But reading is something that cannot be forced. Some people can't get into high school without trying their best, and some people can easily get into key universities. My parents are both top students, and I have been in the top three in the class since elementary school.

If you have a choice, which child doesn’t want to become a top student. But reading is something that cannot be forced. Some people can't get into high school without trying their best, and some people can easily get into key universities.

My parents are both top students, and I have been in the top three in the class since elementary school. My parents have been having a headache for my academic performance and finally have constant conflicts.

In the third year of junior high school, I did not get into high school, but went to an vocational school . My parents divorced because of this, and they really couldn't accept that I had such achievements.

If my grandparents hadn't been protecting me, maybe I'd have given up on myself long ago.

——Yang Xuejin

Contributor: Yang Xuejin (pseudonym), 27 years old this year, has his own pet store.

[Parents are academic masters, but I am not]

My name is Yang Xuejin, and I have lived in the aura of academic masters of my parents since I was a child. Both parents are college students and have their own ideas and opinions.

Dad is a city native, and grandparents have jobs. My mother is a rural child and is one of the few female academic masters of that era.

The life of my parents has almost no other shortcomings except for my "failure". My father works in a bank and his career is going well. My mother works in a state-owned enterprise and works decisively. She is a typical strong woman.

The two of them are combined together, and they can be said to be a strong alliance. But I have no inherited my parents' academic master's genes, and my academic performance is a mess. My parents personally explained the questions to me, but I still couldn't understand. My father spent a high price to hire a tutor for me. I was still in the class in the final exam, and I was even ranked last in the last three years.

[My parents don’t want to tutor me for reading]

If I put aside my academic performance, I will not be very bad in other aspects. I can draw and plant flowers and grass with my grandparents. But these hobbies are just unemployed in the eyes of parents.

Mom told me sternly that if she had not walked out of the countryside through study, she would have been trapped in the mud for the rest of her life. My mother is still a very competitive person. How could she allow me to be compared by other people's children in the office?

My father is even more strict with me. He has been good at studying since he was a child and does not need to translate English at all. After work, my father insisted on studying and became one of the few people in the unit who could communicate with foreign businessmen in English.

I am very resistant to English. I know those words, but I don’t know how to pronounce the words. Every night, my father accompanied me to write the words, but at 11:30, I still couldn't remember how to write the words.

Dad's collapse was just in a moment, and he couldn't help but tear my laptop apart and scolded me hard. Later I realized that my father gave up the opportunity to be promoted and chose to leave time for me. And the reward I gave him was that I could not even write half of the word in dictated.

My mother directly chose to ignore the tutoring for me. Even the training class teachers couldn't do anything to me, let alone others. Because my mother didn't tutor me, my father always quarreled with her. Every time they quarrel, I hid in the room and cried.

[The parents’ quarrel never stopped]

From elementary school to junior high school, my parents’ quarrel never stopped. My mother thinks that my grades are not good, and she is completely unwilling to care about it. My father thinks that my grades are not good, and it is simply that I have not found a good solution.

For a while, they were reluctant to take me to make up for classes, and they rarely asked about my test scores. The parent-teacher meeting also became a nightmare for parents. Dad was unwilling to attend, while Mom looked for various excuses to escape. Finally, the parent meeting was held by an intern in my mother's unit, but she only went there once and refused to go there again.

Because of my poor academic performance, my parents always feel that they can't raise their heads. My father refused to talk to others about learning, and did not want to hear others show off his child's test scores in front of him.

Mom is the first college student in the village and the pride of the family. I had such bad results and shocked the villagers for a time. Everyone even suspected that I was not my mother's child, otherwise how could I have learned so hard.

When I was a child, I didn’t understand the pressure of my parents. When I grew up, I realized that my parents also have their own dignity and face.

There are always some people who like to tease other people's children's academic performance. Because my mother's colleague joked about the fact that I ranked last, my mother never talked to that colleague again.

My parents’ disappointment with me gradually turned into conflict between husband and wife. They often quarrel in front of me, accusing each other of not taking care of me well.

[Parents are divorced]

In the third year of junior high school, my mother gave up a very important promotion opportunity and focused on accompanying me. My father once gave up a promotion opportunity, but got nothing.

It was my mother's turn to tutor me on my homework, but the effect was very little. Mathematics, English, and physics in junior high school are heavenly books for me.

Mom stayed with me for a while, and hypertension and went up, and her temper became even more irritable. If it weren't for the grandparents who argued with reason and forced their mother to put their focus back on work, perhaps there would be no more family affection between us mother and son.

Before the high school entrance examination, parents rarely appear at home at the same time. My father was on the excuse of going on a business trip and ran out every few days. My mother is busy improving herself. She has made many appointments for courses and does not think about my academic performance as much as possible. My mom taught computer courses by herself and also played photography equipment, but I didn’t even know how to use simple equations. The parents of top students have raised a child who is not good at studying, so how can they reason?

high school entrance examination results were announced, but fortunately some vocational schools are willing to take in us students who have not been admitted to high school.

