In the past, when people reached a certain age, they would begin to get married one after another. I won’t think so much, I will just rush forward directly, feeling that everything seems to be like this. Young people today do not seem to have such enthusiasm for marriage.

In the past, when people reached a certain age, they would begin to get into marriage one after another.

won't think so much, but will just rush forward directly, feeling that everything seems to be like this.

Nowadays, young people do not seem to have such enthusiasm for marriage.

On the one hand, I still want marriage in my heart, and I also want to be able to live with someone and live a happy life. On the other hand, I will be more afraid of getting married, and even dare not get married.

When you are single, you will not dare to love easily and will not let yourself easily enter a relationship. Even if one day you fall in love, you will still be very anxious on the eve of your marriage and feel particularly scared.

This seems to be an abnormal phenomenon, but it is also a very common existence.

So, why young people are so timid, there is no reason for this.

I have seen too many misfortunes and am worried.

In the past, many marriages were not very good, and there were many unsettling things. However, at that time, the information was underdeveloped, the news was blocked, and there were too many tragedies that more people would not know.

At present, no matter which city it is, once domestic violence occurs, two people make various calculations, one hurts the other, and everyone knows it all at once through the Internet.

This also leads to the fact that even though they are only in their twenties, young people have seen too many sadness and misfortunes of marriage through the Internet.

In addition, many people have never grown up in a harmonious family, and their parents' relationship may not be that good. Even some of their peers around them may not be so happy after getting married. This is another impact for young people.

So early on, even though I have never been in love and have never entered into marriage, my impression of marriage is no longer very good.

won’t feel that everything will be happy after getting married, but instead, you will only feel that the marriage is bad and will only make yourself miserable.

Once you have such an idea, you will really become less yearning for marriage. Even if you still yearn for it, you will not dare to touch love easily and make a lifelong life with someone.

is really worried because I am afraid that as I am living later, I will start to fall into the abyss, leaving only numbness.

has no confidence in myself and is afraid that I will not handle it well.

Getting married is just a simple way to get a certificate with the other party, hold a wedding, and live under the same roof.

But in fact, everything has never been that easy, it is much more complicated than this.

needs to face the trivial matters at home, handle a lot of housework, maintain the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between the two families, make money to support the family, be responsible for each other's life, raise offspring, and take care of children to grow up.

Everything, day after day, is really not easy, you need to take on a lot of responsibility and give a lot of effort.

For all these things, many people really don’t believe that they can do it well and can handle it, and they don’t want to make their lives at all, because marrying someone makes it a mess, so complicated and cumbersome.

Because I know too well what I look like, I feel lazy and afraid of trouble, and I don’t have that superpower at all.

So, in comparison, I feel that living alone seems to be a little better and simpler, and I dare not try it easily.

After all, if you really get to that point and find that you really can't do it well, you will feel regretful and want to turn back, it will be too late. Even if you can still choose to leave, you will definitely have to pay a lot of money and will suffer a lot of harm from this.

lacks security and does not trust the other party enough.

I think, if you can meet a really good person, you can really feel the other person's firm love, be happy with each other, and see the future through each other, then you may be more confident and marry each other.

However, such love is too rare after all, and it is completely hard to come by.

In this world, few people can meet someone who is so satisfied and loves himself, and they must be themselves, and they especially spoil him.

Deep down in your heart, you don’t believe that you can really meet such a person, feel that you are not worthy of such love, and you don’t have anything to do with that kind of love.

I don’t believe that someone will love you so much. When you fall in love one day, the person you meet may not really like you so much, and you are not very good to you. You can’t feel it from the other person in the future.

Between you, you will definitely be happy than if you think you choose the other person. Instead, you are often just worried about gains and losses, and are very uneasy. You feel that the other person may change his mind at any time and will not cherish you at all.

When you can’t find that sense of belonging from the other person and don’t believe that the other person can bring you happiness, you will naturally be very scared.

dare not easily tie the rest of his life with someone, always thinking that if he takes that step, it will be very bad in the future.

Why do young people be so afraid of getting married and even dare not enter marriage? It is marriage, not that good, it is themselves, not confident enough, and not trusting enough about their partners.

If you get married, you will only live worse and worse than one person, then many people will of course choose to refuse.

From the beginning, he only wandered outside of marriage and was not willing to let himself step on easily.

is not willing to marry anyone at all, and he doesn’t even dare to start a relationship with anyone at all.

will only shrink itself into its shell, into its own small world, protecting itself in a defensive posture.

Although you will be a little lonely when you live like this, at least everything will not get out of control. Everything will be at your control.

Originally, it would be too difficult to control others and control a relationship. If it were just yourself, it would be much simpler.

text/Tan Meng

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