Author: Hulucheng (Columnist of Fushu)
After decades of life, we will encounter various situations.
Sometimes it’s smooth sailing, sometimes it’s difficult to walk, sometimes it’s full of confidence, and sometimes it’s exhausted.
Mediocre people often lose their minds in good times and fail to recover in bad times.
And the strong will not take the ups and downs of life too seriously.
The best way for a person to do things is: not to show off when he is proud, not to lose his ambition when he is frustrated, and not to complain when he is in trouble.
When you are proud, don't show off
Mo Yan won the Nobel Prize in Literature . In the year, he went to Sweden to receive this highest literary honor that attracted the attention of the world.
Just now stayed in the hotel, a friend in Sweden came to Mo Yan with an English translation of " Life and Death Fatigue " and asked him to sign the book.
Mo Yan took the book and looked through it carefully, but he had no intention of signing it. He said to his friend with apologized face, "Or, forget it."
The friend thought Mo Yan was pretentious and said a little unhappy: "This is your work, why can't you sign a name for me?"
Mo Yan refused again, and wrote his name in an inconspicuous corner of the title page.
The next day, the Chinese Embassy in Sweden held a press conference for Mo Yan. At the meeting, Mo Yan mentioned the signature to everyone. He sincerely said:
"The reason why I won the award is inseparable from the creative work of the translator. It took me 43 days to write the book "Fatisure of Life and Death", but Anna Chen Ms. Chen for 6 years.
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At the highlight of life, Mo Yan could have enjoyed the glory and show off, but he always maintained a humble and low-key attitude, and did not forget the credit of others in front of honor.
Yishu once wrote in "Lucky Star": " is proud of it, take care of it, don't disturb it, don't celebrate it. "
. In real life, some people are arrogant because of success and fame, some are arrogant because of promotion, and some are frequently showing off because of occasional small fortune.
Little do you know that when you are full of compassion, you are most likely to feel proud, and when you are high-profile and ostentatious, you are most likely to be jealous.
Many failures are hidden at the peak of life, and many downs and downs happen after the success.
The smartest way to face achievements and praise is to be humble and calm.
Only by being happy but not being able to show off, can we keep a clear mind and make the most correct choice at critical moments in life.
Don't lose his ambition when he is frustrated
The famous American military general General Patton once said: "The mark of measuring a person's success is not to look at the height of his reaching the peak, but to look at the rebound force of his fall to the trough."
Those who are tenacious in nature can rekindle their fighting spirit when they are frustrated and fight a beautiful turnaround.
In the TV series "You Go Against the Current", Ma Li plays Liu Ai, a gold medal salesman in a large company. Because the boss is doing bad things in the year-end bonus, he also squeezed Liu Ai's work station into a corner. Liu Ai couldn't bear it anymore and was forced to resign.
Not only that, the boss also slandered Liu Ai in the industry and spread rumors everywhere, causing many large companies to refuse to hire her.
The boss thought Liu Ai would be in a slump, but he didn't expect that Liu Ai was not discouraged, but also put down his identity as a gold medal salesman and was preparing to find a small company to start over.
Liu Ai made a beautiful resume and applied for a job at a small company in the industry that was just starting out, and successfully found a new job.
Liu Ai, who started from scratch, was very devoted to his work and spent a lot of time and energy to get familiar with the new company. He quickly got started with the business. With her excellent sales skills, she won one large order after another for the new company.
Because of its excellent performance, Liu Ai was appreciated by his boss and became the leader of the sales department.
In order to strengthen the sales team, Liu Ai poached the former company's assistant and led the new team to win an important bid, stealing the business that belonged to the former company. Not only did he avenge his previous shame, he also advanced from gold medal sales to a veritable sales king.
There is a sentence in Liu Tong's "Your loneliness, even if you lose, you are still glorious": " The trough is not scary. If you stop, it is the bottom. If you continue, it is the uphill. "
A person's attitude towards the trough often determines the height of his life.
If you are upset and depressed all day long and give up on yourself, life will reward you with endless pain.
If you regain your confidence and become more courageous as you setbacks, you will be able to go against the current and return to the peak in the days to come.
Frustration in life is both a setback and an opportunity.
draws experience from failure and grows your talents in solving problems. The next climax of your life will come soon.
Don't complain when you are in trouble
Someone asked Bi Shumin , what should I do when I encounter hardship in life.
Bi Shumin said: "Wait quietly, sleep well, exercise, chat with your close friends, don't complain, and recall the happy time."
The most open-minded attitude in difficulties is to not complain, difficulty does not complain, down-and-out does not lose elegance, and desperate does not lose hope. Chen Wugang, the founder of
Kelitina, had a bankruptcy experience before he successfully started his business.
He once developed a "removal spirit" product for cleaning range hoods with his strong professional knowledge. The business was so good that the supply was in short supply.
However, due to lack of experience, Chen Wugang was deceived by some channel dealers and received a lot of short checks, resulting in the inability to recover millions of payments. In the end, the capital chain was broken, not only did he lose all his money, but he was also in debt.
That period was his most difficult time, and he looked for people everywhere to raise money to pay off his debts.
But he did not become discouraged and embarrassed by the heavy blow of bankruptcy, but he still wears a suit, tie, and a briefcase when he goes out every day, like a chairman.
When he borrowed money, he never complained. Others even asked him strangely why he was so particular about clothing after going bankrupt.
He said that he was unwilling to complain like other bankrupt people, or to complain to everyone, that would only become a real loser.
's optimistic attitude made Chen Wugang quickly devoted himself to new attempts. Although he had experienced several failures, he finally successfully founded his beauty empire.
Lu Xun wrote in " Madman Diary ": "All the bad luck and the lowest point must be silently overcome, don't make a statement, otherwise what is left is a laughing stock."
The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same. Even if you describe your suffering in richer language, it will be nothing but a word to others, and you cannot empathize with it.
But just complaining is not only in exchange for sympathy, but also makes you more anxious.
Instead of relying on others to comfort and save yourself, it is better to enlighten yourself and change yourself.
Put away your complaints, swallow your desire to complain, and become your own armor, so that you can overcome difficulties and win respect for yourself.
Zeng Guofan said: "When you are prosperous, you often think about it when you are in decline, and when you are on the stage, you should think about the end."
A truly powerful person can manage his mood regardless of good times and bad times.
When you are proud, be cautious in your words and actions, be grateful, and your future path will be smoother and smoother.
When you are frustrated, you will not let go of your motivation, and you will not diminish your fighting spirit, and you can turn around when you are on the verge of water.
When you are in trouble, you will not complain or complain, you will have a light in your heart, and you will be favored by your despair.
Even if life goes ups and downs, they can walk in the wind and waves and travel smoothly.
In the future, I hope you and I can be content with gains and losses, indifferent to success and failure, keep moving forward, and calmly walk through the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas in life.
Author profile: Hulucheng, a columnist of Fushu, a person who is rich and small, likes to travel thousands of miles, and also likes to read thousands of books. The first of this article: Fushu, the best friend around you, Fushu launched a new book "Living Good" in 2018
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