Yi Nengjing started to teach people to love again.
She recently participated in the "Let's Fall in Love" variety show, and once again became the love leader. In the show, she openly talked about her relationship with Qin Hao 's sister and brother, and bluntly said that love has nothing to do with age.
partner Zhang Jike said to her from the bottom that you look 20 years younger than your actual age. Yi Nengjing blushed immediately. Hearing such compliments at the age of 53 is what many women dream of.
However, people who are familiar with Yi Nengjing know that although her career has gone smoothly, her relationship has experienced ups and downs. This is also the reason why she is getting younger and younger when she is happy at the age of 50.
This little woman tells us through her half-life experience of seeking love that true love cannot come, but must be attracted through continuous practice.
Childhood Lack of Love
Yi Nengjing was born in Taiwan in 1968, and his parents had 6 daughters at the time of birth. Father Wu Min wanted his son especially, and was disappointed when he saw that she was a daughter, and immediately filed for divorce on this ground.
Mother Yang Shuwan learned later that Wu Min already had a woman outside and gave him a son.
In order to reconcile the family, Yang Shuwan begged a third party to adopt her son to herself, but was humiliated and rejected by the other party. Therefore, Yang Shuwan attributed all the divorce to Yi Nengjing, and often spread grievances on her.
When she is in a bad mood, she says to Yi Nengjing: If it were not for you, her mother might be better off.
In order to live, Yang Shuwan picked up her old profession and started singing, so she couldn't take care of the young Yi Nengjing.So she was sent to the countryside and asked a couple to take care of her. This couple was Yi Nengjing's adoptive parents.
The adoptive parents make a living by selling popsicles. In order to prevent her from losing, they chained her to the wheel of a tricycle. Because she was too poor, she didn't wear shoes before the age of 6, and felt like a monkey.
A few years later, when Yi Nengjing was filming, she often walked barefoot in the corridors of the hotel. Many crew members were surprised when they saw it, but she pointed to her feet and said, I grew up in the countryside. This way of walking is A memorial left by poverty.
Before she was 6 years old, her father only gave her a name called Wu Jingyi . She didn't even look at it. Her mother occasionally looked at her and left. She once thought that her mother was just a kind aunt.
This is Yi Nengjing's childhood. Few people lack love more than her.
Later, Yang Shuwan felt that Yi Nengjing was not close to her, and took her back. Soon after receiving her, she was sent to Hong Kong for her to study hard, so that her second sister could raise her.
The second brother-in-law is a businessman. After business failure, he suffered from mild bipolar disorder . He often abused her. In addition to beating her, he also fed her dog food.
Until 13 years old, my mother remarried to Japan and took her to her side.
After arriving in Japan, her stepfather treated her very well. Yi Nengjing, who had not been cared for for many years, was very grateful to her stepfather, so he changed his surname to Yi Nengjingjiang . This is where Yi Nengjing's name came from.
At that time, Yi Nengjing also liked reading books. In order to buy books, she often went to restaurants to wash dishes to make money. Reading more books, her writing skills will naturally become better.
There was an essay contest, and seeing half of the time passed, Yi Nengjing didn't write a word. The teacher was anxious for her. After asking, she realized that although she can speak Japanese, it is difficult to write Japanese composition, so the teacher agreed to write in Chinese.
In the end, she won the first place in that composition competition. It can be seen that she was very good at writing in Girls’ Generation.
some time passed,Yi Nengjing found that her mother was not happy in life, and she was always at odds with the people around her.
Because the stepfather is a rich Japanese businessman, my mother must integrate into the Japanese rich wives group, but my mother does not understand Japanese customs very well, so she is often laughed at by the rich wives.
After a long time, my mother wanted to go home, and Yi Nengjing wanted to work and earn money, and take her mother back to Taiwan. When she was less than 16 years old, she began to think about taking on family responsibilities.
Many people say that Yi Nengjing became famous after Tai Zuo. It was because they didn't know how miserable her childhood experience was. After more than ten years, she moved to three families and three places, and anyone would feel insecure.
