Xu Lingyi was designed by Yuan Niang and had to marry his sister-in-law, Luo Shi Niang, as his step-wife.
is very frustrating.
But in the end, Xu Lingyi fell in love with Eleven.
He has so many women, successively two principals and five concubines.
Huan is fat and Yan is thin, and the style is different.
He only fell in love with Eleven. Is
because Eleven Niang is beautiful?
Eleven Niang is really beautiful.
But Xu Lingyi had his first wife, Yuan Niang, who was bright and sassy; later, his concubine Wen Shi was flamboyant and gorgeous; there were Aunt Tong and Qiu Luo who were gentle and graceful;
Eleven Niang is not the only one.
Is it because Eleven Niang is a kind-hearted person and is a popular girl?
At that time, women were required to obey the four virtues, kindness and female popularity, which were considered basic requirements for women.
is beautiful, kind, and has a knack for it, just a bonus, not a deciding factor.
What are the qualities of the little concubine Luo Shiiniang that can make the realistic and rational, dark-bellied and tough Yongping Hou Xu Lingyi fall in love?
1, pure-minded, kind-hearted and upright
In the original work, Eleven Niang entrusted all the property left by elder sister Yuanniang to Zhuge directly to elder brother Luo Zhenxing.
Yuan Niang's dowry has been in operation for many years, and there are more than 100,000 taels in the book. When such a large amount is handed over, Eleven Niang does not frown.
doesn't look like it's going to be contaminated at all.
Faced with the surprise of Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai, Eleven mother frankly expressed her thoughts: the dowry of the eldest sister will be left to Brother Zhu in the future. I neither understand business nor read account books, and it is inconvenient for women in the house to frequently see outside managers. They are afraid of damaging the eldest sister's dowry, so it is better to leave it to the eldest brother.
Eleven Niang knows that everyone has doubts about her, from the eldest sister's companion Luo Yonggui, to Tao's mother, even Xu Lingyi and the rest of the Xu family, and even her eldest brother Luo Zhenxing.
Everyone thinks that wealth and silk are touching, and probably Shi Niang is not exempt.
But in the eyes of Eleven Niang, no amount of wealth is as good as inner peace. It is not one's own thing. Coveting it will not only lose people's hearts, but also go against one's own heart, and it may lead to countless troubles.
And brother Zhu is his own nephew. In any case, he must abide by his promise to help the eldest sister take good care of the child and safeguard the interests of the child.
Eleven Niang's heart is clear.
can keep its heart in the face of wealth and silk, and can keep its promise in the face of the entrustment of the eldest sister.
This kindness and uprightness also made her husband Xu Lingyi and Mrs. He Tai admire her with admiration.
2. Keep yourself and have a bottom line.
Not long after Eleven Niang got married, the third master of Wenjia sent a message through Concubine Wen, wanting to say hello to the new wife.
Eleven Niang knows that this is not as simple as meeting and asking hello, it is trying to do business outside by borrowing the name of Xu family .
Eleven Niang asked Xu Lingyi about the meaning of and , and then returned to Concubine Wen decisively.
Even if Concubine Wen repeatedly used business and money to tempt her, Eleven Niang would not be moved.
Eleven Niang knows that the dowry of the eldest sister Yuanniang has grown from 30,000 to 40,000 to 100,000 taels in just a few years, mostly by cooperating with the Wen family.
Even she knew that the eldest sister Yuan Niang might have just lent the name of Yongping Houfu, without any real money to cooperate, so she had such a huge harvest.
It is probably a lie to say that Eleven Niang is completely unmoved.
Because Eleven Niang is actually very short of money.
The eldest lady of the Luo family has always been sweet and bitter to her concubines, Eleven's dowry is full of flowers, but there is no real money.
She had just married into the Xu family and had only fifty taels in her hands. Later, she gave the money to Dong Qing, who escaped from the house because of a relationship with the pregnant fifth lady, and she was penniless.
couldn't even give the gift of congratulations to sister Wu Niang for opening a shop. In the end, it was the sister-in-law who knew about her situation and took the initiative to relieve the situation.
But even so, Eleven Niang knows that some things cannot be done.
One thing, once I met Mr. Wen and started a business with Wen's family, I would not be able to straighten my waist in front of Aunt Wen, and I would not be able to be fair if I depended on people to eat and manage concubines in the future. Fair and righteous.
Two, Eleven Niang just want to have a place where lives and , just want to live peacefully, not want to make a fortune.
A place to live and live, a quiet and peaceful little life, Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai have already given her. If she wants more and goes against Xu Lingyi's intention to do business with the Wen family in private, then as a husband and mother-in-law who have absolute power over her , which can directly make the stable and beautiful life in front of her come to nothing.
is not worth it.
Eleven Niang knows what she wants and what she can want.
So Eleven Niang can maintain herself and make the right choice. Eleven girls like
make Xu Lingyi very satisfied.
3. Treating my husband as a partner rather than a lover.
I always feel that Eleven Niang finally gets Xu Lingyi's love, and it is only if she has no desire.
Eleven's mother married Xu Lingyi, but she had no choice but to accept her fate, but she was fortunate to have it, but she never dreamed of getting Xu Lingyi's heart.
