Preface: "The son is the face, and the daughter is the inner child." This sentence is widely circulated among the people. People who have had experience as parents often have this feeling: the parents who have given birth to a son have a bright face; the parents who have given bi

Preface:

"The son is face, and the daughter is the inner child." This sentence is widely circulated among the people. People who have had experience as parents often have this feeling: the parents who have given birth to a son have a bright face; the parents who have given birth to a daughter have a comfortable inner feeling.

The difference between having a son and having a daughter is only a deep understanding of the people who have experienced it. In response to this, Aunt Fang, 60, said that she finally realized in her later years that her son and daughter were really different.

Aunt Fang:

I am sixty years old this year, and my wife is sixty-three years old this year. We both have retired for many years, but we have not lived a day of leisure. We both live a life of getting up earlier than the chicken and going to bed later than the cow every day. The monthly pension totals more than 10,000 yuan, but we don’t have a penny in our pockets.

The reason why we live more busy after retirement than before retirement is because of our only son. If it weren't for the purpose of dedicating to my son's small family, my wife and I would have lived an extremely comfortable life after retirement.

The son is 35 years old this year. Although he has already started a family and started a business, he has no responsibility or responsibility at all and is dedicated to his elders. He works as the grassroots employee in a company and earns a salary of 5,000 yuan a month.

The son’s income is not high, but he doesn’t know how to be thrifty at all when he lives. He never looks at the price when buying things, as if there is a mine at home. My daughter-in-law also works for three days and two days to dry the net, and she doesn't make much money at all. Even so, the couple still planned to have a third child every day.

I feel very confused about this. Our family is not a wealthy family. Without a huge family inheritance, why do they have so many children? Although I objected to their third child, I didn't dare to say it out. The young couple likes to have children themselves. If I stop them, they will definitely scold me for meddling in other people's business.

The year my first grandson was born, I just retired and my son "caught a strong man." My son said, since I have retired, I have nothing to do when I am idle at home. It's better to make use of my remaining energy at his home to relieve the pressure of life.

I don’t want to leave my home because the year my grandson was born, my wife had not retired yet, and my son’s house was very far away from my wife’s work unit, so he couldn’t live with me at my son’s house. My wife can’t cook. If I leave, he may not even be able to eat a bite of hot rice.

However, facing my son's urging calls one after another, I was really powerless to refuse. Seeing that I was embarrassed, my wife persuaded me to agree to my son's request. He said that he could learn to cook by himself and let me go to my son's house to take care of my grandson with confidence. When my grandson goes to kindergarten, we can reunite.

My son was very anxious, so I had to say goodbye to my wife reluctantly and live in my son's house. My son and daughter-in-law are both very lazy people. Since I lived with them, they have pushed me all the things in the family to me and didn't give me a penny of living expenses.

If I ask the couple to help me with work or give me some living expenses, they will give me a shame, which makes me feel very bad. After a few times, I was too lazy to care about them anymore and lived on my own expenses and efforts.

I thought about staying there for another two or three years, and I would be able to get rid of it after my grandson went to kindergarten. Unexpectedly, I finally managed to get through until my eldest grandson went to kindergarten, but I welcomed the birth of my younger grandson.

There were two children in the family all at once, and there were more housework. I take care of my two children every day and do all the housework. I am so tired that I can't straighten my back every day, but my son and daughter-in-law don't feel sorry for me at all, and enjoy the fruits of my labor with peace of mind.

I really couldn't stand it, so I told my son that I was too tired and wanted to go back to my own home. But my son refused me without hesitation. He said that I just took care of my children every day and did housework. How could it be as hard as I said? If I insist on going home, he would never recognize me as a mother again.

In order not to be resentful by my son, I had to continue to persevere. When my grandson was half a year old, my wife also retired.My wife saw that I was busy with two children alone, so she took the initiative to move to my son’s house and help me take care of my grandson.

Since my wife moved here, my workload has been much reduced. The two of them work together, talking and laughing, and life is much easier to pass. Although the housework has become much easier, it also has bad disadvantages, that is, since his wife moved to his son's house, he has spent all his pensions.

Before my wife moved here, I spent my pension alone. Since my wife moved here, we both dedicated all the pensions to our son's small family.

My wife has a pension of 6,000 yuan a month. Her son and daughter-in-law always ask him for money under various names. Her wife is thin-skinned and embarrassed to refuse. As long as the couple speaks, he will pay.

At the instigation of the couple, my wife bought them a car worth more than 300,000 yuan. The car is bought with a loan, and you have to pay back a car loan of 5,000 yuan every month. The remaining pension is 1,000 yuan, and buying clothes and toys for your grandson, you will spend very little.

My wife and I spend all our pension every month, which makes me always feel panic. I am worried that as I get older, if I suffer from three or two diseases, I will suffer because I have no money to treat the disease.

Now I have reached the age of sixty and have been retired for many years, but I haven’t enjoyed the leisurely life of a day. I don't know when this day will be.

On the other hand, my good sister has a world of difference from mine. Since the first day of retirement, the good sisters have been living a life of wandering around. Her wife’s pension is less than my wife’s pension, but she lives a much more relaxed life than ours.

Her wife was in poor health and got an early return for illness and could only get a pension of more than 2,000 yuan per month. Even so, it did not delay them from enjoying their lives at all.

The reason why good sisters live so freely is because she gave birth to a good daughter. When my daughter got married, not only did she not ask them to spend a penny, but her son-in-law also gave her a bride gift of 188,000 yuan. My daughter's children were also taken by her grandfather and grandma, so she didn't worry about her good sisters.

The daughter knew that the pension of the old couple was not high, so she always stuffed money to the old couple to improve the level of life. Every time I meet my good sister, she looks so energetic and very happy.

Since I have a strong contrast, I have a clear understanding of having a son and a daughter. Through careful observation, I found that most of the parents who gave birth to sons lived a hard life, while those who gave birth to daughters lived a particularly relaxed life.

Since I got the comparison, I have been very envious of families that have given birth to daughters. If I can choose, I will have to have a daughter in my next life and never want to have a son again. Because my son is just good-looking but not practical at all.

Conclusion:

Many people believe that since they are all their own children, the result is the same whether they are giving birth to a son or a daughter. It is nothing more than the young people who raise children, and the children will support us in their old age.

They often find that having a son and a daughter is really different. Due to gender differences, sons are generally careless and are far inferior to those of a delicate daughter when it comes to caring for and taking care of the elderly.

Aunt Fang’s experience tells us that the parents who gave birth to a son are really different in their later years than the parents who gave birth to a daughter. What are your views and opinions on this? Welcome to leave a message in the comment section below to discuss.

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