The Girl Looking for Love
In 1986, Yi Nengjing returned to Taiwan to play and went to the photo studio to take pictures. The boss thought her picture was beautiful, so he washed one more and advertised. Discovered by singer Liu Wenzheng.
People in the 70s and 80s may not remember Liu Wenzheng’s name, but he must have heard of his "Light Rain in March" and "Grandma's Penghu Bay". At that time, he had already transformed from a singer to an agent and was planning to find The three girls form a flying eagle combination.
Liu Wenzheng saw Yi Nengjing at a glance, and Yi Nengjing also wanted to seize this opportunity. Unfortunately, Yi Nengjing’s mother disagreed, because she had been a singer, until how hard it was to be a singer, she refused to allow Yi Nengjing to sing. .
Without her mother's consent, Yi Nengjing couldn't sign with the record company, so she found her father who hadn't been in contact for many years. The father and daughter reconciled because of the signing event, and Yi Nengjing thought she had fatherly love from then on.
The Flying Eagle Group became popular quickly after its establishment. At that time, there was a popular saying in Taiwan: "women love tigers, men love flying eagles". It was just that this combination was disbanded after only five years, but at that time Yi Nengjing had the ability to fly solo.
To commemorate the lost and regained father’s love,Yi Nengjing's first album was sung to her father, called "Don't Tell Dad". On the night when the festival list was good, my father came over to sign a contract with her.
After signing, she sent her father downstairs and looked at his 1.8 meters tall, but riding a 500CC small motorcycle, Yi Nengjing blurted out: "You are too dangerous."
Father smiled and said: "Then you make money Buy me a trolley later!" Then she rode away. She didn't expect that this trip was actually their father and daughter's farewell. That night her father was hit by a car while riding his bike.
How many years later, whenever Yi Nengjing sang "Don't Tell Dad", she couldn't help crying.
At that time, although Yi Nengjing, who first set foot in the music scene, was very popular, he was still financially distressed. For many years, he lived in a house of more than ten square meters, with one bed and one stove, and the environment was very simple, but Yi Nengjing felt that Very satisfied.
Although she is the youngest, since she started to sing, her family's living expenses began to be borne by her.
Before her father died, she owed more than 10 million debts. It took her ten years to pay off. This was not easy for Yi Nengjing, who was still a girl at the time.
Encountering Love
When she first debuted, Yi Nengjing was under 16 years old, and she was full of hope for love. Once a wealthy businessman in Hong Kong fell in love with her, Yi Nengjing was once caught in this relationship and couldn't help herself, often delaying work for love.
Because of her good singing, Yi Nengjing met the famous director Hou Xiaoxian , and got the opportunity to star in " Tragic City ", and partnered with Leung Tow Wai who was still very young at the time.
But Yi Nengjing did not grasp this opportunity.
Because at this time, her first boyfriend, who hadn’t appeared for a long time, suddenly contacted her,In order to accompany her boyfriend, she did not hesitate to release Hou Xiaoxian's pigeons.
It's a pity that this relationship came and went quickly. Fortunately, her career was developing at that time, and she turned and devoted herself to her career after she fell in love.
Yi Nengjing later recalled that at that time she was too young to understand responsibility.
Indeed, for a girl who lacks love since childhood, love is too important.
Her concept of participating in a major director's film is far from the warmth that a man gives her.
Although she missed this shooting opportunity because of her "love brain", Hou Xiaoxian did not seem to hate her. Instead, she continued to play the role of Yi Nengjing in later movies. The most famous is Tony Leung, Li Jiaxin Wait for the " sea flower" to be performed together.
It can be seen how prosperous Yi Nengjing's career was at the time, but she didn't care about it. What she needs more is love.
In a concert in 1986, 18-year-old Yi Nengjing met 26-year-old Yu Chengqing .
Prior to this, Yu Chengqing had a small reputation, but Yi Nengjing did not know him.
Yu Chengqing sang " let me love enough at once " on stage. Yi Nengjing suddenly felt that this man was special, but he didn't know where it was special.
