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Tong Liya , Chen Sicheng , these two names were suddenly searched together after a long time.
Just a few days ago, some netizens met Tong Liya and Chen Sicheng in the newly opened paradise in Beijing and took their son Duoduo to the park.
But there was little communication during the whole process, and then Liya Tong also updated a set of photos on Weibo, and Chen Sicheng was not in it.
This is almost the first time that Tong Liya and Chen Sicheng have been in the same frame after their divorce.
Many netizens who met Tong Liya that day were all boasting:
"Tong Liya is really thin, white, and beautiful."
After the divorce, Tong Liya finally got the script of the "big heroine". It's getting better and better.
Those who once ridiculed Tong Liya for being too humble, are now "lied" by her.
It cannot be said that divorce must be a good thing, because it means the breakdown of a relationship and the disintegration of a family.
But divorce is not necessarily a bad thing, because it also means a brand new self, a brand new journey.
Leaving her wrong lover, she finally became who she is
On May 20, 2021, Tong Liya officially announced her divorce.
Divorce, this often sorrowful thing, when it happened to Tong Liya, the whole network applauded her.
It's not that netizens are advocating divorce, but everyone can see that Tong Liya is not doing well before the divorce.
In this marriage with Chen Sicheng, apart from love for her husband, she also had a humble admiration for her husband.
Tong Liya mentioned Chen Sicheng in an interview and said:
"I think he is so good and a little scared."
She also generously admitted that when two people have conflicts,No more than 5 minutes, I will take the initiative to apologize.
Some reporters even asked, for my husband’s mental betrayal or physical betrayal, which one can be accepted?
Tong Liya actually looked at Chen Sicheng and said: "It's fine to go home."
At that time, a large number of netizens mourned their misfortune and angered them.
Whether it is discourse disputes or lace news, Tong Liya stands firmly on her husband's side.
In 2014, Chen Sicheng was photographed in a private meeting with a female and returned to his residence with him.
After the scandal was fermented, Tong Liya deliberately posted a Weibo to prove her husband's innocence.
In 2017, Chen Sicheng was photographed again with two women at a hotel night party.
Until the divorce of the two in 2019, Chen Sicheng has reported scandals 5 times, and Tong Liya came out to support him 3 times, which is considered to be the most benevolent.
In fact, in the two years before the divorce, Tong Liya had already begun to change quietly.
She cut off the long hair that Chen Sicheng liked and turned it into a clean style.
Never wear a wedding ring in public.
At the same time, she also put more energy on her career.
She established her own studio and became the first actor to appear on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala in recent years. The steady typhoon has received unanimous praise.
She also picked up her old profession-dance, participated in the show "Dance Student" and served as a judge.
Tong Liya's Xinjiang opening dance amazed everyone, she couldn't tell that she was the mother of a 5-year-old child.
People suddenly discovered that Tong Liya, who is no longer humble and pleased, is really shining.
Marriage is never the endless suppression and consumption of one party to the other.
It is not scary to meet the wrong person, but the scary thing is that you don't want to be sober.
When one day you wake up and you are determined to leave that wrong lover, then congratulations, your wonderful life has just begun.
Find the right life only when you break away from the wrong relationship
However, it is more sorrowful to have a wrong relationship than to meet the wrong person.
Actor Yan Ni is also a typical late bloomer.
In 2006, the sitcom " Martial Arts Gaiden " was broadcast, and it became popular all over the country. Yan Ni also became famous through the role of Tong Xiangyu .
Everyone is saying that this good actor who has been struggling for 10 years has finally tasted sweetness.
But they didn't even know that Yan Ni had just divorced when filming "Wulin Story".
Since then, she has become a single mother with a 6-year-old daughter. Regarding the reasons for the divorce, she did not want to talk more, but said:
"The fate is gone, so I left."
At the time, Yan Ni In my eyes, career success cannot dispel the haze of divorce.
The ten-year relationship ended here, and Yan Ni's life suddenly lost its direction.
Tong Xiangyu in "Wulin Gaiden" is the first female TV drama she got. During the day, she worked hard to immerse herself in the comedy atmosphere of TV dramas, and turned off the lights at night, but she could no longer stop the sadness that came to her heart. .
It was during this time that people around me said to Yan Ni, you seem to be 10 years old.
It took nearly 3 years for Yan Ni to get out of the pain of divorce.
She re-examined herself. At that time, the labels affixed to Yan Ni were often: professional village woman, old-fashioned, and chubby.
So she started practicing yoga, boxing, and fitness, completely changing her eating habits.
After 1 year, she lost 30 pounds.
and she and her ex-husband,If you can't be a couple, they have become relatives of each other and depend on them at critical moments.
Once, Yan Ni was about to go abroad and suddenly received a fraud call. The other party lied that she was involved in a fraud case and needed her to assist in the investigation until the other party cheated her to send money.
Yan Ni, who was anxious to make money, suddenly remembered that her ex-husband had told herself that she should call him first no matter what happens.
Yan Ni quickly called her ex-husband to explain the situation. The ex-husband said, you have been cheated, wait for me, I will be there soon.
Yan Ni was sad and moved.
Perhaps, the real helplessness lies here. The really good person may not be the right person for you.
If you twist a wrong relationship, you may gain a close friend or even a close relative.
Yang Lan once asked Yan Ni: "If two people have no good results in the end, will the other hurt you?"
