Daniel Busy Marriage Emotion Interpretation Series
Keywords: divorce cooling-off period, marriage case
Article length: 3,500 words
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Marriage initial, Vientiane update. From now on, the two love each other, and we are in love with each other. I wish our future family harmony, love forever, happiness and health, love forever...
This was the beautiful yearning and expectation of many lovers for love. Together. Family and friends witnessed together and sent blessings to the new couple. This is marriage, with beautiful dreams from the beginning. From now on, we will be a family and we should walk together for a lifetime.
But life often has two sides, not necessarily in the same direction. In marriage, the reality of life easily affects the trajectory of feelings.
Marriage is a dream on the one hand, it is infinitely magnificent, warm and romantic. On the one hand, it is reality again, and perhaps in the end, the end of feelings is just a bleak ember of love.
There are many couples who have promised to be more advanced than the oath of the mountain alliance, but then the love is not forever, the fate is gone. How can we not be sad after experiencing such ups and downs?
Love is at the end, the sea is not dry and the stone is not rotten, two people will part ways. For many couples, divorce is both a pity and a sorrow for themselves. But what can I do if I can't make it through?
1. People's worries about the cooling-off period for divorce
Once, divorce was a controversial word. Even if I don't care, my family cares too. It is more or less derogatory.
Nowadays, people consider divorce in terms of quality of life and turn divorce into a neutral term. Some people even take it as relief and don't feel much sadness. Although
sometimes needs to separate completely if you don't love, this is the solution to end the relationship "one hundred and one hundred". It's just that getting rid of a marriage does not mean that you can leave. The dissolution of a marriage is not easy.
Children’s problems, property problems, interpersonal relationship changes, etc., are all not simple. If you think about the future of your relationship and interpersonal relationships, it will be even more difficult.
For some people who are planning to get a divorce, this month is bound to pass "soon". You will feel unsure, and time will slip away without knowing it.
After this month, on January 1, 2021, the divorce procedure will be adjusted.
At that time, the "Marriage Law" has passed away and the "Civil Code" has officially embarked on the stage of the times. To put it bluntly, it is easy to leave now, and it may not be easy to leave by then.
Of course, specific matters should also be differentiated by circumstances.
Among them, the most noticeable thing in the divorce process is the "divorce cooling-off period." Some people think it is reasonable, some people think it is unreasonable.
compare the two and most people feel that the "cooling off period" is unreasonable.
For example, I often see this kind of question: Two people can't get through, why have to calm down for 30 days? Isn't this superfluous?
Actually, this is really not superfluous. The so-called "cooling-off period" of
means that in an agreed divorce, after both parties apply for divorce, both parties have to passively "cool down" for a period of time (30 days, holiday extension). During this period, as long as either party applies for withdrawal, the divorce process will automatically terminate and the divorce certificate will not be received.
Some people worry that if they are tortured all day and the other party does not agree to leave, wouldn't it be a delay in my good years and life?
They believe that their marriage should be their own decision. If you can't be the master, isn't it at the mercy of others?
does make sense at first glance, do you think so?
2. Not all divorces have a cooling-off period
From a life perspective, this concern is understandable. But if it makes sense, there is nothing to worry about.
The "cooling-off period" has limited conditions and only applies to the major premise of voluntary divorce. This is a core element, based on the principle of equality and voluntariness of husband and wife.
Otherwise, the cooling-off period does not apply.
As long as the husband and wife discuss their children's issues, and the arrangements for inheritance of the property are in place, the two people will apply for divorce together. During the cooling-off period, you will not change your mind, unless you meet the qualifications, you will be separated. z2To put it plainly, if both spouses are not willing, but only one wants to leave, then they can take other means, such as prosecution.
In our traditional culture, we generally persuade peace and do not persuade us to leave. This is an ancient tradition. Marriage is one's own choice, you should not deny yourself, and you should know the truth of life.
had no cooling-off period before, but at that time divorce would also consider this tradition.
The so-called persuading peace and not persuading leave has always existed. When a couple goes to divorce, at the last moment of marriage, people will first ask you why you want to divorce. The usual scene of
is like this: When a couple goes for a divorce, the staff will ask, can you really not get through it? Have you really thought about it? Have your responsibilities and obligations been clearly divided? Can you love so true back then? Consider again, etc.
This is a must. This can be said for
. There was a cooling-off period before, but it was not necessarily expressed in terminology. Unless I really can’t get through, I will always advise you.
Based on the principle of promoting family harmony, marriage is a matter for two people. There can be no "one person who wants to leave" situation in marriage. This is irresponsible. If one wants to leave, then more and more people will abandon their families, and more people will be irresponsible to their families.
sets up a cooling-off period, in fact, to screen out some couples who are angry about divorce. In addition, it can also impose restrictions on some irresponsible persons.
Some couples signed on impulse, and finally figured it out. Just by taking advantage of the "cooling-off period" to reconcile again, they will be grateful that the "cooling-off period" saved their marriage.
Conversely, there are bound to be some couples who just can't get through, and one of them is entangled. The husband and wife can't live on, and can't live without them. The distress in my heart finally turns into hate, which may bring harm.
