Author: Mi Qiao (Fu Shu columnist) During this period, the costume drama "Meng Hua Lu" has continued to dominate the major search lists, and its popularity continues to rise unabated. Some people are fascinated by the beauty of the characters, some are intoxicated by the scenery

Author: Mi Qiao (Fushu columnist)

During this period, the costume drama "梦华鹿" has continued to dominate the major search lists, and its popularity continues to rise, unabated.

Some people are fascinated by the beauty of the characters, some are intoxicated by the scenery of Jiangnan, and some are deeply moved by the attitude of the women in the play towards life.

Zhao Pan'er, played by Liu Yifei , is the proprietress of Zhao's teahouse, and she manages her business in an orderly manner in Qiantang.

Later, when she heard that her fiancé, Ouyang Xu, a new beauty prospect, wanted to marry the daughter of a high-ranking official, she was unwilling to accept her fate and insisted on going to Beijing to seek justice.

was driven away from Tokyo in order not to be driven away by Ouyang Xu, who had climbed to another high position. Zhao Pan'er, Song Yinzhang and Sun Sanniang went through hardships together and gradually developed the small teahouse into the largest restaurant in Tokyo.

finally got out of the predicament and achieved a counterattack in life.

As a female, while following the drama, I feel more deeply:

A girl’s life always seems to be full of all kinds of unexpected dilemmas and crises.

But it is precisely because of this that her parents must train her more carefully.

Raise your daughter well. You must tell her these three sentences, which will benefit her for life!

Never underestimate yourself, you are no worse than anyone else

Many people like Zhao Paner’s independence, but I prefer Zhang Haohao’s self-love.

She came from a humble background and became a geisha at a young age, but she never looked down upon herself.

simply relied on her celestial songs to become the most famous oiran in Tokyo.

Faced with the lack of confidence in sending Song Yinzhang, she expressed her belief:

"In terms of books alone, we are indeed not good people, but how are we cheap?

Remember, people who serve sex are called cheap, we She relies on her own ability to make a living and live an upright and upright life. "

No matter what situation she is in, she can always face her own value from an objective perspective.

Neither belittle oneself because of one's own background, nor belittle oneself because of other people's opinions.

always maintains a clear understanding of himself, does not magnify weaknesses, does not ignore strengths, and lives an open and unrestrained life.

I have read a letter from Sanmao, which is a reply to a reader signed as "Unhappy Girl", called: "If I Were You".

The girl previously told Sanmao in a letter:

I am 29 years old and have no good looks, no decent job, no friends, and no love.

My life is poor, bleak, humble and ordinary. Please tell me what the meaning of life is.

Sanmao replied to the girl like this:

If I were you, the first thing to do is to increase your expectations and value for yourself.

Sweep away the strings of inferiority complexes in the letter from your life, and never look down on yourself again.

You have your own career, your own room, your appearance is good, and you have pursuits in life, so why should you feel humble...

In fact, there is no distinction between high and low among people. Everyone is an independent personality.

There is absolutely no need to lose sight of your own shining points because other people's light is too dazzling.

Just like Mr. Yang Jiang said:

"No matter what stage of life we ​​are at, there are people below the stairs looking up to you, and there are people above the stairs looking down on you.

You look up and feel inferior, and you bow your head and are complacent. Only by looking straight can you See your true self.”

So, as parents, please tell your daughters: You must learn to face your own value and never underestimate yourself.

Have "strong thinking",

Be a girl who is not easy to mess with.

Observation found that most girls in life are accustomed to putting themselves in the position of the weak.

When I was in school, I felt that my intelligence was not as good as that of boys, so I gave up mathematics, physics and chemistry;

When I was working, I felt that my ability was not as good as that of boys, so I gave up the opportunity for promotion;

After getting married, I felt that I did not earn as much as boys, so I gave up my job.

As a result, they are deeply troubled by "weak thinking", and their lives have become less and less confident and less confident.

Song Yinzhang in Menghualu is a typical example.

When Song Yinzhang appeared, he looked submissive and weak.

Although he is known as "the best pipa player in Jiangnan", he often looks down on himself because of his background and always feels inferior to others.

She was obsessed with deportation and even pinned her hopes on marriage. However, she had no choice but to trust others and met a "domestic violence man".

beat her all over her body for money, deprived her of food and water, and even tied her up like a dog.

But even after suffering such inhuman treatment, Song Yinzhang never thought of resisting or saving himself, and still swallowed his anger and allowed him to bully him.