Yan Ni was silent for a while, and replied with tears in her eyes:
" The other party has also been hurt, this is mutual."
At that moment, I suddenly felt that Yan Ni was gentle and firm.
The broken marriage continues to be painful, and it is also painful to end. The only difference between
andis that the former is long-term pain and the latter is short-term pain.
How would you choose? Yan Ni's answer is the latter.
In fact, every catastrophe God gives you is an opportunity.
If you cross over, what is waiting for you is Nirvana; if you don't cross over, what is waiting for you is falling.
Fortunately, Yan Ni is the former.
Yan Ni, who has survived that darkest moment, also understands:
People will never become crippled because of marriage failure, but will become happy because of decisive departure.
If you are happy, you are always right to choose
At the moment when the divorce rate is getting higher and higher,It seems that most people do not lack the confidence to divorce.
But in fact, rather than divorce bravely, it is more valuable to have the courage to step into the marriage again.
Many people may not know that the actor and Mei Ting also had two marriages.
In 2000, Mei Ting, who was working alone in Shanghai, met his 6-year-old director .
At that time, Mei Ting had already made her mark through the film " Red Lover " with Leslie Cheung .
In the TV series " Don't Talk to Strangers ", Mei Xiangnan, who has been abused by her husband's domestic violence, makes Mei Ting a national actress in one fell swoop.
But at that time, Yan Po was still an unknown little director.
The two hit it off and they got married in less than a year.
In the four years after marriage, Mei Ting used the money she earned from filming to support Yan Po's dream of being a director. During that time, she devoted almost all of her energy to her husband.
With the blessing of Mei Ting's contacts and resources, Yan Po gradually gained fame.
The film "Aspirin" directed by him was awarded, and Mei Ting also participated directly in his first two works and stood for him.
But in the end, Mei Ting could not wait for a happy life. What was waiting was the breakdown of her marriage.
After the divorce, Yan Po's relationship with another well-known actress in the circle was exposed, and the media are speculating that Yan Po's divorce was related to this actress.
Until 2010, the director Chen Kaige's ex-wife Hong Huang angrily criticized Yan Po's scumbag on Weibo, saying that Yan Po had an overseas girlfriend before he married Mei Ting, but he did not say anything to return to China , And married Mei Ting three months later.
People only know that Mei Ting was deceived by Yan quite from the beginning.
At this point, the label "Romantic" is actually affixed to Yan Po.
But Mei Ting never looked back and entangled with her ex-husband. Even when asked about the divorce, she just said indifferently:
"This is the problem of both parties."
She focused her energy on filming.
In 2012, she won the Outstanding Actress Award for her TV series " parents love ".
The movie " ", which she starred in the same year, also allowed her to win the best supporting actress in one fell swoop.
Mei Ting successfully ushered in the second peak of her career, and the movie "Tuina" also allowed Mei Ting to meet her second husband, Zeng Jian , a photographer.
Mei Ting, who was well-known at the time, rebelliously chose flash marriage again and got married.
After marriage, the two have a son and a daughter. They make up a good word.
Until 2016, when Mei Ting participated in a parenting variety show, people did not know that Mei Ting, who had a low-key second marriage, was so happy.
In the show, Mei Ting gained weight due to childbirth, which is definitely a fatal blow to the actress.
But Mei Ting did not see a trace of sorrow, her round face was always smiling.
The husband of the second marriage has long since spoiled her like a child. After 13 years of marriage, he almost never asked Mei Ting to do housework, but took care of everything by himself.
As long as you are at home, take the initiative to take on the responsibility of bringing your baby.
After marriage, Mei Ting hardly cooks, and even laughs at herself in the show that she can only direct.
Many of the roles played by Mei Ting are good wives and mothers from the traditional Chinese perspective. Most of them are simple and honest.Forbearing.
But Mei Ting's own view of marriage is very cool: love is love, separation is separation, everything is experience.
She has indeed been hurt, but this does not prevent her from still devoting herself to love and happiness next time.
In her, I saw the most precious quality of women-bravery.
What kind of person can be called brave, I think it is someone who does not refuse to love.
They are braver than those who endure loneliness. Too many people can endure loneliness, but they dare not pursue love.
Because of her bravery, Mei Ting found her own love and lived her best life.
There are many actresses in the entertainment circle who have a happy marriage. For these 3 divorced women, I did not want to advocate divorce, but I saw one in Tong Liya, Yan Ni and Mei Ting. Valuable and similar things-with the strength of softness.
In the first half of their lives, they have either experienced betrayal and abandonment, or felt resentment and loneliness, but in the second half of their lives, they can still choose the life they want to live.
After all, divorce is not the goal, but happiness is the goal.
A friend's words, I have remembered for many years.
At a dinner, someone asked a friend, are they happy after marriage?
My friend said, happy, especially happy.
The man asked again, does marriage make you so happy?
My friend smiled and said that a truly happy person will be happy regardless of whether they are married or not.
Have you found it? After all, you are the only one who decides whether you are happy or not.
Because there is never a standard answer to a happy life, it has always been a proof question, and you yourself are the best answer.
light up at the end of the article "is watching" , no matter what, I hope you can bravely make the choice to make yourself happy.
Author: A Jin, a code word person who speaks civilization and politeness. Source: Ten O'clock Reading Club (ID: sdclass),A cultural platform for the growth of new women, with 3 million small partners to accompany learning and grow up.
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