing who came to see her: "Hai Qing, I'm leaving soon. I want to ask you to do me a favor. Can you do it?"

Text丨Ning Yi

Editor丨Yu Aunt

One day in 2012, actor Bai Han was lying on the hospital bed and said to Haiqing who came to see her: "Haiqing, I'm leaving soon, I I want to ask you to do me a favor. Can you do it?"

Hai Qing took her hand and said, "I won't help you. You can do it yourself after you recover."

Bai Han smiled. Said: "Don't pretend to be so fierce. I know you want me to get better, but I know that my body is incurable. Just listen to me."

Hai Qing held back tears and said: "Teacher Bai, just tell me if you have anything to say."

Bai Han took a breath and said: "After I die, I want to be buried with my husband; also, my son is already 31 years old, but I still feel relieved No, I’ll leave her to you, and you can take care of her for me.”

Hai Qing nodded vigorously.

Not long after, Teacher Bai Han passed away due to illness.

Bai Han's son is already 31 years old, older than Hai Qing. Why should Hai Qing take care of him?

1

Bai Han's life can be described in one word, that is "bitter".

In fact, when he was a child, Bai Han's life had nothing to do with hardship.

In 1955, Bo Han was born in an intellectual family in Xicheng District, Beijing.

My father is a professor at China Public Security University, and my mother is a recorder at the Xicheng District Court.

As the only daughter in the family, her parents devoted all their love to Bai Han.

Coming from a wealthy family and being regarded as the apple of his eye by his parents, Bai Han's childhood can be said to be carefree.

In such a relaxed atmosphere, Bai Han gradually fell in love with literature and art, and singing and dancing were no problem.

The happiest time for her every day is when her parents come home from get off work, pouring them a cup of tea, and then performing a show for them.

Whenever this happens, her parents always applaud her very much.

But this life ended abruptly when she was seven years old.

When Bai Han was seven years old, for unknown reasons, his father was sent to work in the countryside.

Due to the influence of his father, his mother can no longer work.

The life at home suddenly fell from heaven to hell.

What's even more terrible is that because of what happened to my father, my mother was greatly stimulated and went insane.

Her friends who used to play better with Bo Han also moved away from her, and some even teased her about her parents.

Bai Han, who had always lived a princess-like life, was forced to grow up overnight.

At that time, she was in school, but she was worried about her mentally disturbed mother being at home alone.

So, every morning before going to school, Bai Han would prepare the food that his mother would eat for the day, and then lock the door to prevent his mother from running around.

But no matter how careful she was, her mother was always missing when she came back from school every day.

The little Bai Han had no choice but to look for his mother with a flashlight. Fortunately, his mother's memory was failing and she couldn't remember too many directions, so every time she had a near miss.

After bringing his mother home, Bo Han cooked for himself and his mother.

After clearing away the dishes and chopsticks, Bo Han cleaned up the mess her mother had made. Only then did she have time to do her homework.

Even though life is hard, Bai Han never gives up hope. She believes that these days will end soon and the family will be reunited soon.

Every time he felt that he couldn't hold on any longer, Bai Han would take out his treasured radio and listen to one or two songs. After

heard this, he continued to depend on his mother.

Bai Han knew that with the current situation in his family, he had no chance to engage in literature and art.

In addition to listening to music, Bai Han also likes to collect posters of celebrities, dreaming that one day he can be like them.

Sometimes, she held the posters and looked at them for a whole day. Although she was careful, the posters were still a little damaged by her.

When he was 14 years old, one day, as usual, Bo Han arranged the day's food for his mother and went to school.

The moment she stepped out of the house, her mother's voice came from behind: "Baby, mom is sorry for you."

Bai Han didn't think much about it, because her mother's spirit was up and down, and she thought her mother was I will be mentally normal again.

But not long after Baihan arrived at school, he was called back by his neighbor.

When he got home, Bai Han learned that his mother took the initiative to end her life because she couldn't bear this humiliating life.

Looking at her mother lying quietly on the ground, Bai Han's long-simmered emotions burst out, and she couldn't help crying loudly.

Only now did she understand what her mother meant by what she said that morning.

sent his mother away, and not long after, his father was sent home because of illness.

At first, Bo Han was very happy, feeling that his father was finally home.

But she didn't know that her father was suffering from illness at this time.

Bai Han noticed something was wrong with his father and asked his father to go to the hospital for examination.

But his father always said that he was fine and that he could just take a rest, because he knew that his condition was out of control, not to mention that his family had no money for his treatment.

After a few days, Bai Han felt more and more something was wrong. Regardless of her father's objections, she carried her father to the hospital for a check-up.

results, the inspection results almost made Bai Han faint.

My father is terminally ill and there is no way he can save himself.

Even if he is hospitalized now, it can only slightly relieve his pain, and he will have to pay tens of thousands of yuan in hospitalization expenses every day.