And my parents' marriage has come to an end. They went through the divorce procedures and calmly told me that I would not live together in the future.

They were also very proud people, one was a young man with high spirits and the other was a girl with high spirits. They were tortured to have gray hair for my students' grades.

[Grandpa and grandma always protect me]

After my parents divorced, I moved to my grandma and grandma. They are retired teachers, with their own pensions and their own houses.

Grandpa's house is on the first floor, and there is an open space at the entrance. When I was a child, I liked to plant flowers with my grandparents and I had a lot of feelings for it. Grandpa even brought me a kitten and asked me to play with the cat. The few happinesses in my childhood were given to me by my grandparents.

When I was a child, I didn’t understand why my mother and grandma had always been tense. When I grew up, I realized that my grandmother couldn't bear to scold me and kept arguing with her. A large part of their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict was caused by me.

Grandpa and grandparents have taught them all their lives and deeply understand that some children are indeed not suitable for reading. But not being suitable for reading does not mean that there will be no hope in the future.

The old couple taught many students, and the students who came to visit them every year were the students with the worst grades in the class that year. The students with the best grades are half abroad and half in first-tier cities. Only the most naughty students remember to come to see the teacher and bring gifts to the door every year.

I ranked last in the exam then, and my father was so angry that he smashed all the teacup. The tea burned my hand, and my grandma felt so distressed. That time my grandma slapped my father, and the mother and son didn't speak for a long time.

I remembered that when I was most helpless, my grandparents kept protecting me, and the older I grew up, the more I couldn’t live without my grandparents. When I was always denied, they were protecting me and did not make me feel inferior so much that I couldn't go out.

When my parents scold me, my grandmother will also take out a passbook to refute her when she quarrels with them. "You don't have to worry about Xiaobao's future. I will use my pension to support him." Grandma was so humble for me.

[My parents each formed a new home]

In the third year of vocational high school, my parents rarely took me out to play at the same time. My father was unwilling to mention to others that I had been to vocational high school, and he would not come to school to see me.

During the holidays, my mother rarely takes me back to my grandparents’ house. Even though my grandparents miss me very much, my mother doesn’t want me to go back. My mother is such a proud person, how could she bear the sympathy or ridiculous look of others?

After graduating from vocational high school, I wandered in society for a while. I went to work in a first-tier city and also traveled to Yunnan for a while, traveling while working.

I will send my mother what I saw and heard in Yunnan, but my mother has always despised me for being unsuccessful and called me wasted her time and youth. If it weren't for me, my mother's life wouldn't be so miserable and wouldn't have become a topic of conversation in the office.

My relationship with my parents has never eased since junior high school. Later, my mother remarried and I didn’t let me attend the wedding, even though I was 20 years old at that time and was completely an adult.

Mom has always been strong and never gives in. She would not trap her own steps for me, nor would she force herself to remarry my father for the sake of my grandparents’ expectations. It was entirely her own freedom to choose to remarry.

My dad remarried later, and the other party was a DINKist. My father’s remarriage partner is Zhou, and I call her Aunt Zhou. Aunt Zhou and my dad are together just to keep their parents closed their eyes with peace of mind.

Even if it is as good as my parents, there is nothing to do. So, I, a vocational high school graduate, have the qualifications to blame others?

[Not a smart child can be loved]

Two years ago, I returned home from Yunnan and opened a pet store in my hometown. I have loved cats and dogs since I was a child, but I can only play with kittens by my grandparents. My parents would object to anything that has nothing to do with learning.

My pet store, two small floors. Pet supplies are operated downstairs, and upstairs is a foster care area.

Grandpa and grandma spent a lot of savings to help me open this store. My grandma asked me to save money from working in Yunnan to be my wife.

My parents never came to the pet store to see me once, and I knew I was embarrassing them again.

Dad and mom are doing so well in the workplace, but I can only wander around and finally make a living by opening a small pet shop.

Grandpa and grandma don’t have many requirements for me, as long as I am safe and sound. When I was working in Yunnan, my grandparents had visited me several times. The couple sighed that Yunnan was beautiful and agreed to stay in Dali every year for a while.

Now that I have my own small career, my grandparents will help keep the store. I couldn't bear to see them working hard, so they brought me food and fruit.

The leaves of sycamore on the street have fallen all over the ground these days, and the Samoyed on the upstairs likes to chase the leaves.

"Look at this big white dog, you are not smart at all, and you can even tear the house. The owner loves it differently." Grandma kept comforting me and advised me to relax.

I have gained spiritual sustenance in many pets and understand the love of my grandparents better. It is not a smart child who deserves to be loved, and not all parents will be trapped by their children for a lifetime.

[Life Insights]

When I was a child, I was particularly afraid of my parents quarrels because all the conflicts were caused by me.

After they divorced, I cried and also staged a scene of running away from home. But life should not be only possible. If they continue to live together, they will inevitably end up being separated.

Maybe, my fate with my parents is really shallow.

Maybe, I will have a stupid child in the future. But I won’t force my children to study. If they don’t have the talent for learning, it’s good to be an ordinary person.