However, Wang Aifen was not happy when she looked at her three-year-old son because she found that her husband had no chance to quarrel, and then she simply filed for divorce with her.
Wang Aifen naturally refused to divorce. She tried her best to persuade her husband to change his mind, but Zhang Jiandong said that it would be better to die if he continues like this.
It is obvious that Zhang Jiandong is determined to divorce. Wang Aifen had no choice but to find the mediator. She hoped that the mediator could help her save this home on the verge of breaking.
As soon as he met the mediator, Zhang Jiandong said that he would have to divorce because he could not live such a day.
The mediator said, are there any irreconcilable conflicts between you and your wife?
Before Zhang Jiandong could answer, Wang Aifen cried and told the mediator that she had never had children in the first thirteen years of marriage with her husband. In order to have a child of her own, she not only looked for medical treatment, but also suffered tremendous psychological pressure.
Fortunately, Zhang Jiandong not only did not dislike her, but also always told her that even if he had no children, he would love you for the rest of his life.
While her husband's confession moved Wang Aifen, she also felt guilty. She vowed that she must give birth to a child for her husband's family.
Fortunately, hard work pays off. After some hard work, she finally got what she wished.
Originally, Wang Aifen thought that his son's arrival would make their family happier, but what she didn't expect was that her husband's pickiness and disgust were greeted.
Speaking of this, Wang Aifen's tears flowed down. She told the mediator that since she gave birth to a son, her husband not only always thought the food she cooked was not delicious, but also said that she was not of quality.
In response to this, Zhang Jiandong explained that the food his wife cooked was indeed not delicious, he was just telling the truth.
Zhang Jiandong also said that he went out to work every day and was very tired. When he returned home, he could not swallow the food his wife cooked, which was really uncomfortable.
Mediator said, is your wife so unpleasant to cook, or has she suddenly become like this?
Before Zhang Jiandong could answer, Wang Aifen said, "I have always been like this when I cook. He has never disliked him before, but now it is not delicious."
Zhang Jiandong did not take over Wang Aifen's words, but said to the mediator, "You see, she just likes to rob words. She usually does this with clients or my friends. She doesn't wait for others to talk, but she keeps talking, sometimes she can't even say something.
The accusation of her husband made Wang Aifen very angry. She said that when a customer came to the store, I just wanted to tell the customer about our product advantages, but he thought I didn’t need to introduce it in such detail.
Zhang Jiandong said, I am more experienced in doing this. I think the transaction rate of my reception customers will be much higher than that of her, but when the customer comes, she will rush to receive them. I feel very annoyed when I see her chattering with the customer.
mediator said, what should you do if you encounter this situation?
Zhang Jiandong said, I just walked away and asked her to introduce him. As a result, after I left, the customer also left, so naturally the business was not completed.
Zhang Jiandong also said, I think we have made a lot of progress after so many years of business, but she is still standing still. I think we can’t communicate at all.
female customer
The husband's words made Wang Aifen excited. She said that the reason why her husband asked for divorce was because of a woman, and this woman was a female customer in their store.
Wang Aifen told the mediator that the female client praised her husband in front of her more than once, and asked about her husband's date of birth many times.
mediator said, apart from these, what else do you find?
Wang Aifen said that my husband went to her house for dinner twice, and after he came back, he praised her in front of me. He said that she is not only beautiful and good at dressing up, but also cooks very well. Compared with her, I am one in the sky and one in the ground.
In response to this, Zhang Jiandong explained that when he went to work at a female client's house, his father also went with him, and nothing happened between the two of them.
The mediator said, your wife said that you compared her with a female client, which made her very unhappy. What do you think?
Zhang Jiandong said that the food he cooked was delicious, so I told her that he just wanted her to learn from the other party.
Zhang Jiandong's explanation was not recognized by Wang Aifen. She told the mediator that once she accidentally saw a text message sent to her husband by the female client. The text message was full of words praising her husband. She was very angry and called the female client.
Wang Aifen asked the female customer on the phone, what would you react if your husband knew the messages you sent?
Mediator said, what did the other party say?
Wang Aifen said that before she could speak, my husband took away his phone and had a big fight with me.
Since then, Wang Aifen has even more suspicious that Zhang Jiandong and the female client have any problems. One day, Zhang Jiandong went out to do business. When he left, he did not inform Wang Aifen as usual. Wang Aifen thought he was going to find the female client, so he ran directly to the female client's house to ask for someone.
The female client saw Wang Aifen and said angrily: "Your husband is gone. Why did you come to my house to ask for someone? What do you mean?"
Then the female client took an umbrella and beat Wang Aifen on him. Wang Aifen, who knew that he was in the wrong, did not fight back, but ran away in panic.
But after this incident, Zhang Jiandong filed for divorce with her.