When he heard this number, Bo Han hesitated.

Don’t say tens of thousands of yuan a day, it’s just a few hundred yuan. For her as a teenager, these are astronomical figures.

There was no other way, so Bai Han had no choice but to carry his father back home and try his best to take good care of his father and try to make him less painful.

However, her filial piety did not bring about a miracle. Not long after returning home, her father passed away.

His parents died one after another, which was a huge blow to Bai Han.

From then on, she was the only one left in the world.

But some people may collapse in great pain, while some people will become stronger after experiencing catastrophes.

Bai Han belongs to the latter.

Because there is nothing more painful than losing one's parents one after another.

2

After dealing with his father's funeral, Bo Han cheered up again.

She recalled her childhood dream of literature and art, and her father's instructions to her before his death, and she made up her mind to follow the path of literature and art.

At that time, the art team of the Beijing Municipal Power Supply Bureau was rehearsing the Peking Opera " The Legend of the Red Lantern ".

When the news reached Bai Han, she immediately realized that this was a good opportunity.

When she was in middle school, she starred in "The Story of the Red Lantern" at the school's art party. Bo Han felt that this opportunity was tailor-made for her.

signed up without saying a word.

Although he has not received professional training, Bai Han's conditions in all aspects are very suitable for the role of "Li Tiemei" in the play.

Therefore, she successfully passed the assessment.

After finishing "The Story of the Red Lantern", Bo Han successfully stayed at the Power Supply Bureau.

However, she was not a professional member of the art team, but was assigned to the workshop and became a female worker.

Bo Han, who has a literary dream in his heart, is naturally not willing to star in just one Peking opera in his life.

So, she went to work during the day and went to watch the rehearsals of the art team after get off work. She watched so many times that she could perform every performance of the art team.

Slowly, the leader also noticed her and recruited her into the art team.

In the art team, Bai Han was at home like a fish in water, and his abilities have also been greatly improved.

But at this time, Bai Han was no longer content with the status quo. She felt that she ultimately wanted to be a professional actor.

Therefore, while performing with the team, she looked for opportunities everywhere.

Once, Bai Han heard that the military band was recruiting students, and she ran to take the exam excitedly. After

took the exam, every examiner was very satisfied with her.

Although the results haven't come out yet, every teacher couldn't help but nod and smile when Bai Han performed.

Bai Han felt that he would definitely be admitted.

As a result, after the results came out, Bai Han was dumbfounded. She, who was ranked at the top in all grades, was actually dropped.

After some inquiring, Bo Han found out that it was his family's reasons that made the band abandon him during his political trial.

But this reason was something Bo Han could not change no matter how hard she tried, so she had no choice but to give up this opportunity.

However, this exam made Bai Han realize that she had acting talent. Although she was rejected, it strengthened her confidence.

Since then, Bai Han has taken exams everywhere. As long as she hears that an art troupe is recruiting people, she will rush there no matter how far away it is.

has taken more than 20 exams and passed the exam every time, but every time he was rejected during the political review process.

Until 1979, the National Experimental Theater openly recruited actors from the public, and their background was not known.

After Bai Han heard about it, he signed up immediately. During the

interview, she performed her own short play "Return".

The story tells the story of a mother and daughter who stand in front of the door every day and look forward to their husband or father who has been treated unfairly to come home early.

Precisely because Bo Han has had such an experience, this story is very touching. Bo Han almost acted in his true self, which moved all the judges.

With this short play, Bo Han stood out from more than 4,000 candidates and became one of the 24 people admitted.

entered the theater. In just two years, Bo Han starred in classic dramas such as "The Peach Blossom Fan" and "In the Silent Place".

Her superb acting skills and dedicated attitude left a deep impression on the leadership. The leadership told Bai Han many times that as long as she can continue to work hard in the field of drama, she will definitely have greater achievements in the future.

However, at this time, Bai Han no longer had such a great desire for success and fame.

Having experienced a broken family since she was a child, she desperately longs for a complete and warm family.

However, it turns out that people who are more obsessed with a perfect family will suffer greater losses in family life.

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In 1981, Bai Han met his first husband.

The other party was an outsider, working in a public institution, and Bo Han fell in love with him at first sight.

Not long after, the two got married.

Less than a year after their marriage, their son Han Qing was born.

At this time, the husband revealed his true face.

He has a strong desire to control and does not allow Bo Han to do this or that. However, his own salary is not high, and the family often lives in poverty.

Bai Han was exhausted from taking care of his son at home, and sometimes he couldn't help but say a few words.

But every time Bo Han opened her mouth, her husband would get furious, thinking that Bo Han looked down on her, and beat her half to death.

Several times, when the two of them were arguing, their son Han Qing would huddle in the corner, not daring to make a sound or move.

