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Parents, almost no one is not worried about their children's lifelong affairs.
Those who have not gotten married and started a family are worried that they will not find the right person and have gotten married and started a family, and are worried that they will not be able to manage a good marriage and live a good life in the future.
In short, whenever you have children, your parents' hearts will always be concerned about them. Be happy because of their happiness, be sad because of their misfortune.
Aunt Chen upstairs is like this.
Aunt Chen has only one only daughter, she is 35 years old this year, and still has no idea of getting married. She had a few boyfriends one after another, but they all separated in the end. In her own words, the fate was not here.
She was very open-minded and let everything go. However, her mother, Aunt Chen, was so worried that she couldn't sleep all day long that she had to complain when she saw relatives and friends, and asked them to help pay attention to whether there was a suitable person to introduce them.
Once, Aunt Chen had a long talk with her daughter and asked her what specific requirements she had for her future partner or her husband's family, and why she was still not in a hurry at this age? Are you really not afraid that you have no advantage in the marriage and love market?
My daughter was calm as always and only said two requirements.
Aunt Chen felt that her daughter might not be able to get married in this life. She said:
"I actually have no specific requirements for marriage. I just think that getting along is the most important. If I feel that everything is right, everything is right. If I have to be specific, there are only two points.
First, I hope that the man I marry can have a monthly salary of more than 50,000 yuan, and I have a car and a house.
Secondly, I hope that I will not live with my in-laws in the future. They should have their own pension or a certain family background, otherwise, surviving them will increase the burden on our small family."
First, can such a requirement be met? Even if there are many, why do you have to marry her 35-year-old? Although it was her own daughter, Aunt Chen no longer spoke to her, and even suspected that she was deliberately speaking to prevent herself from engaging in her idle accidents.
After all, these two requirements are really unrealistic.
1: A truly good marriage must be a good match and evenly matched
Aunt Chen is a university teacher and her husband is a senior engineer. They should be considered a high-level family. A daughter who grew up in such a family environment should be more open-minded, but I don’t know if she is too spoiled with her daughter, so she doesn’t start from reality when she considers the problem.
My daughter is indeed a very independent person. She also has a good job, and her monthly income is more than 20,000 yuan. She has a certain amount of savings after working for many years.
But even so, we should not force the monthly salary of the other half to be more than 50,000 yuan.
Considering whether a person is worth marrying, economic conditions are not the first priority, nor are they all, at most they can only be used as a reference. In the rest, we should pay attention to character, personality, values and family, which is rational.
A truly good marriage must be of equal status. Instead of asking the other party for a single monthly salary, it is better to consider being more comprehensive and date first, so that the chance of meeting true love will be greater.
2: In terms of marriage and love, it is better to be realistic
There are many people in life who always can’t put their own positions and do not have a clear understanding of themselves. They always blindly ask others, but never think about it, and the other party has the right to ask you.
When you pick and choose from others, others are also judging how much do you have?
Marriage is realistic. Only by starting from reality can you find a truly suitable partner. If it is always a fantasy and making some unrealistic demands will only make you difficult.
So Aunt Chen feels that it is normal for her daughter to get married. She has fallen into a vicious circle and can't get out of it. She doesn't want to find a man with a low monthly salary, nor does she want to support her in-laws in the future.
It is always right for people to consider themselves, but the premise is that since others meet these conditions, why should they still look for her? After all, her age is here, and the conditions are not particularly good.
Parents are all proud of their children.
But in the face of reality, it is not enough to favor children.
I hope every parent can give their children a good education, guide them to establish correct ideas, let them have a deeper understanding of life and a more correct understanding of marriage. Only in this way can they be closer to happiness.
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