In response to this, Zhang Jiandong said that his wife's unreasonable trouble not only made him lose face, but also made him very disappointed. He really couldn't bear it anymore and filed for divorce.
mediation
But Wang Aifen said that the reason why her husband proposed divorce was not just because of this matter, but because her husband has earned more money in recent years.
It turned out that before Wang Aifen gave birth, she had been running her own store, but later she closed the store because of giving birth.
Wang Aifen said that at that time, her monthly income was very considerable, and her husband put her first priority. No matter what she is, her husband thought it was good. Now she is taking care of the children at home, and she only knows how to spend money and not make money, which naturally attracted her husband's dissatisfaction.
Wang Aifen also said that her husband opened the store after she closed the store. After a few years, the business in the store was getting better, but her husband became more and more disliked.
Regarding his wife's statement, Zhang Jiandong said that he has gained experience in recent years and has made a lot of progress, but his wife has not made any progress at all when she stays at home to take care of her children, and she still suspects him for no reason, so the gap between the two is getting bigger and bigger.
mediation has been carried out here, and the issues between Wang Aifen and Zhang Jiandong have been basically clear.
Mediator told Wang Aifen that before you give birth, your husband and you may focus more on how to have a child, and after you give birth, your focus is slowly shifted to each other. At this time, you care more about your husband's words and deeds, and you cannot accept your husband's pickiness and accusations, so you think he has changed his mind.
Unexpectedly, Zhang Jiandong burst into tears after hearing the mediator's words. He said that he was really wronged and wronged. He had never done anything to be sorry for his wife, but his wife was furious because he told the truth a few words.
Zhang Jiandong also said that we have been married for 16 years and have experienced ups and downs together. She actually distrusts me so much. How do you think we should live this life?
Zhang Jiandong's words touched Wang Aifen deeply. She said that the matter of going to the female client's house to find her husband was indeed too much. She apologized to her husband and hoped that her husband could forgive her.
Wang Aifen also said that in the future, she will correct her mistakes, learn to cook and put on makeup, and improve her cooking skills while turning herself into an exquisite woman.
The wife's statement also softened Zhang Jiandong's attitude. He said that he would encourage and affirm his wife more in the future, and would work hard for this family with his wife.
Finally, Zhang Jiandong took the initiative to hug Wang Aifen.
Conclusion:
People often say that suspicion is a double-edged sword, which not only hurts others but also hurts oneself.
Just like Wang Aifen in the story, she worked full-time at home after giving birth. It is understandable that she cared about her husband's words and deeds, but she would keep her husband's criticism in her heart, and she guessed that her husband betrayed her.
Her behavior not only made herself very painful, but also made her and her husband gradually drift away.
When Zhang Jiandong went out to do business and didn't say hello to her, she took it for granted that her husband was looking for that woman, so she rushed to the other party's house to find her husband without any consequences. As a result, she was not only beaten but also made her husband hate him to the core.
In fact, her impulsive behavior is indeed undesirable. She does this not only cause trouble for no reason, but also puts an already discordant family on the verge of breaking down.
In this regard, Wang Aifen insisted that the change in her husband was after she gave birth to a child. In fact, the key to the problem is that before giving birth, the key point of the couple was how to have a child. They did not consider their needs too much.
After having a child, their psychology changed. They considered their feelings more, especially Wang Aifen. She felt guilty before giving birth, and she would not care even if her husband was picky about her.
But after giving birth to a child, Wang Aifen felt that her task had been completed, and her focus also shifted to the relationship between husband and wife. Her husband's words and actions may cause her discomfort.
plus Wang Aifen is full-time at home after giving birth. Every penny she spends is given by her husband. Invisibly, her psychology will be very different. If her husband neglects her a little, she will not be able to accept it in her heart.
For Zhang Jiandong's wife's cooking is not delicious, he can tell his wife what dishes he likes to eat and let his wife learn. If Wang Aifen really loves her husband, he can also sign up for a class or study online.
As a man, Zhang Jiandong relied on his own efforts to do the store's business, which was very good. However, after his career was successful, the man pointed at the wife of the brute and even filed for divorce. He was not only shameful, but also irresponsible.
Zhang Jiandong said that he had grown up, but his wife was still standing there. In fact, he could give his wife advice or talk to his wife with heart-to-heart, and the two of them grew up together.
instead of blindly criticizing and attacking your wife, making your already sensitive wife even more insecure.
Wang Aifen gave up her career for her children. This is not only a sacrifice to the family, but also a kind of dedication. Although she did not make much money, taking care of the children and doing housework is also sharing the responsibility of the family.
As a husband, Zhang Jiandong should understand that only when men and women divide labor and cooperate, the family will become more stable and happier.
The husband and wife are united, and their strength is to cut off gold.
If a marriage wants to be happy and long-lasting, husband and wife must first trust each other, and secondly, when encountering problems, they must be honest and maintain good communication and be honest. Otherwise, the marriage will be difficult to last.
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