The most incompetent Chinese father? Have you read these three ways of expressing love

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"maternal love is like water, father's love is like a mountain". Since ancient times, parents' care and care for their children has been indispensable. While praising their mothers, people did not ignore the greatness of their fathers. However, nowadays, widowhood parenting has always become a hot topic, as if the Chinese father is always the most irresponsible in the world, even a word of thanks is not worth having, is it true?

The child’s good father

This is Xiaojie being blocked by her father again. The candlelight on the birthday cake is so dim that she is about to go out. His mother persuaded him to leave. Xiaojie smiled bitterly: "Why, I didn’t even let me participate in birthdays since childhood. When I grow up, Dad always likes my brother. I don’t like me so much? Because I’m a girl?"

This is her home, and her family is pretty good. Xiaojie leads a life that everyone envy, because she said, Sharing property with her brother has now become the place where she can't be accommodated.

was cleansed and left the house, leaving only a little money for renting a house.

A few years later, Xiaojie graduated from university with excellent grades. She always wanted to prove to her father that a girl is not a waste, let alone an accessory! She can also become very powerful, even better than her father.

has been a few years later, relying on his own efforts to become an executive of a certain company, life is okay. She often "shows off" her prosperous life in the circle of friends, with the goal of slapping her father's "patriarchy" thinking. Brother

found her, but she repeatedly made things difficult for him and made an appointment to a very expensive restaurant. She wanted to leave, until she explained the reason for her being evicted from the house, which made her dispel the idea.

It turned out that a few years ago, the small company opened by his father closed down and owed a huge debt. Back then, he was afraid of harassing her and drove her away helplessly. There are good reasons for

, ​​but Xiaojie cannot accept it. Brother

said that in the past few years, her father has always helped her secretly. When Xiaojie was in trouble, the "good-hearted people" that Xiaojie encountered were all helped by her father.

Xiaojie said, "I won't see him for anything, because I hate him." Brother

smiled bitterly: "You can't see him. Dad, he passed away last year, he passed away with a smile. This Here you are." When the

brother took out the "heirloom", Xiaojie's mood suddenly became complicated. Back then, she just said that she liked this thing, but her father said that she wanted to compete with her brother for the family property and drive her away. Going out.

"Actually, when you were born, your parents gave you this thing. When your father was leaving, he gave you a thousand exhortations, saying that Xiaojie was still young. If you give this to you, you will only waste it. You can give this to you when you are on your own."

Xiaojie embraced the heirloom and hugged it tightly, but felt that this thing was not as beautiful and eye-catching as when he was a child. The cold from this thing seemed to be frozen Xiaojie's heart, when he first took it from his father's warm hands, he really loved it. Now, it seems that he can't feel any warmth anymore.

"Severe"

When the child is disobedient, he will call him or even beat him, just like a "violent" element, and always force the child to follow his rules or ideas. The father will arrange all the paths for his children, but he will also give his children positive preaching. For children, it is simply a "stern dictator". And it is this "dictator" that has stopped the children from taking detours time and time again, trimming off the children's extra twigs, and letting the children become talents. For this kind of father, the love for children is not the present but long-term happiness.

"Clumsy"

The father who loves his child deeply, but is so clumsy that he doesn't know how to express, wants to embrace his child, but he straightens his face and does not put away his own sting, serious, serious, unsmiling, and loves the child so deeply , But keep a certain distance with the child. Always when the child is asleep, gently touch the child’s hand, kiss the child’s forehead, and then gently help the child tuck down the quilt, for fear that the clumsy self-action too much will wake the child, then, The next day I want to come, it is the father who has always been "alienated".

"busy"

zPerhaps when 1z is at home, he often does not see his father. Perhaps the person attending the parent-teacher meeting is always the mother. The father is always busy for this family, and there is very little real dialogue and communication with the children. It wasn't until the child became a father that he realized that all the busyness is for the family's life not to be hard, because all the hardships are resisted by the person called the father. This is the father's love, although it is not good at expressing, but it is long and deep.

Father’s love is like Xu Fei’s "Father’s Prose Poem". It is written in the heart of every father.

The crops in 1984 have not been harvested.

The daughter lay in my arms and slept so sweetly.

Tonight’s outdoor movie I don’t have time to watch

my wife reminds me to fix the pedals of the sewing machine

tomorrow I’m going to the neighbor’s house and borrow some money

the child cried all day and he was making biscuits

It hurts to drill

squatting on the edge of the pond and giving herself two punches

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daughter ran into the campus with a ponytail

, ​​but she was a bit lonely recently and lost a lot of weight

think about it In the future, I will grow old into a pile of old paper money

The daughter at that time will be so beautiful. There is a man who loves her who wants to marry her and go home

But I can’t bear to look at her

This is the text in my father’s diary

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always be the most solid reliance on children

Chinese-style paternal love, although fathers do not laugh and seldom express emotions most of the time, but their love for children is deep and long-term, so when the father is strict, he is busy When you are not good at expressing yourself, you should understand your father more when you are a child. If necessary, give him a big hug and tell him: "Dad, I love you."