01. In the interaction between the opposite sex, the party who loves a lot is often the loser.
In love, each couple has a different way of getting along. Some people don’t like to show off, while others love them too much and get tired of chasing them.
Recently, a popular saying appeared on the Internet: "Take it and you."
People use this word anywhere they can think of, thinking that what they do is playful and fashionable. However, this tone is inexplicably similar to the truth expressed in the Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament: " Matthew effect ".
"Matthew effect" refers to a realistic representation of the stronger the stronger the weaker the weaker, and is a polarized phenomenon.
There is also "Your is mine, mine is mine" and "given to you". Isn’t this the most obvious manifestation of the “Matthew effect”?
In the world of love, the above sentence often appears. Usually when this context occurs, the person who hears it will feel very happy and thinks that this is love. Little do you know that when you get used to it, the "Matthew effect" appears.
There must be problems with the relationship between two people. Get along with the opposite sex and be careful to avoid the "Matthew effect". The slower you love, the more you lose
When a woman starts a relationship, she often hears this advice: no matter how much you love each other, don't show it, because the person who falls in love first has already lost.
Love ten in your heart and keeping three points on your mouth is the most appropriate posture in love. Love between men and women may be the most honest relationship in everyone's relationship.
In front of your lover, you can be yourself unscrupulously. Talk about things that are inconvenient to discuss with family and friends, and share some meaningless ideas. But while you lean towards the other person, you also put your heart naked in front of the other person.
The deeper the love, the more unreserved it is. You show deep love, put yourself in a passive position, and let the other party conquer the city at will.
And the space in people’s hearts is limited. When you are filled with the other person, you will naturally forget yourself.
In " Passing Through Your World ", Yue Yunpeng plays Zhutou almost gave everything to his beloved girlfriend Yan Zi. I paid back the money for her when I worked, sent her abroad, and saved money to buy a house for her.
But in the end, Yue Yunpeng chased the car and cried, "Swallow, how can I live without you?" The audience was moved by Zhuzhu's professionalism and believed that his emotional view of "Loving you is my business" was healthy and rational.
If you can stand in a pig's head, such an ending is not a heart-wrenching knife, how can you reveal it deeply? No matter what is wrong with them first, at least the pig's love is obvious and hot. And in him, this truth was also verified.
When you lose yourself in love, you lose not only yourself, but your partner.
3. Retaining love is the ideal balance technique.
Getting along with the opposite sex does not mean that two people pay more or less, but more often they pay attention to balance and harmony.
Two men and women are in love, just like standing at both ends of a seesaw and walking forward together. Whoever walks too fast will lose balance. Only when the two of them are evenly matched and move forward steadily can they maintain their figure, walk to the middle and embrace warmly. And this is how people grow old together.
In love, what is touching people is often not the entanglement of black hair, but the silver hair, still holding hands. In them, you can clearly see what the balance in love looks like.
When you watch videos, you always feel very dull and quickly. Those who often stay on the interface are the gray-haired ones.
Grandpa wandered around and reminded his wife to be careful in doing things. Or go out for a walk, hold a bouquet of wild flowers, and have some romantic fun.
Some comments said that they were just making shows and acting according to the script is not actually the case. Maybe the video has the potential to make a show, but love that still staggers and embraces tightly is there.
They can go to the "middle" of the balance, that is, they go back and forth, each with reservations. We both tacitly understand each other and work together.
04. Love is a matter between two people.
Ideal love is not because you love the other person, but because you completely turn yourself into another person.
The most regrettable thing in the opposite sex relationship is not that you become the person she loves the most after losing her partner. But because of deep love, you forget to love yourself, and you also forget that true love is mutual agreement and forced sculpting.
Love is a matter between two people, but the "Matthew effect" makes the relationship go to extremes and loses balance. How can you not fall?
No matter how deep you are in your heart or how much you like it, please control yourself. Be yourself well, love each other seriously, and stay away from the "Matthew effect".
A century of love will also have friction and inclination. The difference is that they know how to cherish each other, even if they adjust.
If there is a person you love, cherish it, don’t waste meeting it, and don’t let the person you love.
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