After the concert, many people gathered around Yi Nengjing, but Yu Chengqing smiled at her from a distance. This one particularly aroused Yi Nengjing's curiosity.
In fact, Yu Chengqing, who grew up in a traditional family, has long been overwhelmed by the passion of Yi Nengjing, but he likes long rivers and doesn't like chasing like other men.
Compared with the ups and downs of Yi Nengjing, Yu Chengqing is a famous family. His ancestors once founded Asia Tobacco Company ,His grandfather Yu Enxi was the mayor of Kunming City, his father Yu Jialin was a veteran in the film and television industry, and his mother was a famous Peking opera actress Zhang Zhengfen .
The place where Yu Chengqing lived when he was a child is now Yuyuan , a famous tourist attraction in Yunnan, China. In addition to him, there are two older sisters at home. Originated from a good family education, Yu Chengqing was a clear stream in the entertainment industry at the time.
He is talented, he concentrates on music, and at the same time dabbles in hosting and variety shows, but he is very principled, first-rate eloquence, high education, good looks, but only depends on talent.
What is even more rare is that he is in a big dyeing tank in Taiwan's entertainment industry, but he does not touch his body. He abides by his own principles very much. He is an extreme combination of fashion avant-garde and traditional restraint.
For Yi Nengjing, this kind of person seems to be only seen in novels, but since she was lack of love since childhood, she has always longed for princess-like love, and Yu Chengqing just has all the conditions for a prince.
You are affectionate, I am intentional, and the two slowly come together.
Both of them love their careers very much, so they chose a secret love, which lasted for 14 years. Yi Nengjing did not expect that the fine water between her and Harlem could last up to 14 years.
In 1995, Hou Xiaoxian invited her to star in the movie " Good Man and Woman ". She finally won the Golden Horse Award, and Yi Nengjing, who was in her early 20s, became popular.
In 1999, 20-year-old Yi Nengjing released his first album "The Last Day of Nineteen Years Old". The entire album was written by Yi Nengjing himself and won the love of young people as soon as it was released.
Both their careers are rising steadily. Unfortunately, due to the very different backgrounds, their understanding of love is also very different, and their performance in love is naturally very different.
Yu Chengqing, born in tradition, has been very regular in doing things since childhood, and his work and rest schedules are very regular.He always respected his parents and promised to go home every night and never break his promise.
Yi Nengjing later wrote in " Last Words of Life and Death" that when they were in love, Harlem always left Yi Nengjing to go home in the middle of the night, even though Yi Nengjing had tears on her face, but Harlem kept explaining to her , Must go home before 12 o'clock.
In fact, friends who are familiar with him know that this is because he is used to a regular life. He has to exercise every day and do music. Even if he goes to his girlfriend's house, he can't delay. This is his very firm principle.
But Yi Nengjing is different. She is a person who goes crazy when she loves. As she writes in the book, she loves to death when she loves.
She used to chase after Harlem a certain breakup, and then claimed to commit suicide.
Yu Chengqing could not accept this kind of heat, so Yi Nengjing would cry to him on the phone, whether he fell in love with other people would be better.
In that 14-year long-distance love race, Yi Nengjing actually loved very humblely. Many variety shows in Taiwanese media always like to use the artist's emotional issues as gimmicks.
They asked Yi Nengjing on the show if she was with Haring. She always bowed her head and blushed and said vaguely. When they asked Yu Chengqing again, they got a very positive veto.
So the media will ridicule, Yi Nengjing goes crazy and wants to fall in love with Yu Chengqing. This kind of ridicule is simply fatal to Yi Nengjing.
But Yi Nengjing couldn't walk away at the time. Since they began to fall in love, she has regarded Yu Chengqing as a life-saving straw and tried her best to seize his love.
In her other book "Three Lives III", Yi Nengjing wrote a very sad story.
Once, two people made an appointment to watch a concert in Japan, and Yu Chengqing had a company to help arrange the best hotel. In order not to expose her love affair, Yi Nengjing had to fly to Japan first. In order to save money, she stayed in a very simple hotel.
