waste test refers to a woman affected by the subconscious mind to screen whether a man is reliable, wasteful, or a low-value man, so that unsuitable men can get out of trouble, and find someone worthy of her dedication. Man.
Many people may think that waste testing will only exist on women, but through the analysis of a large number of cases, it is not difficult to find that waste testing is not only in love, but also after breaking up. men and women.
Some people say that if he chooses to break up, then it must be well thought out. The so-called test words that he is not willing to after the breakup are just your imagination.
But feelings have always been a very complicated thing. It doesn't mean that you can stop loving at the moment of breaking up without loving. The former will choose to break up with you after careful consideration and indeed feel that you have no future. But at the same time, some men will have a trace of luck, a trace of nostalgia, thinking that you will "mature" after breaking up. If you change, then there will be opportunities for each other. If not, then forget about each other.
So, if you want to know whether you have become "mature" and change for it, he will use the waste test to test you to see if it is possible between you. So, after breaking up, what are the common waste tests for men? If we want to recover, how should we deal with these waste tests?
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"Are you okay recently?"
wrongly answered: "No, how can I be better if you are not there" / "I still can't forget you, can you give me another chance"...
Although there are some men in After breaking up, he will still have nostalgia for his ex, but because he came out of the breakup, out of personal self-esteem and some concerns about you, he will not tell you straightforwardly, he still can’t let go, he will only pass a simple To test your current situation. Once you show a high sense of need or make a very low-value behavior, he will judge you as "unqualified", he will withdraw because of this, and defined as you still want to restore him, and then he will be more Firmly feel that I was right to break up.
So what is the correct answer?
gives a simple example:
“I’m practicing yoga recently and I’m in a good state, how about you?”
’s simple sentence will not reveal your sense of needs, but also reveal your recent changes, and finally change the topic Handed over to the other party's hands. Not only allows the other person to see your changes, but also does not make him feel pressured between question and answer. How can he who is nostalgic for you be willing to disconnect from you?
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"Everything can't go back."
wrongly replied: "We can start again" / "If you want, there is nothing you can't go back"...
He said this, all he wants is that you can Aware of your problem, but you tell him that as long as he has enough patience, you can still be together. Isn’t this telling him that even after breaking up, you don’t think you are at fault? Then how could he think that you still have a future? How could it still give you a chance?
When the other party says "can't go back", what we have to do is not to ask the other party to reconcile, but to accept his opinions generously, so that he can reversely rationalize and doubt whether the decision to break up with you is correct. For example, you can say:
"After breaking up, I thought about it for a long time. I think you were right. I'm sorry. I was too selfish before. I only thought about myself but ignored your feelings..."
After that, what the other person wants to see is that you have changed, then we will satisfy him , let him know that you are really reflecting and really sorry for your previous bad behavior. Once you express what he wants, even if he doesn't have a reconciled idea for the time being, he will change you a lot and provide more opportunities for subsequent recovery.
is written at the end:
actually does not matter what words he uses to test your waste after breaking up. When he does not explicitly talk to you about emotional matters, it is not suitable to use emotional topics to follow up. Even if he takes the initiative to mention it, you can't be too immersed in it. You can occasionally open the topic. because people sometimes get rejected inexplicablyAbsolutely attracted, so even if it is you, you don’t have to obey everything. Maybe occasional rejection will make your relationship even better.
Of course, here is just a simple example, the specific operation still needs to be changed according to the actual situation, it is not suitable to imitate.
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