Bai Han couldn't stand this kind of life, but she couldn't bear the divorce. She always felt that the child was still young and she didn't want the child to live in a family without a father.

In order to get rid of her husband's control, Bai Han insisted on returning to filming despite her husband's objections.

At that time, filming was very slow, and it took half a year for Bai Han to leave.

Once, when Bai Han returned home, he found that his son no longer recognized him and actually called him "aunt".

Bai Han felt very uncomfortable, and at the same time he was determined to spend more time with his children in the future.

However, as long as she is at home, she will inevitably quarrel with her husband.

The son is still the same as before, huddled in the corner and shivering in fear.

Until later, a friend told her: a toxic environment is more detrimental to the growth of children than a single-parent family.

Bai Han suddenly realized this and made up his mind to divorce her husband and give his son a healthy environment to grow up.

After the divorce, Bai Han lived alone with her son, and she had no parents to help her.

The life of mother and son is very difficult.

When the child reached school age, Bai Han discussed with his son and sent him to a boarding school.

In this way, Bai Han has time and energy to continue filming.

But accidents happen from time to time.

Once, my son Han Qing had a high fever at school and shouted "Mom". The school had no choice but to call Bai Han and ask her to come to school.

Bai Han, who had just finished filming, rushed to school without even having time to change his clothes.

When his son Han Qing saw his mother coming, he stopped crying and stopped making trouble. Bai Han put the child to sleep before leaving.

Days like this make Bo Han anxious all day long. She is always afraid that one day her son will not be able to stand the boarding life anymore and will make a fuss about going home.

Fortunately, the matter was resolved soon.

During the filming process, Bai Han met his second husband Han Xiaolei .

Han Xiaolei was an associate professor at Beijing Film Academy at the time. He was gentle and very talented.

The two met in 1995 and got married a year later.

After getting married, Han Xiaolei devoted all his patience and love to his wife Bai Han and stepson Han Qing.

When the two got married, Han Qing was in a rebellious stage, but in front of her stepfather Han Xiaolei, Han Qing became particularly obedient.

If Han Qing has something to do, he is more willing to discuss it with Han Xiaolei.

Not only that, Han Xiaolei has nothing to say about his wife Bai Han.

After getting married, he took over all the housework, allowing Bai Han to go home and rest every day.

Bai Han would prepare a few side dishes for himself and her husband every night, open a bottle of beer, and the two of them would have a drink while discussing movies and art. It was so comfortable.

Later, Bai Han even said that this period of time with her husband was her first love.

But such happy time did not last long, and was deprived again.

One day in 2003, Bai Han went out to buy groceries as usual, leaving her husband at home alone.

records that a few minutes after Bai Han went out, her husband Han Xiaolei died suddenly of a heart attack.

After all, he would never have the chance to talk to his wife again.

Bai Han was so sad that she was even unable to film for a while. It was not until a year after her husband passed away that she adjusted.

When Han Xiaolei left, Bo Han was only 48 years old, and many people advised her to find another one.

But they were all rejected by Bai Han. For her, she only has one husband in this life, and that is Han Xiaolei.

A year later, Bai Han adjusted himself and returned to filming.

She is about to turn fifty, and she has only one family member left for the rest of her life, her son Han Qing.

But God made another joke on her.

4

In 2009, Bo Han starred in the role of "Cao Xinmei" in "The Beautiful Era of Wifes". After the TV series

was broadcast, it caused a strong response.

Bo Han was finally remembered by the audience for her superb acting skills and won the Magnolia Award for Best Actress.

Not only that, she also met Hai Qing, who was 22 years younger than her, during filming. The two got very close and became friends every year.

However, the good times did not last long. Not long after Bai Han won the award, she was diagnosed with an incurable disease.

While Bai Han was hospitalized, Hai Qing often visited her, and the two talked about everything.

Bai Han said that he has no regrets in his life. The only thing he can't worry about is his son Han Qing.

At that time, her son Han Qing was already married, and his daughter-in-law was Du Feifei, a nurse.

Bai Han knew in his heart that although his son was older than Hai Qing, he was not as mature and sensible as Hai Qing.

Moreover, she also knew that once she left, her son would only have his wife as a relative.

Bai Han, who had been losing her loved ones, could not bear to let her son repeat her pain, so she entrusted him to Hai Qing before she died.

And Haiqing did not disappoint Bai Han's entrustment. She said to Bai Han: "Don't worry, I will treat him as a biological brother."

Haiqing did what she said, and until now, the relationship between the two families has been very good. Very good, like family.

After Bai Han passed away, her son followed her wishes and buried her and her second husband Han Xiaolei together.

Parents who love their children have far-reaching plans.

Bai Han has lived in the pain of losing a loved one for most of her life. She didn't want her son to repeat her pain, so she found a relative for her son.

Not only did Haiqing keep his word, he also gained a new family member.