Later, Yi Nengjing complained to Yu Chengqing on the phone that the hotel environment was too bad.And it's not safe, Yu Chengqing thought for a long time, but couldn't ask her to come.
Yi Nengjing asked her if she lived in a room, and Yu Chengqing said that she was next to her room and Yi Nengjing gave up.
But after a while, Yu Chengqing was like nothing. He talked to Yi Nengjing about how luxurious his hotel is and the scenery outside the window.
Yi Nengjing was ridiculed on the phone.
Missed Love
14 years, this number is unbearable for any woman, because they can not be exposed, they quarreled many times, Yi Nengjing even directly asked Haring: "You are It’s not that it’s embarrassing to take me out.”
Think about it, in this 14-year love, the two publicly took fewer than five photos. If Yi Nengjing did not get sick in 1999, they might not have come to the end.
Just when she was diagnosed with cancer, Yu Chengqing decided to be responsible for her, even if the doctor said that if it was cancer, the consequences would be very serious, Yu Chengqing still firmly said that she should be responsible to the end.
In 2000, the two got married in the United States. There was only Harlem’s family at the wedding, and there was no one on Yi Nengjing. I ate pizza for the first Chinese meal after marriage, and stayed at someone else’s house for the first night.
This is not the marriage between the prince and the princess that Yi Nengjing imagined.
One year after marriage, the children of the two are born. It is said that when Yi Nengjing entered the delivery room, Chengqing Yu obtained the consent of the doctor to cheer her by playing "Only For You" outside the delivery room. This should be the happiest moment for Yi Nengjing.
Unfortunately, this happiness did not last long.
Because of the lack of love, Yi Nengjing wants to show off her being loved and happy all the time. To show her love, she can gain a sense of accomplishment and feel that she is valuable, but Harlem wants to live a low-key life.
So, in fact, two people don't get along well. They all prove that the other person loves themselves by hurting each other.
After a tossing meal, Yi Nengjing first moved from home to the office.Later, he came to the mainland to develop on his own and achieved good results.
At that time, many scandals about Yi Nengjing came out, and Yu Chengqing didn't believe it. The artist Zhang Yu reminded him that Yu Chengqing simply broke off relationship with Zhang Yu, which shows how much Yu Chengqing believed in Yi Nengjing at that time.
On November 11, 2008, the media photographed Yi Nengjing and Huang Weide holding hands shopping in Beijing.
Huang Weide already had a girlfriend, so after the incident was exposed, he chose to escape, leaving Yi Nengjing alone to face it.
Yi Nengjing became the target of public criticism, but she did not make any excuses. She still believed that Yu Chengqing would believe her, so she hid what she wanted to say to Yu Chengqing.
It's just that she didn't expect that those words became her life's regrets.
On March 20, 2019, this was a very sad day in Yi Nengjing's life. She reluctantly issued a divorce statement, the 9-year marriage was announced, and the 20-year relationship was gone with the wind.
After the divorce, Harlem never mentioned Yi Nengjing in public, neither scolded nor used it to circle traffic. After the divorce, he even let his son see Yi Nengjing.
But this relationship has occupied the two of them for half their lives, and it hurts both of them a lot.
Many years later, both of them have reflected on what they did wrong, but they both feel that they have done nothing wrong.
It is very lucky to meet love, but if you don’t understand love, you will miss love, as they were back then.
Finding Yourself and Winning Your Life
After the divorce, the Taiwanese media ruthlessly criticized Yi Nengjing. At the beginning, she had a lot of celebrities, such as big and small S, and immediately drew the line with her. The outside world also accused her.
Public opinion accusations are intertwined with inner pain,Yi Nengjing often feels suffocated. She begins to lose weight and then loses sleep.
Every morning when I get up, I feel that someone will slap him, and then I ask her: "Are you this kind of person?" I feel like I've been hanged and beaten all the time. She knew that she had a psychological problem, so she went to see a psychiatrist. The doctor prescribed sleeping pills for her, but the sleeping pills did not solve the problem.
Finally, she made a decision to go to India. At that time, her talent show was about to begin, which was the highest-rated program in the country.
