The cornerstone of marriage is mutual trust, but there must also be a bottom line.
Marriage Examination is this bottom line. How many marriages have caused regret in the future because there is no marriage examination.
. I saw a young couple breaking up due to a marriage examination. After reading their experience, they may give you some inspiration.
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Sun Peng and Liu Ting are in a free relationship. They have been together for 5 years and have reached the point of talking about marriage.
The man's family also showed sincerity and bought them a wedding house in the city, waiting for a good day to come and hold the wedding.
In rural areas, you usually get a bride gift when you get married, and Liu Ting's parents are no exception. They propose to ask for a 100,000 betrothal gift according to local customs.
In theory, this money is not much, and Liu Ting's mother also said that this is the form. When the two get married, they will also treat the dowry as a dowry.
But the man's family bought a house and had no extra money in his hand. They felt that the woman was making things difficult for him. If he treated each other sincerely, he should not have offered a bride price.
This incident made the couple embarrassed. Liu Ting felt that her parents were right. After all, everyone in her hometown wanted face. If she didn't want a penny of betrothal gift, she would make the neighbors around her laugh at and say that the girl was not reserved.
Sun Peng also felt sorry for his parents. He knew that his parents still owed foreign debts. If he gave the bride gift, he could only continue to borrow money. He discussed with Liu Ting and asked if he could ask for a little less bride gift. The relationship between the two for so many years cannot be broken up because of money.
Liu Ting felt uncomfortable and felt that Sun Peng was not open-minded in his work. If he had to feel wronged before marriage, and if he encountered problems after marriage, how would he control himself?
After thinking about it, she still insisted on asking for a 100,000 yuan gift, but it also showed that the money was just a formality and would be taken to her husband's house when she got married.
A few days later, Sun Peng came to find Liu Ting. He said, "My parents agreed to give a 100,000 yuan gift, but there is a requirement. You have to do a marriage examination first."
Liu Ting changed her face. She felt that she was insulted. It was obvious that the man's family did not trust her. made such a request, which was also embarrassing her. She felt like a commodity and the other party was picking and choosing.
Seeing that the wedding date was approaching, Liu Ting also gambled. She agreed to the marriage examination, but proposed to do it together.
The result was soon revealed. Liu Ting was in good health, , and Sun Peng was diagnosed with uremia . This disease requires dialysis , and the treatment time is long and the cost is not small. Liu Ting asked a doctor friend for asking about it, and the other party said that even if he insisted on treatment, he could only last for about 20 years.
Liu Ting hesitated. She loved her boyfriend very much, but no matter how good the love is, she will consider reality. After discussing with her parents, she decisively proposed to break up and not marry anymore!
Sun Peng's family is unacceptable and thinks that Liu Ting is too realistic. How can the relationship that has been in talks for 5 years be dispersed? At least we must share the joys and sorrows.
This matter is different, and everyone has different opinions.
Some people think that the woman should not insist on asking for the bride price. It is like doing a business to talk about the bride price. It is meaningless to know that the man has no money and still care about face.
Some people also believe that the man shot himself in the foot and wanted to make things difficult for the girl, but ended up revealing his own problem. The girl broke up.
No matter what, there is nothing wrong with the marriage examination, which can help you find the problem early.
Coincidentally, Ms. Yu also encountered a similar thing.
Ms. Yu is a nurse. It is logical that she should be vigilant enough, but when facing love, she neglected.
Only after getting married did she realize that her husband's family had hereditary ataxia, which is simply amyotrophic lumbar disease .
When this disease does not occur, you can't see anything. Your behavior is the same as that of a normal person. Once it occurs, you will be unable to walk, lose your balance ability, and even your eyes will have movement disorders.
The man had a lucky mentality at the beginning and felt that he would not inherit it. In addition to his selfish desire to start a family, he deliberately concealed Ms. Yu.
Ms. Yu watched her husband behave normally and had some luck. Until her child went to school, her husband developed symptoms. He first walked unsteadily and often fell for no reason. Later, he was paralyzed in bed and could not take care of himself.
Ms. Yu has to take care of the children and serve her husband. The hardships of life can be imagined, but even if she spends all her savings, her husband's illness shows no sign of improvement. He passed away after he was bedridden for 7 years.
What makes Ms. Yu even more uncomfortable is that her son developed symptoms as soon as she graduated from high school. He repeated her father's life, which made Ms. Yu difficult to accept.
She regretted it very much. If she insisted on the marriage examination at the beginning, she would not have put herself in trouble for the rest of her life.
Marriage examination is troublesome, but not marriage examination brings you a lifetime of hidden dangers.
There are selfish elements in human nature, especially in the face of marriage, and we will consider our own interests more.
We are not afraid to speculate on others with malicious intentions, but some people will deliberately conceal their family medical history.
In addition to deliberately concealing it, there are also unintentional deceptions.
is less than that. She and her husband are in a free relationship, and her in-laws are very nice to her. After getting married, all the housework is taken care of by her mother-in-law.
After getting pregnant, during a physical examination, Xiaoyu found out that hepatitis B virus was found. She was shocked. Considering that she had no symptoms, she had this disease for some reason.
The doctor said that this is family inheritance, but the condition is mild, and you can also prevent it earlier. For the sake of the health of the child, Xiaoyu chose a cesarean section and gave the child a vaccination.
She felt very guilty and explained to her in-laws that she really didn't know and didn't feel any physical discomfort, and was not deliberately hiding it.
The in-laws are very open-minded. They did not blame Xiaoyu at all, but made her feel relieved and as long as the child is healthy.
She was lucky to meet her husband who understood her, and because of the timely examination, the health of her children was guaranteed.
If the in-laws have a bad attitude, the family may not be able to stabilize.
So the question is, why do many people know that marriage examinations are beneficial, but they still don’t do the examination?
The answer is not confident.
A girl has been in love several times, worried that she will be found to be impure, so the man will be despised.
There are also men who are worried that they will find a family genetic disease and cause problems in a good marriage.
More people are lucky and feel that their health is fine. As long as they don’t check, they can have a peaceful life.
In fact, these ideas are not acceptable. Checking is to be responsible for everyone and the bottom line of marriage quality. It can give you a protective wall and reduce the chance of being trapped in your life.
So, there is no need to reject marriage examination. If you love someone, just check with the other party before marriage. In this way, both parties will be honest and the marriage will be happier.
What do you think about this? Do you think the marriage examination is necessary?
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