Before her soul wears out, she has seen all kinds of dark sides of human nature.
After she passed through her soul, she experienced the lonely, helpless, and humble life of a concubine first-hand.
She knew that no matter when, a man's love was unreliable.
everything, can only rely on themselves.
In this society where men are superior to women, it is even more difficult to expect a man's love.
Therefore, Xu Lingyi has given her respect and dignity from the beginning, as well as a stable life, which has already made her grateful.
She just wants to live up to her trust and raise Brother Zhu to grow up safely. She just wants to live a good life in peace and calm, to have enough food and clothing, not to be manipulated by others, and not to worry about being killed by a sudden disaster...
Therefore, she Treat Xu Mansion as a workplace, respect Mrs. Tai and Xu Lingyi as bosses, get along with them as partners, try to figure out their thoughts and needs, and satisfy them as needed.
wanted to gain a little trust in Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai's mind and stabilize their position.
Therefore, Eleven Niang did not treat Xu Lingyi in the same way that ordinary women treat men, such as caring, paying attention, and asking for help.
is based on Xu Lingyi's identity. A scholar-officer in feudal society , a battle-hardened general, and a relative of Yongping Marquis, what is he facing, what he wants to do, and what will he need? What kind of wife does he need?
After all, in the workplace, if you want to win the favor of your boss, you must first understand what your boss needs, and then meet his needs. Only then can you achieve your goals.
First of all , Xu Lingyi, as a scholar-bureaucrat in the feudal society, is full of macho , necessarily expects his wife to be gentle, kind, humble and obedient.
Therefore, Eleven Niang respects Xu Lingyi's decision in everything, treats children well, treats concubines well, filial piety to old women, and coexists harmoniously with concubines.
also asked Xu Lingyi about various decisions at home, both to report the work, and to ask for guidance and obedience.
This makes Xu Lingyi, a macho, very useful. This wife is gentle and obedient, and she doesn't make small movements behind his back, which satisfies his desire for control.
The second is . As the helm of Yongping Marquis Mansion and as a relative, Xu Lingyi must not only save the lives of everyone in Yongping Marquis Mansion, but also make the emperor trust him, and beware of the plots of political enemies. Wife's understanding and support. In this case,
has to show weakness, keep a low profile, and even more forbear.
Xu Lingyi didn't explain anything, but Eleven Niang understood the difficulties.
's gentle and calm understanding and support supported Xu Lingyi's decision to retire from the title, resign from his position to cultivate at home, and even bring back the lowly children to raise them personally.
Xu Lingyi was surprised that this little wife actually supported him to give up the power that others dreamed of, and supported his decision to be idle at home with an envious face.
Actually, it's just that Eleven Niang understands that climbing high will inevitably lead to a heavy fall. It is better to keep a low profile and show weakness to keep the whole family safe. Child,
Because Eleven Niang knows that Xu Lingyi is not a rash person, let alone make rash decisions. Since he is serious about taking the child back for her to raise, it must be at stake, and even related to the fate of the Hou Mansion.
As a wife, she should fully support her husband's decision.
In the end , she and Xu Lingyi "have something to say"
Of course it is not as simple as gossip. How many men in this world like to chat with their wives all day long?
Eleven Niang has her own views and opinions on the situation of Yanjing , the emperor's actions, and the difficulties faced by the Xu family.
can see the development of the situation from Xu Lingyi's behavior, and can also find the core and root cause of the problem.
Eleven Niang found that Xu Lingyi was deliberately showing weakness when Xu Lingyi was about to resign as the junior master of the prince, to win the emperor's sympathy, and wanted to retreat bravely from the whirlpool, preserve her strength, and use silence.
From the fact that Xu Lingyi wants to recognize the children born by the fifth master and the actor, and recognize the dirty water splashed outside, it can be seen that the reason why Xu Lingyi does this is that the emperor has begun to be afraid, suspecting and suppressing the Xu family who once supported him on the throne. .
She can correctly understand the situation, analyze Xu Lingyi's possible decisions, and express her own opinions, which often coincide with Xu Lingyi's thoughts.
This makes Xu Lingyi feel that his little wife is really smart.
Although Xu Lingyi, as the helm of the Hou Mansion, fought on the battlefield and played with power, he seemed to be invincible.
is a human being, and everyone needs to be understood and understood.
Eleven Niang's gentleness, gentle and meticulous understanding, understanding and support, a little bit of warms and erodes Xu Lingyi's heart, making him feel warm.
high authority, must be cool.
Eleven Niang warmed him.
people with high authority are bound to be lonely.
Eleven Niang is willing to understand and accept to go with him.
Therefore, Xu Lingyi fell in love with Eleven.
I think that men are really different from women. Most girls in love and marriage hope that they will feel very happy when they are surrounded by each other's care and attention.
But that's not what men need.
A man is born with the desire to fight in all directions and stand at a high place. He expects to be looked up to, that someone understands his ideals, supports his pursuit, and understands the difficulty of his struggle. Then quietly beside him.
For women, love is warmth, care, concern, attention.
For men, understanding, understanding, acceptance, support, and gentleness are the warmth they need, and the part of love they need in their eyes.
hope we all understand.
