My boyfriend and I have been dating in 2015 for 8 years and have a good relationship. Since I first met, I knew that he had a cousin who was doing business in Australia. He might go abroad in the future. He was hesitant and kept going until graduation and work, but he didn't see

My boyfriend and I have been dating in 2015 for 8 years and have a good relationship. Since I first met, I knew that he had a cousin who was doing business in Australia. He might go abroad in the future. He was hesitant and kept going until graduation and work, but he didn't see him out.

Since the epidemic in the past two years, his family used to do some small business, but it is not easy to do now. His cousin's business in Australia is booming. His cousins ​​who followed him are doing well. He can earn more than 1 million yuan a year even if he is doing well. His cousin and his family advised him, and then he was moved and wanted to go out with him.

He is more motivated and has a higher pursuit of life. I like to live a stable life. I was afraid that he would see his brother going out in the future and regret not going out, so he advised him to go abroad without caring about me.

I have been hesitating and tangling whether to go out with him. There are mainly the following concerns:

1. After I went out, I didn’t have a job and learned the language and adapted to the environment. It took some time. I just rely on others if I don’t want to, and I will definitely find work to do. I am in a state-owned Internet company in a second-tier underdeveloped city. My monthly salary is over 10,000 yuan, and my life is still good. After going out, can you go back to the old business?

2. Before going abroad, do he and I need to get a certificate first? If I don’t need to get a certificate, I can’t live a life. If I return to China, I will still be single, so if I get a certificate, I will become a divorce. He must have some money when he goes abroad to study. If you want to tell the certificate, how do you say the bride price? Do you want it? He doesn't want to cause trouble for his parents, and he doesn't have that much money now. He has worked for three or four years and has saved some money himself. The money he saved probably won't be much left except for studying abroad. If he tells me that the bride price is not enough, we are about 30,000 yuan, how should I respond? The bride price is the way out for myself. Or is there a better way to use it as a way out.

3. If you want to get a certificate, it is better to get a foreign one in China. You will only be protected by the Marriage Property Law when you divorce. If I divorce at that time, I will lose all my money and return to China in shame.

4. His cousins ​​there are many relatives, I have no relatives and friends, and I am alone.

I am facing these things now and have a headache. What should I do?

or above is a self-reported by netizens. Gu Feng suggests: Your boyfriend is going abroad. At this time, you are insecure. You feel that your future is confused. You don’t know whether you should continue to be together or give up. You happen to be someone who likes to rely on others. Now you are confused about whether you should break up with him. Should you let go or not, it all depends on how deep the relationship between you two is.

It is not easy for two people to meet, meet, know each other to fall in love in the vast sea of ​​people. It is even rare to be able to meet the right person in love. Therefore, it is not easy to love each other, cherish each other. The following points you need to consider clearly:

1. First of all, you need to determine whether you should live with him in the future. If you are just in love, then just do whatever you want. If you are sure to be with him, the first point is, have you been integrated into his life circle? Do you know each other's friends? Do you know each other's parents and relatives understand each other or recognize you? If his family does not recognize you, or his family thinks you are just one of the choices for his daughter-in-law in the future, then be cautious.

2. Do your boyfriend’s attitude towards you have the determination to live with you? The responsible man generally will not make a promise easily. If he plays Tai Chi with you, for example, he will stick to it and has no clear plan for the future, then be cautious.

3. Your future plans and your opinions at home. For example, where you live and work in the future, you have to consider your own circle. Don’t easily split your own circle and adapt to another person.

4. Consider your own relationship and how long can you last. If you can't hold on yourself, there is no need to hold on.

To sum up, I think you can try long-distance relationship first.Even if you are separated from each other, as long as you have your own things to do, this is actually not bad for you. You can choose to be more independent after leaving him. It is not good to always rely too much on others.

Another thing is that separation is also to test your love. Long-distance relationship is indeed very hard. Both parties in love are like online love, but when you think about it from another perspective, this is also another way to increase your feelings. As the ancients said, not seeing each other for a day is like three autumns. As long as it is true love, you will not be afraid of the changes in distance.

If you feel that you still can't accept your long-distance relationship, you can make it clear to your boyfriend and listen to his opinions. A man who truly loves you will have long-term plans for your future.

If you choose to go abroad, it is best not to apply for an marriage certificate first. Go out and adapt to it for more than a year before deciding what to do in the future. If it is not suitable, you can stop the loss in time, and you still have a way to go back.

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