In this case, stop pursuing "voluntary divorce". There is no cooling-off period.
3. Do you need a "preparatory period" for marriage
Can you understand it?
For a normal divorce, a "cooling off period" is necessary, especially in this day and age when a person changes his mind too quickly. If a person changes his mind and can leave if he wants to, he will simply get rid of the family, which is unfair to the whole family.
From the perspective of family harmony, this is also a small effect of the cooling-off period. There are hard-to-read scriptures in
, and it is difficult to achieve a perfect solution, so the "cooling-off period" can be considered a compromise.
I saw a small survey in the work unit a few days ago. In a certain sample group, 30% of people think that marriage is easier, and 30% think marriage is more difficult. The remaining 40% can't make up their minds, it's okay, whether it's good or not, so-so, not bad...
The two previous situations are convincing, because they have experienced it and learned from practice.
is an inappropriate example. Lovers are often jealous. Some people can turn jealousy into romance, while others can turn romance into torture.
marriage is the same. In the final analysis, whether a marriage is good or not depends on one's own vision, choice and management.
This also precisely reflects that some people did not expect the subsequent ups and downs when they got married. They got married as soon as their heads were hot, and they regretted it not long after being together. This is more and more common.
From the emotional point of view, this is actually a kind of irony that I am irresponsible to myself.
The reason why I wrote this article and extended it here is mainly to discuss the following issue.
has an interrogative view: Since the divorce cooling-off period has come, should we get another "marriage preparation period" for marriage? The problem of
has been around for a long time, not to mention, it is a practical problem of the separation of specimens and texts. To put it plainly,
is just a word game, and has no practical meaning. Even if it is meaningful, its core meaning is the distrust of feelings.
You can’t just look at the superficial terms about things in your relationship. In fact, marriages now have a "preparatory period."
For many couples, love is the best "preparatory period", and adults cannot rely on others for everything. Good fate should be encouraged,It should not be hindered, this is also a good tradition.
It can also be seen from this issue of the separation of the subject and the text that most people are not optimistic about "flash marriages". Therefore, important matters of marriage should be prudent. Before getting married, you must understand each other's position and whether it is worth it.
Advanced love, marriage registration, this fate should have been good.
If two people are still not getting married and leave a way for themselves, and make a so-called "marriage preparation period" or "marriage cooling-off period" as regret medicine, it is first of all distrust of this relationship. Since you don’t trust you if you haven’t gotten married yet, what else can you get married?
So, don't worry about those so-called marriages that do not have a "preparatory period". Those who want the preparatory period may have other ideas.
4. A small case tells you another role of the cooling-off period.
The article concludes with a small case, which was told to me by a colleague’s sister and came from a lady’s narration.
A few days ago, a lady told about the entanglement in her relationship:
My husband and I broke down in relationship, and I didn't love him long ago. These days, my boyfriend is in a hurry. I really want to leave the marriage soon, but I can’t leave.
husband has been procrastinating for time, avoiding me. We said at the beginning that we would divorce at the end of the year, and no one should investigate the past. I don't need anything. Since we don't love anymore, we should make each other perfect, and we will find each other's happiness in the future.
doesn't know who he has listened to these days. In short, he doesn't want to leave. He changes his words again and again, just wanting to delay. I am very anxious now. If we can't live without it before January 1st next year, it will be difficult for me to get away from now on.
I feel that he wants to use the "cooling-off period" to refuse divorce, and I am so distressed. If he keeps not letting me go, what will happen to my future? What about my love, what about my life? Why does
have a "cooling-off period" and why not give me the opportunity to choose?
You guys, what should I do?
The above is the general question of this lady, and the logic described is thought-provoking.
Actually, this problem is easy to handle. The old saying goes, don't do bad things, don't be afraid of ghosts knocking on the door. If the lady
is not at fault, she can sue. As long as her reasons are reasonable, and as long as the relationship breakup is not caused by her, divorce is a very simple matter, and her husband cannot agree to it.
Conversely, a person who takes the initiative to change his heart and abandon his home and fall in love with others will find it difficult to leave happily in the future. You should solve your own mistakes.
I understand the whole process of this case, let me just say so. First of all, this lady was at fault emotionally, fell in love with others, and wanted to abandon her husband and children. Her husband has been struggling to save, he would rather not lose face and reluctant to leave, but she is determined to leave. The case of
just explains a small reason why the cooling-off period is set.
Just imagine, if she wants to leave, she is really sorry for the family. Therefore, from a certain perspective, part of the initiative in the divorce is in the hands of her husband.
Of course, if she really wants to leave, that would be a simple matter. It's just another problem. The scene is different, so I won't say much. Z2z
should understand it, right?
Don’t worry about the cooling-off period. People who really care about feelings, even if there is still a trace of concern, want more chances to recover.
If two people really have no chance of redemption, if they really can't pass a day, the cooling-off period will be useless. Z2z
is here for the article. Originally, I wanted to write a marriage case, but I didn’t have enough time to write it.
Please remember that in marriage, getting along with husband and wife is a learning. First make sure that you are right, so you can walk calmly.
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