Zhu Yaqiong responded that she had planned to end her life when she was 40, and she had no sense of autonomy in life.

Zhu Yaqiong responded to being emotionally criticized by Wang Qiuyu. Starting in 2018, she began to plan to end herself at the age of forty. My own consciousness is completely controlled by another consciousness, and I can't feel the meaning of life.

"Goodbye Lover" is coming to an end. In the face of many controversial couples Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu, Zhu Yaqiong responded outside the program for the first time.

The two first fell in love with each other in a crew. Zhu Yaqiong was an extra, and Wang Qiuyu was the coordinator. They fell in love at first sight. Zhu Yaqiong recalled, “We were walking together. I didn’t look at the road. He was the only one in my eyes. There were strangers who said to us, “You two are a good match.” At that time, he was old, experienced, and very attractive. I think What he said is what he said." In 15 years, the two also registered a drama company. Wang Qiuyu was a screenwriter and Zhu Yaqiong made music, which seemed very ideal.

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It can be said that Zhu Yaqiong’s self-construction may have been influenced by her husband Wang Qiuyu at first, but after nineteen years of separation and reunification, Zhu Yaqiong has been growing up, and she is no longer willing to live by another person. Subconsciously. Zhu Yaqiong felt that her sense of autonomy had been obliterated, and she was not even respected.

So in May 2019, Zhu Yaqiong filed for divorce,However, Zhu Yaqiong regretted it soon after it was raised. As the time for divorce came closer and closer, Zhu Yaqiong's idea of ​​not wanting to divorce became stronger and stronger. It's just that Wang Qiuyu's attitude is firm, he said you can't do this, you can't always go back and forth-in Zhu Yaqiong's view, Wang Qiuyu is punishing her.

Wang Qiuyu and his wife participated in "Goodbye Lover"

, and what did Wang Qiuyu think he didn’t even know when they got divorced? Very happy. When Wang Qiuyu asked about the reason for the divorce, Zhu Yaqiong said, Wang Qiuyu said directly, "Okay, Zhu Yaqiong said, "No need to say anything else, what else can I save? Since I'm not what you want, we separated." He didn't ask why or what was wrong with my emotions. He didn't."

They didn’t say anything Thoroughly, but later in "Goodbye Lover", there was a sentence that hit Wang Qiuyu at that time. Zhu Yaqiong said, "You are not the person I want", which made him very disappointed.

Finally Zhu Yaqiong became pregnant, and the two had to remarry again!

But remarriage does not solve the practical problems of marriage. Zhu Yaqiong still feels that her sense of autonomy has not been respected by Wang Qiuyu!

When participating in the "Goodbye Lover" program, the two quarreled.

So the two began to live apart for a year,Zhu Yaqiong shed tears every night from the first separation, because for so many years your life has not been controlled by you, and then this control is suddenly returned to you. You have your whole life, you have a table of raw materials, but you don’t know how to do it. , You are terrified.

Slowly in the end, Zhu Yaqiong has built up self-confidence in life and work, and has a sense of control over life.

Zhu Yaqiong’s marriage experience actually looks a bit like the growth of a child. From the beginning of dependence on his parents to the final rebellious period, he does not want to be controlled by an adult. Maybe after Zhu Yaqiong has gone through thousands of sails, she will be able to slowly understand Wang Qiuyu, just as a child who grows up slowly understands his parents.

Wang Qiuyu is used to educating Zhu Yaqiong and acting for Zhu Yaqiong in life. I think it may be related to Zhu Yaqiong's reliance on Wang Qiuyu in her life too much, just like children and adults helping to take care of everything in life. Of adults think that children have no sense of autonomy, so the adults will make decisions for the children.

In life, if you want to gain the respect of the other half, should you first be independent and have your own mature ideas, instead of having to regret the divorce right away? If you rely on your partner in everything in your life and even in your career, you have not achieved independence in your behavior, how can you talk about your ideological independence?

But fortunately, Zhu Yaqiong is growing up. From the beginning she relied on Wang Qiuyu for everything, and later she independently found a job in a city and even took up the position of art director. These are the growth of Zhu Yaqiong. experience. The recognition he couldn't get from Wang Qiuyu, and he found his own value from his work. I have never advocated that women seek approval from their lovers completely.Looking for a sense of security, anyone in the world can recognize a person, not just the man in the family.

Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu have passed like this for nineteen years. What is terrible is that Zhu Yaqiong is not happy, but Wang Qiuyu always feels that each other is very happy. If Zhu Yaqiong is willing to try to communicate with Wang Qiuyu about her unhappiness and her own thoughts, how could she end up depressed? When Wang Qiuyu knew the truth, it was when Zhu Yaqiong mentioned divorce, and the two had too little marriage communication.