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I never want to speculate on human nature with malicious intentions. On the contrary, I believe in truth, goodness and beauty, and believe in all the beautiful things in human nature, but this does not mean that I will be kind to everyone without bottom line, and does not mean that I will believe in everyone.
Because not everyone can put your heart on you, not everyone can deserve your goodness.
Some people not only do not know how to be grateful, but even repay kindness with grudges. In this case, blind efforts are not kindness, but fools in the other party’s eyes.
It is precisely because we have suffered losses, been deceived, and been deceived that I feel that when we interact with others, we should be careful not to believe everyone foolishly, and then give without regard for rewards.
If you are not careful, your kindness and kindness will raise an ungrateful wolf for yourself and a enemy.
Even if you get along with brothers and sisters, you must be careful. No matter how deep your relationship is and how good your relationship is, there is no need to treat them as family members.
Because after each family gets married, they will inevitably become relatives. Since they are relatives, they will inevitably have a sense of proportion and boundaries when they get along. In the past, they could say anything and do anything. Now it is different. You must know how to respect and understand each other.
Because at this time, he is not only your brothers and sisters, but also someone else's husband or wife, the father or mother of a certain child. His identity has changed, and his sense of responsibility will naturally become heavier.
He can no longer give you without reservation and without any reward, because he has his own family.
So if something happens, it is their kindness that they can help you. This is a kind of affection, you must know how to be grateful. Don’t force me if you can’t help you, let alone morally kidnapped and others. After all, everyone has his difficulties.
can be understood in life, not everyone can understand this.
They always take the goodness of their brothers and sisters to themselves for granted. At first they feel very grateful and lucky. After a long time, they feel that this is what they deserve. They even make more demands, and they have no bottom line of being a human being.
In this case, no matter how stupid the other party gives, it is not a kind intention, but a stupidity.
1: You treat your brothers and sisters as family members, they may just treat you as relatives, can't put yourself in the same position or stop the loss in time
Many people only realize this after suffering losses.
There is such an example around me. My friend Xiaoling once regarded her brother's affairs as her own. When her brother got married, she did not hesitate to have a quarrel with her husband and even had to give 50,000 yuan to help. But what was the result? My younger brother and my sister-in-law didn't even say a word of thanks. When they were still giving birth, they asked her to borrow money. To put it nicely, it is to borrow it, but in fact they didn't think about paying it back because they think the money was what they should pay as their sister. Who made her have good financial conditions and soft-heartedness?
At that moment, Xiaoling realized the reality of human nature for the first time, and she suddenly realized that brothers and sisters would also plot against each other. If a relationship cannot be put in mind, what is the meaning of maintaining and persisting?
2: Getting too close to people is a disaster. Keeping a distance is really high emotional intelligence
Do you treat your brothers and sisters as family members, and will the other party do the same? What if you are just an ordinary relative in the eyes of the other person? Then at this time your efforts have turned into a joke?
So people must not get too close. If they get too close, the sense of boundaries will be blurred, and many things cannot be explained clearly or explained. At this time, there will be no benefits for you, only the disadvantages.
Especially after people reach middle age, knowing how to keep a distance from each other is a high emotional intelligence.The distance mentioned here is not to be completely inaccessible, nor to stop giving any sincerity, but to know how to distinguish and to give selectively.
If the other party can be honest with you, put your heart in mind, and respond to every effort you make, then such a relationship is worth maintaining; on the contrary, if he not only does not appreciate you, but instead uses you and asks you for it, then it is wise to stop the loss in time.
Brothers and sisters should have been the closest person in the world. If they become unrecognizable due to objective reasons such as interests or money, or even become enemies, it is undoubtedly a tragedy for the entire family.
I hope we don’t get to this point, and I hope that each of us can still have family affection and relatives when we are old.
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