My wife and I have been married for 40 years and have been living under her nagging control. It is really awkward. A month ago, we had a fight over eating noodles for breakfast, whether to put fried eggs or poached eggs.

Story prosecutor: 61-year-old Mr. Xu

My wife and I have been married for 40 years and have been living under her nagging control. It is really frustrating.

A month ago, we quarreled over eating noodles for breakfast, whether to put fried eggs or poached eggs.

At first she said she wanted to poach eggs, and then she said that I always boiled the egg yolk egg white to make it unformed, which affected the noodles.

I said let’s fry the egg.

She also said that fried eggs have oil and don’t want to eat greasy things in the morning...

This is how we are. We argue endlessly over trivial matters every day.

We haven't spoken for more than a month since the breakfast incident. Everyone is busy with their own things and don't bother each other.

In fact, I gave her several steps during this period, and everyone can be as reconciled as before.

But she didn't appreciate it. She seemed to be just like me, and I was helpless.

It was during this period that I met Liu Meizi, a 55-year-old girl in the next community while shopping.

That day, I went to a familiar store to buy chicken, but the boss closed that day and it was not open.

I was hesitating at the door. I originally wanted to make chicken soup and eat it for a day, but now I haven’t bought chicken. What kind of vegetables should I buy instead?

Then, Liu Meizi also came. She asked me if I knew when the boss would open the door, and she wanted to buy chicken and go back to make soup.

…and that’s it, we got into the conversation.

After knowing that the two communities where they live are next door, they chatted even more vigorously.

The vegetables we bought that day were the same. I don’t know what I bought in

. Anyway, she bought one while chatting, and I will buy one as well.

We added WeChat to each other, and then made an appointment to buy vegetables together and take a walk by the nearby river.

She comes from the countryside and is also a pitiful person. She has no husband when she is very young and raises her son and daughter with one hand.

A few years ago, she came from the countryside to the city, helped her son and granddaughter, and cooked and housework for the family.

She doesn't like such days very much. She has no support and no friends. She brings her naughty granddaughter every day, and is complained that her son and daughter-in-law are not good at hygiene and child care...

She feels very frustrated, but she is not allowed to go back to her hometown.

Her son and daughter-in-law live in average conditions, so she bought a second-hand two-bedroom apartment for her granddaughter.

The house is not big, she and her granddaughter sleep in the same room, but she is disliked by her granddaughter every day.

said that grandma occupied her room, preventing her from being able to decorate it into a princess room.

She and her daughter-in-law were not happy either.

The family itself doesn’t have much money, but her daughter-in-law is so generous that she can’t stand it, but she can’t control it.

She gets 1,500 yuan of living expenses every month, but her son is picky and must have hard dishes for meals. My daughter-in-law asks her to buy fruits and milk every day...

Many times, 1500 is not enough.

But she said it, but her son and daughter-in-law didn't believe it, so she was still calculating left and right. It seemed that no matter how much she calculated, she didn't need 1500.

Liu Meizi was also helpless and could only take out her few savings and pay her daughter to supplement her family income. She lives a very bad life like this.

She has no sense of home in this city and wants to go back to her hometown and raise some chickens and ducks and grow some vegetables for her old age.

Although I can't empathize with her situation, it sounds very difficult.

My monthly pension is more than 6,000 yuan. I really can’t imagine that 1,500 yuan a month, how can I buy groceries for a family of four?

also buy fruit and milk.

Since we met, she said I was her first friend in the city.

Although she was not very good in life, she had a good personality. She always talked and laughed, and had endless topics to talk to me.

She is also good at making various snacks. Every time she sends her granddaughter to school, she will take her own food to the park with me and then go shopping together.

I won’t eat her in vain. Every time I buy groceries, I will rush to pay for her.

Although it costs more than ten or twenty yuan each time, it is also my little intention.

Compared with my wife who doesn't like cooking but does housework, she only picks on me every day, and only dresses up and takes photos and dances, she is much more virtuous.

If you have a choice, I certainly prefer her virtuous wife.

After a while, we both became more and more familiar with her, and I unknowingly felt differently about her.

I don’t want to go home, I always want to chat with her, and that feeling is very relaxed and comfortable.

Don’t need to be like my wife. If you don’t talk too much, you will quarrel if you don’t say anything more.

And she has to look at her face everywhere, for fear that she will make her unhappy again by accident, so she scolded her.

Most of the time she cooks at home alone at noon. In order for us to spend a longer time together, I often invite her to have dinner outside.

We also play badminton, table tennis, and movies together... We live a happy life.

On the weekend, her son and daughter-in-law were on vacation to take care of the children, so I asked her to go on a self-driving trip around. This kind of stress-free life is what I want.

I can also feel that she is interesting to me. It’s just that because I have a wife, we all keep this relationship deep in our hearts.

I work hard to protect this layer of affection and think that this unique relationship will continue to be maintained.

But who knows that human calculations are worse than God’s calculations. My wife discovered this a few days ago.

She suddenly went home at noon that day and didn't tell me that I happened to invite Sister Liu to my house for lunch and tried the sauerkraut fish that I cooked by myself.

This is a dish she likes to eat very much, but she doesn’t know how to cook it herself and she is reluctant to go out to eat it.

The three of us looked at each other and were at a loss.

My wife usually goes out early and comes back late, and never eats lunch at home. I don't know why she suddenly came back that day, and it happened to be our meal time.

Originally, it was nothing for Liu Meizi and I to be honest, so I was very normal to invite friends to visit our house.

But my wife doesn't think so. She drove Liu Meizi away and scolded her.

said that she was so old that she was shameless, and she actually came into the house to seduce me, a married man...

That was the first time I slapped my wife in the face.

Because what she said was so ugly, she scolded Liu Mei and I to a shameless face.

My wife also told her daughter about this, slandering me for cheating, betrayed her marriage and betrayed her.

She asked me to give her an explanation in front of her daughter, otherwise she would get a divorce.

While I was leaving the house with nothing, I also had to compensate her for 500,000 yuan in mental damage.

Otherwise she would make a big fuss and sue me in court...

I know her temperament, especially the "mysterious organization" she comes into contact with every day is the "mysterious organization" of "women are the gods".

I am afraid that this little thing that was originally pure friendship will get bigger and bigger by her.

So I compromised.

But she also made several requests for me to abide by, otherwise this would be endless.

First, you must not go out if you have nothing to do in the future. Even if you go out, you must accept video checks at any time.

Second, submit the retirement salary card and she will reimburse her as much as she spends every day to buy groceries.

Third, you have to turn on hands-free answering calls at home, and your WeChat avatar has to be replaced with hers.

Fourth, you must hand in your phone for checking at any time, and she must know all the friends inside.

I think these four conditions are unreasonable, but I can't refute them, so I can only accept them helplessly.

Since this incident happened, my wife with a bad temper has become even worse.

She is outside with bright and beautiful smile every day, but when she gets home, she changes her clothes and directs me to do this and that with a dark face.

As long as I don’t like her circle of friends as soon as possible, and don’t forward and comment on her video account as soon as possible, she will scold me.

I really want to resist, but I don’t have any confidence. I live a little bit like a man, just like a free nanny and anger.

I was helpless and unwilling to accept it.

Liu Meizi and I obviously did nothing bad, but we ended up now, which is not worth it.

You said, how should I live the days ahead? Is it necessary to continue such a marriage?