When she heard that she gave up the show to go to India, the organizers were taken aback. Gao Xiaosong said, is it that serious? Have a drink, have a meal, everyone is happy, won’t it be over?
But Yi Neng calmed his mind. In January 2011, Yi Neng got on a plane to India.
On that day, when she set off from Shenyang, the temperature was minus 20 degrees Celsius. She was wearing a thick down jacket. After getting off the plane in India, the temperature was 24 degrees Celsius.
She walked to the street and threw the down jacket into the trash can. It was a very expensive piece of clothing that had accompanied her for more than ten winters. The moment
was lost, her heart relaxed.
She suddenly understood that life is the same, throws away unnecessary things in order to get what she wants.
After studying in India, Yi Nengjing slowly found herself back. She finally understood that love is a practice, and the essence of practice is to be yourself.
Before going to India, Yi Nengjing still had a fluke, hoping to get back with Yu Chengqing. After returning from India, she understood that those loves would never come back. Fortunately, she found herself in India and focused on her career until she met Qin Hao.
When Yi Nengjing met Qin Hao, they all had a dinner together. Qin Hao added 6 girls’ WeChat accounts,Followed her WeChat. Then I asked her to meet alone.
Qin Hao started to like Yi Nengjing when he was 9 years old. It was also Yi Nengjing who bought a cassette for the first time in his life, so he was so excited to meet the goddess, he was determined to chase her.
But at that time, Yi Nengjing was very sensible in feelings. She told Qin Hao: I am 10 years older than you, and I have a son. Don’t want to pick me up. I am a person who wants to get married.
Qin Hao said, how do you know that I am not for marriage?
Yi Nengjing said again, I want to get married first and then fall in love.
Qin Hao was silent, and then hung up.
I thought Qin Hao would just give up, but I didn't expect Yi Nengjing to suddenly receive a text message from him that night: Let’s talk about getting married.
Yi Nengjing was taken aback, and hurriedly discussed with his friends. Naturally, everyone is not optimistic. The relationship between sisters and brothers has always been like this.
However, Yi Nengjing has always been very assertive. After getting in touch with Qin Hao, she finally chose him.
In 2014, the two officially announced their love affair.
In 2015, witnessed by Yi Nengjing's son Harry, the two held a grand wedding.
At that time, Yi Nengjing was still crazy DISS: Why do you old woman marry Xiao Xianrou?
Some netizens even commented on Qin Hao's Weibo: Yi Nengjing can't help you have a baby.
Even though Yi Nengjing was very angry in the face of these remarks, all this was diluted by her love for Qin Hao.
In 2016, 48-year-old Yineng gave birth to a daughter and slapped the netizen who said she could not give birth.
Afterwards, we saw that Yi Nengjing has completely changed. She often sprinkles dog food on the Internet. Her husband writes a small composition on Weibo on his birthday, interacts closely with her mother-in-law on the program, and treats her children more closely. It's pampering.
We have to admit that Qin Hao’s approach is indeed different from that of Haring Ai Yi Nengjing.It also proves that who a woman chooses to be with is really important.
Harlem didn't want to disclose his private affairs, and the same was true for his wife now. Qin Hao cooperated with Yi Nengjing very well. The whole family cooperated in how she wanted to act, and directly spoiled Yi Nengjing as a 52-year-old princess.
However, we also have to admit that today's Yi Nengjing is different from the Yi Nengjing who was with Haring back then. Today she has deeply understood the true love of love.
In Yi Nengjing's life, she was lack of love at first, and later met love but didn't understand love. Finally, after constant practice, she grasped love and managed love.
In life, some women may not be able to lock in their happiness all at once.
In marriage, if you feel unhappy, you must stop your losses. There is no need to consume yourself in a discordant relationship.
Just like Yi Nengjing, daring to love, hate, give up, and own is not necessarily sobering.
In this life, it is not rare to meet love and sex, but it is rare to meet understanding.
People who really know you will put you in their hearts and let you open a free, splendid flower of life. #我们恋爱吧#
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[Text|Yilan Weiwei]
[Edit|Eight Aunt]
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