In addition to Song Yinzhang, Sun Sanniang’s experience is also embarrassing.

Before going to Tokyo, she was betrayed by her husband and abandoned by her son. In despair, she even wanted to give up her life. Although

was fortunate enough to be rescued, he did not escape the fate of being seriously injured and seriously ill.

During that time, she was depressed every day and kept blaming herself. She was once immersed in despair and pain and couldn't extricate herself.

Compared with Song Yinzhang and Sun Sanniang, Zhao Paner's thinking clearly belongs to "the thinking of the strong" .

When she learned that Song Yinzhang was being tortured by a scumbag, she did not choose to back down because of his strong strength.

On the contrary, she not only helped Song Yinzhang out of trouble with her own wisdom, but also made the scumbag pay the corresponding price.

If every girl was as weak and vulnerable as Song Yinzhang, she would only be pinched by others as a soft persimmon.

But if you are like Zhao Paner, who has a clear distinction between love and hate, and is neither humble nor overbearing, others will be in awe of you.

In the final analysis, This is a world where everyone admires the strong. If you are too weak and humble, you will only suffer the consequences.

Actor Huang Bo once said: When you are weak, there are the most bad people. When you are strong, you are surrounded by good people. "

This may sound a bit cruel, but it is an undoubted fact.

So I tell girls, they must get rid of the "weak mentality" and bravely be an angular girl.

Because, truly open-minded and powerful All people have a "strong mind".

A truly powerful girl,

has an "unyielding" tenacity in her body.

Zhao Paner, in addition to her beauty, also has that "unyielding" tenacity.

In the first half of her life, her fate was full of twists and turns. At a young age, she was demoted as an official slave due to her father's sins and was reduced to a lowly status.

But she never accepted the fate, and relied on her own ability to make the tea business prosperous and popular all over the south of the Yangtze River.

later lived in Tokyo. Her "fiancé" tried every means to expel her from Tokyo, but she secretly vowed to take root in Tokyo through her own efforts.

So she started her second business and returned to her old business. The business was so popular that her peers were jealous.

When a colleague came to make trouble, Zhao Paner not only did not mess up the situation, but used his superb tea skills to convince the other party.

Life seems to have never stopped making things difficult for Zhao Paner, but she always gets through it every time.

In addition to her outstanding abilities, what is more important is her "unyielding" tenacity:

dares to face suffering and dares to fight life to the end.

This reminds me of the travel blogger Fang Qi who became famous some time ago with the sentence "Let him be strong, and the breeze will blow over the hills."

She once came from an ordinary family and was unremarkable. She aspired to get into a university in Beijing but failed twice in a row.

Even if her life is not satisfactory, she is not discouraged at all and still tries her best to look for all opportunities to go to Beijing.

In order to become the host, Fang Qi called the unfamiliar column group and was frequently hung up on; in order to promote herself, she stood outside the door for five hours.

finally got an internship opportunity, but he could only serve tea, pour water, and unpack express delivery... For half a year, there was no hope in life.

But even so, she never thought of giving up.

Hard work paid off. After working as a free labor force for several months, she finally got the opportunity to appear on the camera.

relied on his persistence and perseverance to finally become the host of CCTV programs and realize his dream of hosting.

Today, she also started her own business as a travel blogger, became popular all over the Internet, and became a winner in life that countless people envied.

Marx once said:

"Life is like an ocean, and only those with a strong will can reach the other side."

Every outstanding person has the tenacity not to compromise and surrender to fate.

Because they firmly believe that even if life gives them 100 slaps, the 101st one must be candy.

In the final analysis, people who are accustomed to compromising with life can never become the master of life.

Only by having the tenacity to not give in and not giving life a chance to knock you down can you defeat life and regain control of your life.

"Meng Hua Lu" is like a guide to women's growth:

not only allows the girls in the play to gain their own life insights, but also opens the door to self-salvation for countless ordinary girls in real life.

It allows girls to understand:

The more difficult the situation in life, the more you must love yourself; get rid of the weak mentality and be a "not easy to mess with" girl; always have the courage to fight life to the end.

Like, only in this way, you will not live a humble and pale life in the good years when you should be in high spirits.

About the author: Mi Qiao, a columnist of Fushu, an atypical Virgo girl born in 1995, who likes running, reading and all beautiful things. Article: Parents evolution theory . The copyright of this article belongs to Fushu. No unauthorized use is allowed. Reprinting, infringement will be investigated, Fushu 2018 launches new book "Good Life"